piscesprincess

Love takes time to develope. It is ellusive. Quite simply: cannot be talked about, but felt. It comes and goes, it's not always and forever. It's not about romance, flowers, and candy- that's only part: Love is also work.

That woobiegirl & Beec...Trust me I will be careful & not rush into anything. True, physical attraction is important- I ama true believer that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I'm decent looking. I tried getting my pic on this site, but ther seems to be a problem. My ex- was extremely jealous. he felt that other guys 'looked at me too much'. I am the opposite, I guess we were just too opposite, amoung other things. The irony is, we awill remain friends after all the bs, we have gone through. In my next relationship, there will be no more baggage Thanks again you two

One more thing, I just ended a 3 year relationship with the guy I have been posting about! No more complaining- I am free- the shackles have been cut-off

Currently, I signed upmon link removed I got one match so far- it seems that without meeting this persona we have so many things in common, which is great. I was just wondering on long- term success...I'm sick of meeting guys that only want my body. That's why I joined- although I posted a few pics b/c physical aattraction is important too, but not the most. Anyone else, join a dating service?

I sympathize with you totally. Coming from a broken home myself & falling in love with a binge drinker (read my posts). My mother was bi-polar. As a kid all I knew is she had bad mood swings. I havn't lived with her since I was 7 years old, but we have recently began talking ont he phone. At least you have a good father. Mine was a degenerate alcoholic who flirted with other women in front of me- who i blame for my 'guy issues' ontop of the abuse he inflicted upon my mother and me. I guess we learn to forgve. But, never forget. I do not hate my mother, in fact, I resmble her alot in appearance. However. we are not two peas in a pod. Dad can go to the for all I care...no man should ever lay a hand on a woman- nuff said.

Many people don't know how to tackle a bad breakup, much less death. I am not a relationship expert, but a sympathetic individual who feels deeply for you in this plight. You can't change the way someone feels about you so there is no use taking it to heart. She was with you for 4 years and is till your friend- at least she loved you. It must be alot for her to take in, she is probably scared. What she did seems selfish, although, you didn't talk much about who she is rather what she has done. Optimism is key for you. A positive train of thought will help you through this difficult time. Never stop loving (her) even if you feel pain (even hatred) afterall, you are only human- there is only so much we can take. Stay strong & think positive

It is best to get involved w/someone when you are at the best mental state possible. So you have low self esteem b/c of your appearance- at 17, it is normal to feel awkward & insecure about yourself. We can just tell you to be confident, however, the mind doesn't work like that. If you have been shy all your life, this makes approaching females much worse. As a 'decen' looking female, yes, men of all types have asked me out. I have liked heavy-set guys as long as they have a healthy sense of self...nobody wants to date an emotional 'mess'. Maybe you should go for an older woman- I remember being that age in Highschool, I was always nice, but there are alot of shallow b---hes in HS.

The more you think about 'cheating', 'infidelity' and unfaithfulness- the more you will be PARANOID. It happens to the best of us. The mind is extremely powerful. I'm not a neuro-scientist, but, it is common knowledge that we can condition our minds to think anyway we choose. It is up to us females to think positive, if not for our mates, then for ourselves. Let's just say, as much as you worry about him cheating, until you have come face to face with lust yourself, it is just theory. Nobody is perfect. Looking back at my mistake, I agree that it is disgusting. I am not married, that is much worse. Even as girlfriend and boyfriend (or whoever), we have an obligation to choose monogamy. There are alot of STD's out there people. Don't forget AIDS. You don't have to abstain from sex altogether...just use protection and be discerning about who you choose to sleep with- less is more on this situation. And have fun too.

Time, time, and more time. Yes, make memories, you will be surprised how fast a year goes by when you are in love! Through ups and downs if it is true, just do all you can do to make her secure with your intentions. In time, you may lose the initial "fire". Actually, if the person is right for you, a spark will always be there even if it is not as strong as when you first started out. Always keep in mind that love is a rollercoaster. You are what we call 'the honey moon' phase in your relationship. You may never have serious problems if you are lucky. However, most experst say, withing 6 months, things begin to cool off and reality begins to set in. Stay true to yourself. Put her a priority as long as it doesn't interfere with family, friends, school, work, and most importantly- yourself

If you have some money saved, maybe you should get her s dozen red roses and take her out to your favorite restaurant- maybe where you went on your first date. It's hard to say, unless you know a person. maybe, she would just like you to acknowledge how much you care about her. let her know that you remembered the day & ask her what she wants to do- if she is anything like me, it's the person she loves that is more important than anything money could buy

Keep in touch by any means necessary. After all, the key to a successful and healthy relationship is communication. Though some may consider you too young to take such a chance, only you know if you are capable of it. If you click on the date, just take it slow, get to know each other. How far is she moving? Can you visit one another...A family friend lives in NYC, but her lover is from Germany! They met in New York, stayed in touch as friends, married and had children with different people. Once they both got divorced, they rekindled their romance. Still, one lives in America while the other stayed in Germany- they are happy as can be. Some people live together and can't make their relationship works. Think of the old saying "distance makes the heart grow fonder." If it is true love then destiny will take care of the rest. remember, there may be more than one love of your life- it's not the end, at 18, it is just the beginning of your journey to self exploration and love.

That was very poignant. Men are still brought up to never show emotions outwardly even after all these hundreds of thousands of years of evolution. Actually, I was having this discussion with someone. I truly believe that with conditioning of modern society that men & women will switch roles not totally, however. There may be a balancing act of sorts where men are accepted for being 'human', emotional beings while women can be strong and independent w/o being labled B---h It's a very accurate observation my fellow 'princess'.

Only if he found out (which he did)-so I confessed. However, I left out details. In other words, don't ask, don't tell. 8)

I don't know much about your infidelity or issues with "cheating"- however, this man who is supposed to be your husband has certainly crossed the line. Frankly, he may never change. Unless, he wants to work things out professionally- aka. couples therapy, it seems that the best thing to do is separate or eventually divorce if not for you then your children (not to mention your future baby). Be strong. Believe it or not, there are great men out there or maybe you should build up your selfesteem & stay aware from toxic men b/c you deserve much better

Everything you said rang true. I believe most relationships start off like heaven- or why else get invovled w/the other in the first place. Then, somewhere along the road, we see things as they really are, not as we want to see them. This is were we have to make a decision for ourselves b/c we can not make a decision for the other: Now that I see the flaws, do I want to stay and work out the rough spots? Or do I move on and find someone better/more comaptible for me? This is a personal choice. There are problems in every relationship, they are worth working out if (like you said) both love each other. You do seem strong & there is a man who is meant for you out there. I am at the crossroads myself being 23 & in a 3 years relationship- my most serious & intense. Before this b/f. I never knew the meaning of true love: the joys & sorrows of it, I mean. When someone have changed your life (andyou have changed theirs) the impact of it all can become overwhelming. But, we are still holding on, hopefully it will work out- neither of us has fallen out of love yet