alexander

How did you respond? I happen to be curious since I fit the criteria. Is it better for me to (contiue to) not even try? Am I just saving myself/the girl from the embarrassment of a pitifully stupid question? In addition to my physical faults, I'm incredibly shy and have no social skills. I barely exchange words at all with females my age. Is there hope?

I believe in God. Not a big fan, though.

Very good point, about HIV and deadly viruses. In that extreme a situation I don't know what I would do, either.

I wouldn't blurt out the "3 years" part right away, but you should tell her you'd like your relationship to become more intimate before she's taken. As for how to go about this being smooth . . . I'm not really the guy to talk to about that.

I agree that a person's attitude and personality are part (a BIG part) of what makes them attractive. Since shy people don't put their personalities (however attractive) on display for most people, they often go ignored. Unless of course they are physically attractive, in which case, people come to them anyway. The combination of shy+fat is deadly, and all too common.

Thanks. I don't expect everyone to share my views on this subject, though. Especially at our age.

Sounds like he wants a relationship to me, although you obviously know him much better than I. Explain your intentions to him and ask him out. The world would be a much happier place if women didn't always wait on guys.

I'd do anything for love, and with my luck it would make sense that, if I ever do meet someone, I'll find out she's carrying an STD. If I thought I could spend the rest of my life with this girl, I'd be willing to postpone sex for a while and get to know her better. If things went smoothly, marriage, and then sex, would follow. If she can infect me with love, I guess I'll take anything else she has to share. I can imagine how much pain these people go through, knowing that, if they were honest, most potential lovers would turn their backs on them in an instant. What's it like to wake up one day and know your love life is over? To know that almost anyone would sever all ties with you in order to "not get involved?"

Everyone is obsessed with looks. I know I am. You can't want someone you're not attracted to. That being said, the girls I fall for aren't always the picture of perfection (not that they would have anything to do with anyway). Also, there's a difference between being fat and being, uh, not thin. There was this one girl I was drooling over all year, and after losing weight over the summer, she didn't seem nearly as hot. Of course, she came back more popular than ever, but she didn't seem as cute to me. However, she was never really fat. I, on the other hand, am fat, and from my experience and observations, I can tell you that most fat people of both genders aren't very lucky in love at this age. There's the occasional exceptions (I'm guessing), but if your friend is anything like me, she's probably going to be very lonely. The difference between fat guys and fat girls is: fat guys don't get used for sex. If she's that desperate for a hot guy, it might come to that.

And for those whose lives are meaningless? Nothing makes me happy now. I can't even watch TV. Everything is meaningless. And antidepressants don't work. They just make it harder to cry. But I still manage. To cry all the time.