Kaspa

Ya man, shes rubben legs and tellin u not to go and u think u dont stand a chance. Thats ur problem right there, lack of confidence. Stop thinking, start acting. At least get her e-mail.

One thing with shyness is your scared to take chances. You gotta just not think and just act. Remember this. When your thinking of saying somthin to her or doing somthing, and you start to think, "Should I or Shouldn't I" Just shut ur damn head up and do it, instead of aksing those quesiotns in ur head, say this "Too late I did it." and then see what happens. You'll find you'll get past that shyness in no time, and she'll think your more interesting immediately. Because you'll seem confident, and chix dig confidence. I meen if your not saying anything completely stupid then whats the worst thing that can happen? I cant think of anything too bad? like take this scenario for example of what I did just about a motnh ago. I had a couple of friends over and my little sister whos only 1 grade lower had her friend over (her friend is really hot and ive had like a lfing with her before, done sum stuff once but never spoke of it again.) Any way her friend was taking a shower and me and my friends were like right out side the door hangen out on the stairs and my sister was way in my room listening to music, so she was out of the way. Right so my friend KC reminded me how the locks in my doors in my house can open just by like sticking a stick or close hanger in the hole and opening it, and he dares me to open up the door, pretending it was unlocked, and go "oh damn sorry...need a hand?" ahahaha so im like "yo that would be soo jokes" but i coudlnt do it, I was like thinking and discusing with him "should I, nah i cant, but what the worst that can happen? nah still im too shy." so my friend KC ses "shut the f*ck up and do it, you think too much, you wanna do it but ur too shy, so just throw ur self in the room, and see waht happens" so im like right on, dont think. I open up the door (my shower has liek clear fogged glass, so we like see her naked pretty much) she makes like a little squeel, i say "hey, need a hand" she goes "Jonathan, (thats my name) Shut the F*cking door!" ahahahah so i do, she comes out like 5 minutes later wit a towl on, just gives me an evil smile and ses "you stupid jerk, you knew i was in there.", lol that was it man. i didnt listen to my thouhgts, just acted, saw naked chick and had fun with no down side. you get me. So if u can apply this to ur daily living, in less stupid ways, then youll have a better time. Just stop thinking and start acting. Hit me back with what you think about this idea. good luck.

First of all how long were you going out with this boy? how much did he meen to you and why did he wanna break up? What's his name any way?

From what I read and figure, you had nothing wrong with you that caused this situation to unfold. Sorry I missed most of the chat, I got really sleepy, but ye totaly I agree with Sonjam. Good luck with everything, if you ever need some one to listen to you, just message me up!

After having a great time at the dance club and maybe having some drinks, (or if you alredy did this and my post is too late, just use this another time) Have her over to your house that night or one night. ONLY IF UVE BEEN HAVING A GOOD TIME, then seat her on the couch, walk over with a couple glasses of somthing to drink, maybe somthing bubbly, and play this song on your stereo or mp3 or what eva, the song is "Let's stay together" performed by Al Green. This mehtod is if you wanna set her in the mood and explore your relationship. Even if you don't get laid whitch isn't necesarily the goal, she'll still think it was really cute and romantic.

I was just gonna say the same thing while reading your problem. I don't advise drugs but as long as you don't do it too much or get addicted, weed can calm you down.

Send her an mp3 of the song "Let's stay together" performed by Al Green. It will explain exactly how you feel to her, maybe follow it with some sort of message about you wanna get together with her. The only thing is if you use this song, you can't use it again later to set the mood when your hangen out on your couch with her. It's a one time use per girl song, and it works every time.

I agree.

Is there any form of messenging then can send a song to play, like an mp3 or sumthin? cuz if there is i got an idea.

Worst that can happen is she wont except the e-mail. But if she figures she knows you by the e-mail then you'll be on the list. She'll ask how you got her e-mail and ull say from your friend, wright away it implies your interested. Only take that road if you want ot let her know your interested. You can of course always take the "I dunno, I thought u added me" road. That way you can blame it on fate that your on each others e-mail list and you can get to know her because of this weird accident.

Activity dates are good because they take your mind off having to think about what to talk about next. Depends on what your doing tho, can't be somthin corney or nothing, what kind of activities do you have in mind?

A long and touching story, and i read every word of it just in case your wondering, lol. Hmm that is strange, i highly doubt its about another girl too, in fact i woudlnt even consider it a factor. Pherpas what could have been part of the problem, is with his dad having heart problems and his mother gone taking care of her mother and how he takes care of his dad, and how you are one of his only real friends, perhaps he feels that all the people in his life that he loves and love him seem to be disapering or becoming distant, and if he feels out of love to give you but is yet very broken up about it and wants to remain friends, its because he does a have a problem where he feels he will not have enough of him self to give you and he does not want to lose you in a negative way. He alredy takes care of his dad so dearly because he wants to hold onto him and doesn't want him to go any where, so for him to lose you in any awkward way where you don't talk or in a negative way, where you never see eachother again, it would be too much for him. He does love you and does need you, but because of the emotional stress in his life for some reaosn he feels he wont be enough for oyu, so he fears the relationship wont last. So instead of risking losing the relationship and you as a friend, he is trying to break it off nicely because he still wants to be with you, if nothing else then a friend at least. And he gets very broken up about it because its hard for him to do because he DOES love you and he couldn't imagine to lose you as a perosn in his life. Now I don't know you guys so I can't tell how accurate I am here, but from the sounds of things, that coudl very well be the case. He obviously has an actual mental problem right now, due to the emotional stress he is currently experiencing. It's quit a paradox, it's almost as tho he's broken it off with you because he DOESN'T want to lose you, rather then most woudl try and stick together in that case. Tell me what you think of this or if i make any sense to you.

it'll make you go pee alot to flush it all out and the caffeinne free tea will give u more water and calm you down.

Well with you being the rebel in your dream, it could meen that you subconsciously want to be the rebel for once. Like you said your always the good girl and you get picked on. So maybe in your dream you are the rebel and u dont understand why but you have this dream because your subconscious mind is thinking that if you are the rebel and not the good girl then perhaps you will be "cooler" or treated better. Or perhaps subconcoiusly you've always wondered what it woudl be like if you were the rebel for once so you act it out in your dreams. Dreams are commenly made up of your subconscious mind doing what it wants to or doing somthing you've maybe imagined or wondered about but never actually thought or planned on doing it. But because it's a dream and anythings possibile and you are not conscious, meening consciously thinking, your subconscious has a chance to act out what it may always be thinking.

I think you would make a good writer, lol, you knwo like those odd cool crazy kinda books, that i like ot read, lol. Any ways also sounds negative, not quite sure what to tell u tho cuz im not quite sure waht ur problem is. sorry, maybe more specific detila woud help.

For starters what's this guys name and backround? just curious, helps you know a person, and how come you guys broke up in the first place? You sound like you had great times but you didn't list any exact problem, so what happened?

Decent hieght, big boobs, decent a*s and is either a little muscilar or has a few extra pounds. nuthin to worry about, i like a girl with a little meat on her bones.

If he's really meant for you, then you will one day be with him. If you find that your never with him then you cant bother sweating it, your not with him for a reaosn, if it were meant ot be it owudl be, if it weren't then hes insignificant except for a friend.

first of all i woudlnt worry about it, hes prolly exagerating and it doesnt matter any way, every ones different. but secondly it depends on how strong an orgasm it is, if u just jack ur self really quick it might only be 3, if u go for a long while using the sotp and go method then you get 5, or if sum bangen hot chik licks u good with a tongue studd then u might get 8, lol experiment if your that worried about it.

Clitoral will make you squirt cum maybe, if its strong enough and vaginal will leave you more numb or like u wanna have a pillow imbetween your legs, thats what my girl does.

Your first time generaly will hurt yes. But if youve been doing sexual things for a while then your worked in a little and it wont hurt as much or bleed as much if at all, but still unless you've used a dildo or a bottle or sumthin, i can only imagine that it will hurt a little at least.

Trust you'll know when you orgasm, try more stuff with stimulyzing the clit instead of penetrating the P****. Or like I suggested to sum one else in this section, get ur bf to rub your clit really fast with oone hand while fingering you witht he other, if it feels really good, try doing it for a while to see if you clmiax off it. oh ye and with the marbals thing, i dunno bout marbals, they are soo small, might get lost or sumthin, try suthin lil bigger and make sure its clean.

Try rubbing the clit with one hand and fingering her with the other, really fast, and if shes too dry then use a lubrication. Do this long enough and i she'll come, i did it to a chik who never orgasmed and it worked for her.

Ye when I was in grade 8 I remember going at it with this chik at a party and we were maken out and stuff and like yeah kind of rubbing ur selves together i guess with your cloths on, and my friend said "dude, Jon is haven dry sex with this chik!" lol so that was in grade 8 but I guess that what it is. I know that if I had a condom that woudl have led to real sex, so yeah, dry sex it is.

well how are you mastrubating? are you just sticking your fingers in you or are you playing with the clit. you should try just rubbing the clit to stimulate your self more before putten your fingers in you.