skeeter

bzborow.........what did u disagree with from all of the rest of the posters here? It seems to me you agreed to everything said here....

Whether CRUSH or not!!! Did you listen to what she said to you??? She said she doesn't want a bf at this time because she doesn't want to screw up her studies!!! Sounds clear to me....Why not you??? Besides honor her voice..... If she likes you then step back and see if she comes after you..... Stop chasing her!!! It's not worth it! When someone is really interested in you it will clearly show... It won't be a feeling that you have now. You can't make someone want you. You can't change a person! And a relationship is 50/50 give and take anything less then this will lead to failure. Don't get caught in a trap in which you think if you don't show her the attention that she won't like you. If she likes you she will find a way to show it to you regardless of her studies.

Dude you are dealing with an emotional roller coaster.... move forward...life is too short.........maturity isn't something that happens overnight...... You are young and need to keep your mind sane.... Don't chase something that runs away.

SOUNDS TO ME YOU DON'T KNOW HOW TO COMMUNICATE WHAT'S ON YOUR MIND WITH THE PERSON THAT IS ON YOUR MIND? if you are interested in someone then how could anyone here possibly tell you that she is interested in you. Surely sounds like she loved music and to dance. Also sounds like she liked to have a partner to dance with and because she is very friendly she will attempt to dance with anyone she chooses to dance with. It doesn't mean she wants you or likes you at all. So if you have an interest in her then ask her if she is single!!! If she says yes then ask her if she might be interested in going out sometime with you. If she says no then you have your answer if she says sure or yes then take it slow and get to know each other as friends first.

DSA.........you have done nothing wrong here........but do yourself a real big favor...continue with your path in moving on from here.... don't initiate the friendship to continue at this point. If it is meant to be it will be. I believe a relationship takes time to establish itself.... but you seem to have found it bumpy in such short time... Usually relationships start with fireworks...to keep the fireworks going is purely communication. If communication fails this early in a relationship whether just friends or more then that then it's just not worth the trouble in life. You will lose your self esteem over it if you don't just move on and forget it all. I also believe you will realize when the right woman enters your life for it is so overwhelmingly enjoyable that no matter what disagreements come to the surface there is always a way to clear them up with the right partner. I find most people aren't so honest with each other when they first get involved and in time alot of hidden things surface that cause problems. To really get to know someone well is to clearly tell them what your expectations are in life as a companion and you will see for yourself what their likes and dislikes are very quickly. To be trapped by falling in love before you actually know your partner real well is definitely common and for the most part very destructive. Can you go out and meet a woman and tell her from the get go you like a woman to be "A LADY IN THE STREET" and a "FREAK IN THE BED" LOL maybe sounds disrespectful but ya know what....If you really want that of a woman and you wait until you have both fallen in love with each other to tell her this then this is a pure example of "Trapped by Love"

j459.........I can understand your concern here. But you have to realize something here.... this girl if really interested would respond! Relationships are 50/50 give and take. If not then there really isn't a relationship to begin with. Being able to identify who is your friend and who is not comes from letting go sometimes and seeing if the other comes around. You will continue to drive yourself nuts over this if you continue to be the only one driving!!! The only really advice I can give here is back off.... She may be the nicest girl but if she can't say she wants you to leave her alone and yet she is just a listener then she is only being unfair to you. She may not want to hurt your feelings outright by saying to leave her alone but she is hurting them regardless. You can not control anyone in life. You can only be in control of your own. have you asked her if she wanted you to leave her alone? If she says no because she doesn't mind you telling her how you feel then she is just telling you what she thinks you want to hear and again doesn't want to hurt your feelings. This is usually an immature act and she will grow to be a manipulative type of woman because she can't be honest with herself. Do yourself a real BIG FAVOR.....it seems as though you can't go more then 3 days w/o trying to talk to her... well go find something you like doing and have done before you met her that you are happy with doing and leave her alone for as much as 2 weeks or more. If she contacts you then maybe you have something if not continue moving forward and get over it. If you do not learn how to accept this type of challenge then u will grow to have worse challenges the day you get married and ever get divorced. Learning to be independent and knowing that you can be and happy at it makes life less challenging. We can't expect that it is having a companion that makes life so wonderful and happy...b/c no relationship is ever guaranteed. You can't make anyone happy if you aren't happy yourself.

Cheers to you S4D!!!! REMEMBER THE VAGINA IS "GOD" TO MEN!!!!! IF YOU ARE GOING TO PERFORM ORALLY YOU MUST DO THE BEST TO IMITATE THE FEELING WE MEN FEEL FROM YOUR VAGINA!!! AND BELIEVE IT OR NOT GIVING HEAD CAN COME CLOSE IF DONE RIGHT. STROKING WITH THE HAND DOESN'T COME CLOSE. THE VAGINA IS SOFT TISSUE / MEMBRANE IT DOESN'T HAVE CONTROL TO SUCK ON THE HEAD OF OUR PENIS AND ANY CONTROL YOU MAY HAVE BY CONTRACTION WITH YOUR VAGINA IS SO SLIGHT AND YET FEELS GREAT BUT USE ANY TIGHT GRIPPING ACTION W/ HAND OR MOUTH ONLY DEFEATS THE GOOD FEELING! IT WILL PROLONG MY ORGASM FOR SURE!

I have to agree with Muneca...... Looks are only skin deep. If you feel you are a STUD and can get any attractive woman you want then go do it and get through this obstacle in your life. Some younger women like older guys for they feel more secure and know that older men have more experience and know how to be caring. But then all hell breaks loose when they no longer need your security and learned from you how to be mature and independent. You now aren't that so gorgeous attractive guy they first met and its time they get back into their own age group or even younger then themselves. Not all but its happening all around us... Same thing applies for men but I don't think it's near as high. You really need to get this physical attraction behind you because like a book you can't tell the story by its front cover. Who needs a trophey in life.... We all get old and we all age and change. Yes some stay pretty damn good looking all their lives but, you'll be fishing for the rest of your life if you continue to have this physical attraction hangup. If you do break off and go towards the physical thing.... take a good look at her mother and father. Are they attractive people and are they well fit. usually helps to determine if the kids have the potentials of gaining as they age. Also if you meet a physically attractive woman ask her if she cares about herself enough to want to stay physically fit for you for the rest of her life as long as you maintain your physique for her. Let her know you care about that. If she thinks anything wrong of you for feeling this way then she is not meant for you period. It's called ACCEPTANCE! We all have our expectations about our other half and if we can't be open and honest from the beginning then you will have problems in the future.

LONG DISTANCE.........HMMMMMMMMMM how about I live in USA and my faincee lives in the Philippines.... half way around the world. I met her online. Visited her after getting to know her for 5 months via, email, yahoo IM, Cell Phone calling and text messaging, and postal mailings. I stayed with her for 32 days in the Philippines and 3 days before I returned I proposed to her giving her an engagement ring and diamond earrings. It will be a year since we have been together this coming October. We continue to chat online and only once a week for the last 2 months because we are both working hard to start our future together. She will get her fiancee visa and come to the USA but this may not be until the end of 2005. So is this long distance and has the long distance DEFINITION been defined? When love is strong and it really is love then the distance is only a mind game to battle. You still have your independence in which you must rely on. You weren't born unto this world with a companion. You can't expect that to be happy is to have another in your life. You can't make other's happy if you aren't happy yourself. So, if you can be the independent person that you were as a youngster having fun with no responsibilities well then this is what you have to be while in a distant relationship in order to stay strong. Otherwise it won't last!!!!

Good suggestion Gogol...... I was the same way in my younger years. The hardest thing to overcome sometimes is shyness and what comes with shyness is knowing how to accept rejection. Being shy u miss out in life alot. We are all human and surely if eyes are locking there is interest from both. If you are an attractive girl and don't find it hard to meet guys or the type that approach you all the time then YES approach this guy for he is wishing in his mind that you would because he doesn't want you to turn him down if he approaches you first. Once you establish good communication and he feels comfortable approaching you thereafter then introduce him to your friends. Also talk to him about why he was shy to approach you and build his confidence letting him know that rejection is not always a bad thing. Once we have been able to break the ice in life and realize that just because we may find interest in someone doesn't always mean they will feel the same about us. But if you are both shy then how can u possibly find out if one of you don't make a move for the other!!!

EatZ that definitely was a great post! Lucky for you it was 2 months so can i make you feel better by saying you aren't the only male that has struggled with his emotions and felt the way you did being a male that you are. You are definitely not pathetic you are just you. Someone that has a heart for LOVE and when the love slipped away it hurt! Although I do have 2 kids and my marriage lasted 16 years maybe this is why it is nearly 2 years since the Ex asked for a divorce but we were struggling in the marriage for at least a year before that as well and I was hurting. I am finally and I mean finally moving forward after a long haul and all I can say is you are definitely right about finding what you enjoy most to do and forcing yourself to do them. TIME is what heals and the only way to speed the time is to occupy our mind with GOOD and not BAD. It's like working....days that are slow or boring leaves you starring at the clock all the time and depressing you to no return because you want so much just to get out of there and go home. But on those busy days that keep you going you can always remember being able to say to yourself, Where in the hell did the time go!!! Anyway cheers to you for I know exactly what you felt!

One important thing to remember is that there are very few relationships that end with both wanting it to end. Usually one gets hurt if not both. I have found it to be so true that emotional seperation as well as staying away is the best. To want to chase it or be near it only prolongs ur finding happiness within yourself to be able to move on and realize you can do it. It took me nearly a year to break free of my emotions and move on. I can still after almost 2 years now say it would be much easier to walk right back into the broken relationship but i have asked myself important questions. What happened, was i really happy in the relationship or did I suffer as well? I was with the same woman for 21 years and married to her for 16. It's not easy when your spouse wants a divorce because they saw something really wrong in your relationship before you did. Once you get past it all you will indeed be fine. I met my new fiancee online and she is from the Philippines. I am able to rebuild my independence while getting to know her because I am from the USA. My Ex still wants me in her life and yet has a boyfriend which is 11 years younger then her. I finally closed my doors and now staying totally away from her because I know it all so well that it just plays with your mind and creates a roller coaster ride with your emotions. Sure it is easy for her to be in love with someone else and still want me to be a part of her life but it's not good for me for I was the one hurt from the divorce. So let go and move on. Sounds easier then it really is and the only thing that helps is TIME!!!!

The best sensation comes from very moist lips and tongue. If you keep ur tongue extremely loose in ur mouth and allow his penis to feel as much of it as possible and go down on him using no suction you will create a similar feeling as ur vagina. The tighter you use your mouth around his penis the less sensitive it feels. You can hold the base with one hand but I prefer all mouth and tongue. Also if u are one to have a trained throat to allow the head of his penis to enter ur throat as far as u can then this is definitely a great feeling. Using suction tends to be too sensitive on the head causing discomfort. At least for me it does.

I much prefer to give my girl oral. 75% of women if not more never orgasm from male organ. So why just please urself. I enjoy going down on my girl its such a turn on watching her orgasm. She has such a strong orgasm she nearly squashes my head clamping her legs so tightly on it LOL. Her stomach gets extremely tight and starts spasm.

I have to agree with GeeGee......... play the same game or get out. Come over to my place I'd rather please a girl then to be pleased LOL Anyway u definitely are looking at future problems.... If he is willing to stick his tongue in ur mouth when that mouth of ur's has been down on many other guys before then he's not thinking to swiftly. Does he have any sort of hangup from the odor that a vagina can hold? Not saying u have any odor but, I know with me I can only tolerate a small amount.

Well if ur gf is not real sensitive then draw her clitoris into ur mouth via lip suction as far as u can and tongue it the best u can. Make sure you stay on the most sensitive spot of her clitoris. Ask her if you have to what feels best! Very important so she knows you care to know. Rectal fingering as well as vagina and keep ur fingers moist. Do not use same finger for both.

In my experience and I can't say its true for all women but the girls I've dated always got very tight in the abdominal area when they climaxed. Yes heavier breathing as well and usually when the orgasm is rather exhasberating they finish and want you to give them your organ

Do you talk your bf through the oral pleasure or are you silent? Sometimes talking may be distracting however, performance comes from experience. Sometimes experienced is learned by voice and not just that we expect each other how to please one another. Do you use any sex toys? Yes it can be very tiring after awhile. I have only come accross this a few times with my girl but always found ways around it either talking to her to find out what feels best or orally probing her rectum with finger while going down on her. When you say he hurts. Is this because his fingers are to rough? Dry skin maybe? It's always best that he wets his fingers first as well.

Alive I'd just like to say My sister was older then my Dad's girlfriend and I was only 1 yr behind her. At the time I was 26 and his gf was 27 and my sister was 30. It was awkward but, as adults and not teenagers we realize much quicker that it is my Dad's life and happiness so we as the children need to accept. If we could not then we are in essense trying to control Dad's life. If Dad is happy then he can make everyone else happy. You really can't make other's happy if you aren't happy yourself. Just be their friend and that is all. Never expect to be anything else. if they ask for your advice or want to look up to you in the future then you will know what to do. If they make you feel uncomfortable you need to be strong for yourself as well as their father. Don't be intimidated by it. If your bf loves his children he will know how to deal with them. Good Luck to you!