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Some of you may have read my last post about a guy i've been seeing (here's the link if ya wanna read) Anyway, I've did it, i'm sick of him treating me like a fool, I've told him to just leave me alone, blocked him on IM and deleted his phone number! I wanna new start, I wanna guy who's NOTHING like him. I feel properly happy for the first time since I met him

Easier said than done. I know that if I ignore him like he does me, he'll just come round and make me like him even though I shouldn't. And reminders of him in my house: the lovely cd he made me of our songs, the roses he bought me, the photos. Im sad

He finished with her. He wasn't happy, he didn't feel the spark anymore..apparently. And they still live together because they had a joint mortgage, and he only just got it put into his name. So she's looking for somewhere to live and will move out in March. This is what he tells me, it could be the truth, it could be a pack of lies. Only he knows!

His ex only has something to do with it because he doesn't wanna lie to me and he also doesn't wanna rub her nose in it by bringing me home. We've been friends for 10 months, and we decided to move our relationship on a bit. But you're both right. Ahh I dunno what to do. I like him, I think he likes me, but I do think that when we aren't together, he's like...up to something. I do think him and his ex are still together. But now I've met him and been dating him, I don't wanna lose that!!! This hurts. I'm gonna give up for a while and let him come to me.

This could be quite long, and I apologise, but a lot of things have happened these passed few weeks and I would like some points of view on my situation! Well I met this guy online about 10 months ago, we talked, exchanged numbers, talked for a while but then lost touch. Then in Novemberish time, we started texting again, getting closer and decided to meet up. I guess it was a big step to meet someone online who may or may not be who they say they are. But this guy was who he said he was We just clicked straight away, I felt so comfortable with him. Then I found out that he still lived with his ex gf. Apparently she's moving out in March. I was a bit concerned about this. My first thought was "they're still together" but he explained the situation and I guess I had to be okay with it if I wanted to see him again. Also, if they were still together, would he really be spending this much time with me and this much money on me?! This problem sorta pushed us apart a bit. He said he couldn't be more than friends with me while his ex is still around, he needed to sort things. Fair enough, I see the logic in that. One night before he came to pick me up, I received a text message from his number (unsure what it said now) but it was like he was texting his gf. I text back saying "Wrong person?" and he replied saying it was his friend who was annoyed that he was coming out with me and not going out with him. I was really annoyed at this point, I didn't know whether to believe him or not and we had a little argument, but he proved that it was his friend and apologised and we made up! Since then we've had our ups and downs. We have some amazing dates and then sometimes he cancels on me and ignores my e-mails and texts. This annoyes me. Then today, we had plans but he was unable to make it because he's away. I said I understood and he said we could do something another day this week. Okay, fair enough!! But he said something which got to me a bit, he said something along the lines of "i think you expect mor from me than I can give" and to be honest, I do. I want us to be together so much. Even though he needs to sort things before anything progresses, he has led me on....maybe I did make a big mistake sleeping with him, but it's not like he hasn't been in touch since. When he took me home the night we slept together, about 10 minutes later he text me saying "I don't regret making love to you tonight". Things like this really make me like him more and more. And it feels like nothing will ever progress. I'm scared that I'm wasting time on him and that I'm gonna get my heart broken. He says he doesn't want to leave it but right now we can't be more than friends. We both don't wanna lose what we have, but I'm scared that I'm gonna get hurt. I truly like this guy, he is the sweetest, most caring, funny, gorgeous guy I've ever met I think about him 24/7. When I see him, get an e-mail/text/phonecall from him, my heart skips a beat. When he says sweet things and when I see him I get butterflies and when we kiss and get close, it feels like fireworks going off in my tummy!! The first time we kissed, he said he felt this as well things can be so amazing with us. But then there's the ex gf problem, and the ignoring problem. I'm just so confused! I guess I should back off a bit, give him some space and let him come to me, rather than me going to him. We're meant to be meeting up on Wednesday, so what I propose to do, is make myself look drop dead gorgeous and make him see what he's missing. I really don't wanna lose this guy, but should I be willing to be friends and wait around for him, when I have no reassurance that anything is ever going to progress? Sorry for long and confusing post, my thoughts just kinda came running out and I needed to get it all off my chest!! Opinions greatly needed, thanks in advance x

anyone else??

Forgot to mention, they have defo broken up, because I've spoken to his friend about it, and apparently I'm all he talks about. And the only reason they are still living together is that they have a joint mortgage, which he is currently changing to have is his name only. But I don't know. She doesn't know about me because they both decided it would be best if they didn't talk about other relationships... The old him is dead and buried (him cheating) it has been 5 years and he's grown up a lot but I'm still a bit unsure. Babybees when you said "But after I found out about his ex-gf...he started to become flakey to the dates and stuff... he showed so much to me that he was a player. So he was out of my list!!" My guy TOLD me because he didn't want to lie to me..and even after he told me he didn't become flakey or whatever, if anything, he's become more into it...he seems to want to talk to me more, see me more and just be with me. That's what's confusing me ahh i dunno what to do!

I'm gonna apologise now, this may be a bit of a long story. Where to start...at the beginning I guess, here it goes. I've been dating this guy for a while. I've known him for about 9 months, but only started dating a short while ago. We get on amazingly. We've both admitted how much we like each other and how we get butterflies when we are together. Then, I found out that he still lived with his ex gf. He told me the full story, saying that they broke up and she's moving out in March when everything with the house was sorted. I dunno how I feel about this, because he's never taken me to his house before, so he could still actually be with her, but just lying to me. He's told me about his past, I won't go into details but he's done some pretty sick things with his friends before..sleeping with MANY girls whilst he was in a relationship. This totally got me thinking that he could still be with his girlfriend. But I asked him this and he explained the full story again. I dunno what to do, cos I really really like this guy. We have chemistry, as soon as we met we clicked. I just now have a few doubts, I do trust him, I'm just worried. He told me before we make anything official between us, he has to sort things in his life e.g. getting the ex to move out and getting over that big step. I understand this. He says he doesn't want to lead me on, but when we are together, we just can't resist each other. We have so much fun, every date is special and we talk all of the time. He does the sweetest little things, like sends me a lovely e-mail out of the blue, or sends me a picture, leaves me cute little voicemail messages, sings songs to me, makes me a cd of love songs, tells me I'm amazing...but i'm worried this could all be charm, him trying to get what he wants. But he said if that was all he wanted, he wouldn't spend this much time with me, thinking about me, taking me everywhere and just talkng to me - if sex is all he would have wanted he could have just got it like wham bam lol! I dunno what to think though. I'm scared that he is lying to me and that I'm gonna end up getting hurt. But then I think, would he really do that? I mean he spends a lot of time with me, and when we aren't together we are on the phone, e-mailing or texting. He also tells me that he doesn't ever want to hurt me and that he wouldn't lie to me. He just has to sort things in his head before anything happens. Then things happen between us when we are together and it just complicates things in my head even more. What do you guys think? Ditch him or wait around? Considering I really like him, I dunno what to do.... Thanks i advance

Just a little question here. I've recently met a guy who I get along really well with (met him through a friend online, never met him in real life yet). & we want to meet up with each other, but I'm scared! But anyway that's not the point. I'm 18 and he's 23, do you think that the age gap is too big? I like him but i'm worried that he will think I'm just a little kid! Opinions anyone?

What happens if this guy isn't who I think he is? What should I do?

Tonight, my boyfriend finished with me. It was a long time coming to be perfectly honest. We weren't communicating, went for days without having a conversation (I tried, he didn't want to talk). So now, it's over. In a way, its a bit of a relief. It was a long distance relationship so it was hard anyway, so now I can take a step back and get back to normal. Don't get me wrong, I'm upset, very upset because I love this guy lots, he's a great friend as well, but now he's thrown it all away. I'm not gonna waste my time trying to persude him to get back together, I'm not gonna contact him. What I AM gonna do is be happy. These things happy for a reason. Hopefully we can be friends, in the future of course, we both need time to ourselves, to get back to normal. I'm pretty scared how calm I'm being. I mean, this guy meant the world to me, now i've lost him, probably forever, and I'm ok. Perhaps I just knew he wasn't "The One". Another reason is, since me and my now ex boyfriend haven't been talking to each other much, I've started talking to this other guy a lot. Being honest, I don't know him in real life. I know him online. He lives near me though. We talk a lot, text a lot and he leaves cute little voicemail messages on my phone. He makes me smile. We were gonna meet up, but i felt like i would be cheating, but now I can cos im single. The only worry is, what if he's not who he says he is? I don't trust people easily, so I'm very wary in case he's like a 50 year old man or even a woman...or worse, a friend taking the mick!! What do people think? Is it too soon to date again? People out there going through a break up, just be happy, be strong, you'll be OK

Arghh i've spoken to him and he says he's "scared..loves me but doesn't wanna lose me". well doing this IS making him lose me. fool.

Yup he has...once before I think. And it makes it even harder that we live so far apart so if he doesn't reply to my texts I can't just go around to see him cos it would take 3/4 hours!! What tops it off is that he sits and talks to his "first kiss and best friend" everyday on MySpace and says "love you" yet he can't even leave me one little comment. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR lol

I listen though. He knows how much I love him and he said he loves me and now he just does talk to me, it's been a week since he last spoke to me and I've tried to get in contact but he never responds!

He's fine. I know he is because he's been online, updated his profiles etc. And I also know his phone is working as a mutual friend has told me he has spoken to him. I'm giving up. Gonna let him make the first move!

We were together for a few months last year, then we broke up but been very close since march this year..2getha since august. We live about 3/4 hours away from each other by train...

I haven't posted on here for a while..I guess I haven't had any problems because everything was going amazingly up until now. I saw my boyfriend the other week (long distance relationship) and I guess everything was ok, we hadn't seen each other in AGESSS so at first he was all quiet but we got past that. Now, I'm home and he just flatly ignores me. Doesn't answer his phone, doesn't reply to messages I don't know what I've done wrong! 5 days ago we were both so happy and now I'm so sad!! Do you think he's decided he just doesn't love me anymore? Insight anyone?

I know. He's done this before as well, when he "needed space"...so I gave him a month worth of space. Then things were GREAT but now he's gone back to that. I'm just gonna leave it, get on with my life. If he decides to talk to me, I'll think about responding! But if not, then there is plenty more fish in the sea!!

It's kinda complicated...on and off for over a year now. I had a 3 month relationship in between.

I think it's over between me and my boyfriend.. This could be a longish post, so I apologise but your views will be much appreciated! OK, so, on Monday, my boyfriend text me asking me if he could phone me. I had to text back and say no because I was at work, reallly busy but I said he could ring me at 5 o clock, after work, if he wanted to. He didn't reply. 5 o clock comes and goes...I don't do anything. I think I may have text him once to say goodnight but that's all. All on Tuesday I hear nothing. I don't text him either...I don't wanna seem clingy! So, Tuesday night, i log onto MSN and he's online so I decide, OK, speak to him. So I opened up a conversation and said "hey"...I get no reply. Then I log onto Myspace...notice that he's on and having a chat via comments to his "first kiss". OK, now I'm thinking he's ignoring me! I just happen to read what they are talking about. I mean, wouldn't everyone read!? So, his "first kiss" is calling him "baby" and he left her a comment saying "love you even though you are nasty to me!". By this time I'm starting to get annoyed. Should he be saying this to a girl when he has a girlfriend? NO! He's still ignoring me on MSN so I talk to a mutual friend who tells me to leave him a message telling him how I feel. So I do. I say "Hey. OK, I dunno if I've done something wrong, or you are ignoring me, or you're just not there but I'm gonna say this anyway. Recently I've felt like we are growing apart, we don't speak anymore, you don't seem like you have time for me. Yet you have time for your friends and going out! You even ignore my Myspace comments, yet you sit and have a conversation with other people. Have I done something to you? Or is there someone else or something? You could at least let me know, because I do love you, but if I have done something I want to make it better, or if there is someone else, I would like to know so I can get on with it. Just please let me know 'cos you ignoring me AGAIN is driving me crazy because I love you..just remember that. But if you keep going on ignoring me then it's not a proper relationship so we might as well be over. I don't wanna be but that's how things go. I'll always care for you though, if we do break up. x x x" I showed this to our mutual friend who said that was good and to see if he says anything. So about 2 mins later my (ex?) boyfriend logs off MSN. So basically he probs read it, thought "I can't be bothered with this" and logged out. I feel pretty crap. I didn't hear anything all day today, and he's not online (blocked me perhaps?). I dunno what to do. Do you think it's over? I'm gonna see him in 2 weeks (longdistance relationship by the way!) and I don't want things to be strange! I just dunno what to do Views? Thanks for reading my post x Blondy x

Lol, thanks friscodj...don't worry. I haven't drank alcohol or been out for about 2 months!

*Sigh*...One minute everything is fine then WHAM everything changes!! Sorry if this is a long, boring and complicated post! As some of you may know, I got back with my baby the other day!!!! I was so happy! But it's started again the not contacting. He was on MSN and told me he had left his mobile phone at his friends' house again so he couldn't reply. OK. Fair enough! But before, when I logged onto MSN he immediately set his status as "Away" then when I logged in again, he immediately went offline!! We have barely spoken and I'm meant to be seeing him soon but this not speaking is really getting me down I want us to talk and work things out but right now it feels like he hasn't got any time for me yet he has time for his friends and to go out drinking *sigh* Another problem is with my ex (my "first")! We are in contact, as friends, but recently he's been asking me for sex. And I have actually considered it even though I shouldn't. Of course I still love him, I always will but I now realise that I can't do anything with him because I would feel used and would get hurt all over again. But he won't stop asking, even if I say no and make it clear hmm I still wanna be his friend though! Last problemo is that there is this guy who I kinda know (met on a very drunk night...haven't seen each other since - nothing happened we just chatted!). We chat a bit, texts and e-mails and he said he really likes me and wants to meet up. He is 8 years older than me though my parents would NEVER agree with it. I like him, but I don't see us going anywhere. How can I let him down gently without hurting his feelings and still be able to be friends? The main problem is my bf...because I love him so much and don't wanna lose him, I think he feels the same way but he just needs to make an effort! What should I do? Any advice? x Blondy x

And I Am So Happy. We Had A Long Chat And Decided To Work Through Our Problems Because We Have Missed Each Other A Lot And Still Love Each Other. He Apologised For Being Like He Was Being And I Apologised For Being All Annoying And Clingy He's So Amazing, I've Missed Him Soo Much Talking To Him Made These Last Few Weeks Just Float Away! I Hope It Works Out. I'm So Happy

Yehh it is

It just seems cowardly...like you're too scared to do it face to face. It is a bit harsh as well. It's like...you don't care how the other person feels. One of my ex's finished with me over text and it just seemed so childish, the fact that he couldn't do it to my face hurt me even more. It's like I was nothing, I deserved no respect. I hated him for it. So yes, I suspect he does hate you!