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Oh Yeah, and this is for Shawty1 who posted in this thread, well, girl, you are what, 15??? ok that's fine you can start experimenting at that age it's a beautiful thing, just make sure you trust this guy and if you don't know what you're doing down there and you wanna give it a try just make sure you DO NOT USE YOUR TEETH !!! try licking the balls for starters cuz that's kinda fun... as for him saying not gonna do you but you do him?? hmmmmm see that is the problem people!! you can't do that IT'S JUST NOT RIGHT!! eye for an eye that is my philosophy, you give what you get and get what you give. if you boys out there are AFRAID to go down on a girl for whatever reason, then for the love of God, at least finger her and find her G-spot!! At least that will give her some pleasure you know??

Hey people !! Wow I just want to say how much I appreciate all of your responses to this dilemma... well ok here is what I have concluded after reading the responses... Yes, he is insecure there is no doubt about it. He has never done it before and due to my sexual history he knows i've gotten it done and orgasm'd from it in the past. To boot, he is kinda younger than me by a number of years, and yeah that is putting some strain on the relationship, although before we got involved he assured me that my age did not bother him and I was willing to take a chance on a younger guy. I won't dump him over this because that is lame. I just don't want him to project his hidden feelings of inadequecy and perhaps thinking i'm some sort of "slut" onto this relationship!! Ok, lots of guys they want the BJ but they don't wanna give it back, and I just think that is really LAME!! Once you boys out there understand how much pleasure it can give a woman, then maybe you will change your tune... But hey, it's not the end all and be all of a relationship the whole oral sex thing and I can take it or leave it... By the way, I NEVER NEVER NEVER brag about my past exploits, are you crazy?? Why would I do that?? In fact, he is a wonderful lover and I enjoy every moment with him, in and out of the bedroom!!! All this to say that you all have given me some VALUABLE insight and for the record we are both STD - FREE (I don't get involved with someone before I know their status got that??) - If any guys out there wanna talk more about actually going down on a girl let me know I have no problem discussing it furthur. Bottom line is , i like this guy a lot so i'm gonna give it more time but i have a big feeling he is not gonna be going down there anytime soon ... which is a big shame but i will focus on building up his confidence maybe that will help!!!!

Hey!! The G-spot exists and once you locate it on your gf, keep that memory because when a woman's g-spot is being handled correctly, it is one of the most amazing sensations ever!! Just insert your finger in the vagina gently and start feeling around for a spongy-like area on the front part of the vaginal canal, start massaging it gently with your finger print and voila, she'll be in extasy... you'll know you hit it when that look of surprise comes over her and her eyes begin to roll back a little!! Ask her if the motion of your finger should be faster, slower, then when you hit the right rhythm, keep going til she orgasms... do this before intercourse and you will have yourself a very sexually satisfied woman!!

hey guys thanks for posting - for the record I AM SOOOO CLEAN!! I HAVE BEEN TESTED and i have always been responsible so there are no worries there - he has no problem having unprotected sex with me and he KNOWS I'M CLEAN!!! That said -- any more opinions out there?

WOW THIS IS A TOUGH ONE... why? well because when we feel like we have no friends we also feel like the whole world f'in sucks!! And believe me, everyone feels that way at one point or another! But no matter what you do, please do not get involved with the whole drugs, drinking thing... Don't even smoke cigarettes just to be part of a crowd because honestly that is a sign of real insecurity right there!! Hey you seem like a very well grounded individual but you are lacking some confidence right now. And the whole thing about backstabbing, that is gonna happen to anyone, all the time no matter what. People like to talk, and lie, and be jerks. That is just human nature in a messed up kind of way. What is difficult is rising above all that and being true to yourself, which I think you are doing. Go about your business, and make contact with like-minded people, and just have friendly conversation with them without any expectations of a wonderful friendship emerging because wonderful friendships take time to grow so focus on relaxing around others and give off the attitude that you can take it or leave it and there is NO PRESSURE!! Be a cool cat, enjoy conversations but don't make people feel uncomfortable by standing too close or staring at their face too much - You hear me? Cool, well I hope that helps out, if not, post back and I'll try to help some more!

What is up with this, my new boyfriend won't give me oral sex even though he just can't get enough of my giving to him... his reasoning is as follows: he has been with a very low number of past sexual partners, and I have been with a relatively high number (in his opinion). He feels my number is too high and explains that he cannot bring himself to give me oral sex due to how many other people "have been there before" he has! Now, this is making me feel pretty awful! Is this something I should just accept about our relationship? After all, it's my fault for having slept with such a "high" number of people before I met this guy, right? Or, is this completely immature on his part? Should it or should it not matter to him how many people I've been with in the past? He admits it bothers him ALOT and I admit the number is high (compared to him), but I can't change that, and besides, it's in the past!! Any advice out there for me?? I could really use some because part of me says: dump him I don't need this and another part of me says: well, he does have a point!!