juls28
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this is tough.... I don't know really. I am in the same boat though. sometimes it feels like just not calling is better than the unexpected.....you know? I want to call to. I had to change my number because my ex kept calling (even though he didn't want to get back together). I feel that not calling is working for me right now and just because I feel the initial benefits of it (confidence,control, peace) I can't just go back. at least not for a while . a month is a long time without contact.....give yourself a little more time ,though. you may be on the brink of something wonderful. something you'll find out about yourself.... good luck
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before everyone says ,"no" in unison,listen...my BF of 5 years broke up with me and I was in terrible pain . I had to have my phone number changed and email changed becasue he wouldn't stop contacting. he wanted to call and talk about whatever but he knew I wanted to get back together and he didn't. it's been a week and I feel bad that he is going to hear/already heard about the number change from the operator messege. I am feeling a little better and have a clearer head on me. I won't give him the new number if I call , but should I give him a goodbye at least from another phone?
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that dream is hilareous!!!! I know exactly what you mean. you know what? if you have dreams like that then it shows you have a great sense of humor and that is SO important! I feel for you,baby. living right next door to your ex must be excruciateing! the curtains, the peephole,jeez! you're in the trenches right now.... at least my ex lives in another city, and as painful as that is in it's own way , I don't know how I could cope with your situation. good luck. stay focused and keep your eyes on the prize: to feel better about yourself and life and move on and have him wish he never made the mistake of leaving someone who has such funny dreams.
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you're too yougn to be in a relationship that was only good for the first 7 months or so...then what? the only-alright last 8 monthes? cut off contact. I recently had to have my phone number changed becasue my ex wouldn't stop calling, even though he didn't know what he wanted. that kind of indescion is so painful when you love someone. just take time for yourself. seriously, spoil yourself with a little more attention than usual. go have fun with your frineds and take up some new interests......it sounds so cheesy ,doesn't it? well, it works.....I'm haveing the first good day I've had in a month! good luck!
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so, my BF of five years and me broke up about a month ago. it's been horrible. at frist we said it would be a break but then we said no....it would be permanent. but i still don't know. he keeps calling to say he's sad and depressed , but when I ask, he doesn't want to get back together. it became too much. I got my phone number changed and got a new email address. but the new phone number doesn't begin until tomorrow so he wouldn't know yet. I looked on myspace today and his profile says he's "single "now. it hurt so bad. the thought of him looking for other girls makes me sick. it makes me take all of my short comings and I think that he is with someone or will find someone who doesn't have them. like there is this perfect girl with a perfect job.....I know it's normal to think this way but I need to move on. I want him to love me again, but it just hurts so much to thinnk he never will. HELP!!!
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it was really good of you to not answer his calls ,text messeges,ect. he sounds like he's acting like a baby. He crys to get what he wants,which is attention, and then ignores you when he get sit. what's wrong with saying "this is my girlfriend" when he talks about you? he should have done that. he should feel lucky that you ever paid attention to him. I bet you can do better than this one. I just had my number changed and my email as well. It helped me alot already. I feel I have more control. good luck.
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my ex is pulling the same crap. calling and begging to visit and then when I finally say yes he says " oh, you know what, we really shouldn't be doing that" it's his way of checking in on you, making sure he still has the option to come back to you, but also still stay single. if you want him back the best thing to do is not contact him. when he calls put on a brave face and pretend everything is fine and keep it brief. it makes my ex so crazy when I do this because his little game is back firing. I finally got my phone number changed this moring becasue enough is enough. I'm too old for these lame games
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guys mature so much slower than girls. he sounds like he's at about 21 right now. you sound like you are taking some steps to make your life better and you've started to feel the initial benefits of this, now you want to show him how far you've come. I wouldn't contact him. it's still early for you. focus on yourself. take your time. do new things. you'r too yougn to be wasteing time on this many relationship problems.
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my ex keeps calling.(we live in differnat cities) it hurts to talk to him because he doesn't want to get back together but I do and we both know it. he calls because he is lonely and depressed and all that and wants me to tell him the things that make him feel better. making him feel better baout being broken up makes me feel worse and I usually end up crying and in bad shape when we hang up. and he ends up feeling better. happy when I'm sad-sad when I'm happy. so I got my phone number changed. I got my email changed. please leave me a comment. even if it's short. I need to know if I should call him and tell him that I got it changed or just let him figure it out himself.or if this whole thing is a bad idea.
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I just broke up with my BF of 5 years. he kept saying he wanted to see what it was like to see other people, so I cut him loose, cause I'd rather not let the resentment build up.... he still calls me several times a week and says he's lonely and depressed and sad. he says " I love you" whenever he callsbut still doesn't want to get back together. I won't see him, and I won't call him....but I just need some advice on how to get through the day
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I feel like denial is getting me through the hard parts. but the worst part will be when I hear he's with someone else. I am banking on my long distance thing to keep me from knowing about it. I can't accept this, but I don't want to be a moron about this either. you're plan for NC and disappearing into your friends and work is ideal, though extremely difficult. sometimes I am dialing his number even though every bone in my body is like , "stop!" I know what you mean about the other one not being as upset. it drives me crazy. he says things like "well, I know how hard this is fo ryou..." what? we were serious for five years! it's only been a month. I know he's hurting because he calls and tells me how sad and upset he is...but then later pretends he wasn't.
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it's been a bad year, I think actually. something bad with relationships this year. nothing is working.
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I broke up with her...so why am I suffering so much??
juls28 replied to steve-0's topic in Breaking Up Advice
if you know she isn't the right girl then I would try to ride out the pain of the break up now and not prolong it any further..or have to do it agian later. your 24....you don't neccesarily have to find a seriuos life partner thing right now...but I guess if that's what your heart wants. I don't know it's hard to say. woody allen said " the heart wants what the heart wants" -
I was with Pete for five years. we met in college and before we started going out he had only ever dated his high school girlfrined, who he saw for about 4 years. He was 20 at the time, I was 24. now I'm 28 and he's 25. we broke up because he wants to see what it's like to be single and see other people. I'm still in school, he graduated. we live about 2 hours apart, which is another reason it's been hard. I told him we shouldn't talk if we are broken up but he calls me, he says he's upset and lonely. I try not to call him but sometimes I can't help it. we haven't seen each other since I went to get my stuff from his place a couple weeks ago. we've been broken up a month now. we said that this was just going to be a break but sometimes I'm not sure what he's really thinking. we both know that he has to do this in order to get past it. he thinks I had this wild and crazy early 20's or something, and I guess I sort of did. I love him so much and he says he loves me whenever we talk on the phone. The pain is so bad though. I just want to get back together. should I stop talking to him completely? should I try to move on and forget him? I know I sound pathetic. I don't know what else to do anymore