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To cheer you up. (But dont actually do it) Plan some horribel aerious revenges on your ex like blasting all his clothes off itn public. make pictures of these awful events and laught about them. We say Wipe the s*** off your shoe and walk on. hold your head and go out there and show them all you dont give a damn.

Its usually caused by fitness levels. If you sweat at low temps its because the body is trying to raise body heat a bit and sort of goes about it wrong, a bit like what happens when you suffer from hypothermia. Also when you exercise you may get very very hot but not sweat. The cure is to improve your cuirculation with regualr exercise. try swimming as it makes you fir but does not over heat you. Also the kind of sweat it it is not the same kind as underarm sweat is usually. Having your underarms botoxed youst seals toxins inside your skin. how vile.

She sounds interested, try it on for size by organisisng a snmall group thing and making sure she gets invited, ehg small crowd from the office. If she comes she's interested. If she doesnt but makes the ffort to taell you in person she is interested. If she doesnt show and doesnt say why to you personally then in general she is not interested. However in that case havea really great time , it will get back to her, (of course) and this may spark her interst. or Ask her for coffee, or lunch at work, toatally as a workmate. See how it goes from there and as abit of general advice, try paying abit more attention! Who knows how amnt lovely women have slipped thru your fingers. Good luck Love as always nenez

Some answers, yes i have dumped havent we all so my answers are Did you still love that one that you dumped? I did for a while but the reason i dumpe was because the relationship did not work and i was looking to leave for a while how long did the new relationship last? Irrelevant, mine was four years but it could be 4 days, dumped means over. If in the future you get back it should be a NEW relationsghip, if you just rehash the old one it will go wrong all over again Did you even try to work things out with the first one before you dumped him/her? Yes for about two years. It didnt work How long were you thinking about it before you actually dumped that first one? About twp years. Did you tell the first one about the other person right away? I personally did not have an overlap altho i did take up with the new guy very quickly. About 2 weeks. i had known him a while. About N/C , keep it up and rememeber over is good, why be hanging on waiting for the slipstream of someone elses regard. Among my g/friends we always say 'Wipe the S*** off your shoe and walk on.' Its not a cure but it adds a little perspective, hold your head up and get out there. No man on the planet is worth even one of your tears. My mum used to say that. Be happy Love as always nenez

Its a relationship as is every mutual interaction between people. And one of the best things about a good relationship is being able to be yourself , so it sounds as tho these guys have it right. Would you Really want them to be all over each other in public?

DN is right, sweet tho she may be to you in private she is clearly a player. If you want any chance with her at all. keep your distance but in honest truth id say stay away, save it for someone who appreciates it.

Of the purging! Sometimes talking and going over it all again and again is not cathartic, it merely embeds the feeling deper. The reason one attends therapy is to have the purging guided so that does not happen. alone it happens all too often, Instead of rethinking all these problems you have had, wrong lifestyle choices you have made etc, cut loose from the whole thing and reinvent yourself. describe in BRIEF (not a noevel!) the person you admire. Fleash them out with some of your experiences but these can pnly be the good ones. Anything you hate about your past' leave out. Take a phootgraph of yourself and someone you admire physically. Compare yourself (be ruthless) Analayse what about them you can have easily (haircut, style of clothes) with a little work (weight, muscularity) and what you cant (height, ethnic group etc). Set yourself a reasonabale target to achieve some of your physical goals. Looking how you want to look always helps you to feel more confident. Education - you spent money on school/ is this now a debt? if so put in place a slow debt recovery scheme that you can reasoably achive. And look at the benefits eductaion has given you. What can you do/ is your job good/ If not think about moving on. Agaian make a list, choose an ideal job, what is the shortfall, will you need to take 2 or three steps to get there. If so go for the first one. Relationships. Forget them for now, focus on loving you and being fabulous. When you are fabulous everyone will be drawn to you. Freiends if your friends drag you down they are not good for you (however well meaning they may be) so look for aquaintances that build you up. And dont say but i find it hard to make niew friends NO the old you might, the new you is confident and sociable. Write a mantra for yourself, three things you want to be (mine was Young, strong and beautiful) say it every day as you look at yourself in the mirror. And above all rememeber this small rule for living Everyone is not thinking about you, everyone is thinking about themselves. So be yourself, for youyrself. They will love you fr it. Quite purging, start making the changes you wan to make . tiny step at a time. Good luck , be blessed Love as always Nenezxx

If he isnt calling you back he may be just adaopting typical male beahaviour, ie not realisisng that in dating terms to a man a week is not a long time and the failure to call is not an issue, However "nd date is too early for you to have a problem with it. if he calls fine if not Fine!! At least you know what sort of man he is. If he leaves it more than 2 weeks to call back dont date him again . Good lucj Nenez

Ive been broken up just about a year and to honest im yippee de doo most of the time. it was hard but i am happy happy jst to be alive these days. Nxxx

Hi Try three simple things. 1. Change your number and dont give it to her or her boyfriend. 2, try going to different places so that you and your girlfriend can have some space 3. Be totally open and honest with your new girlfriend about all of it. In time she will give up. If she tries to contact you or give you her number or get yours resist it. Make it completely clear to her that you wish to have nothing to do with her and stick to it. I assume part of this is because you are all in a similar group ie schol or social group that you cant change. This can be very very hard. But rememeber, this matteres very little to any of your friends, its emotional and social wallpaper. it only matters to the three or four of you in the main frame. So keep it that way, don'tt ry to get everyone else involved. If she tries this, they will think less of her and more of you. Good luck Nenez

Youve got 83 now billy Nxxx

Talk to the others. You may find they are all behind you, or some not. Its good to know where you stand. Bear in mind that as soon as you propose making a stand some of them will shilly shally about. But talk to them first. By the way, just looked up on google and I found a site AKRON. Is that it? Love Nenezxx

Firstly well done to you for starting something. Its not easy to do. You must talk to the other members of the group and see how they feel. If they agree that she is dominating and overwhelming the group. you mut talk to her and say this, as a group. If necessary, be rude. If she backs down and says she wishes to remeina point out to her that she must abide by the group ethos. You should insist she removes the false information on the website, and backs down. Incidentally you may find on consideration that not all her ideas are bad, just the steamroller way she did them. You also say the group has no leader but you clearly feel some ownership or responsibility for the group (rightly so as you started it). Her behaviour has attcked you in a very vulnerable place (mothership) so you must deal with this or if she continuews to remain in the group and push it her way, you will become increasingly unhappy. However, you may find not all the memebers agree with you. You may have yo split into two groups (of course all members can belong to both if they wish bar her.) Since you feel a responsibility and ownership for the group you may wish to formalise this in some way to stop this happening in the future. Again Im sorry she's made you unhappy but you can win if you stand up to her and push your corner. Find your inner Goddess!! Love as always Nenezxx

FUNNY but not a clown. Witty and wise. And Diggety I like green Nenezxx

You need to consider carefully. If you confront the guy you have broken the privacy rule and he will have something to attack YOU with. You will end up being in the wrong and ahaving to apologize. If you ignore it you will worry. The fact that he has done all this is neither here nor there, as has been pointed out we all have lines, we all have favourite places etc and we all pretend that the person we are with is the only one we have done all this with because it our hearts we are all searching for THE ONE. And its virgin princess syndrome. Nothing unusual and nothing to worry about. What is a concern is the no g/f nights. You do need to address this. Not because he is necessarily doing anything he shouldn't but because a) it relects a single frame of mind and b) it worries you. If you feel strongly for him you should set your mind at ease before you embed yourself any deeper. Good luck With love as always Nenezxx