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  1. jayne
    First of all, honest and open communcation is the best answer. talk to your Mom and Dad...be bold. There is no easy way out of this, but you must commit yourself to taking the high road and doing the RIGHT thing....even when the right thing is not the EASY thing. This is the time to talk to a minister...even if you don't go to church. You really need to reach out for help. Good luck, I'll be praying for you.
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    for what it's worth...I think you should sent him a very heartfelt lettter expressing your concerns and tell him exactly what your expectations are...for example, "Unless physically impossible due to immediate danger I would like for you to call me 2 times weekly and sent me a short note on the days we don't talk on the phone." Spell it out for him and see what he says!
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    Thank you soo much for your support... We have talked for hours about this...he says that the thought of being with a man sexually is something that he never thinks about, and when he watches the porn that he does not imagine himself in the fantasies, just that there is something intriguing to him about the whole thing. He says it is just something that he does when he is lonely and feels like he needs some intimacy.
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    Thank you for your response...that is what I thought too...let me tell you what he said to that. "The first sexual relationship I was in was with Sarah and it was for 5 1/2 years. She like to watch porn...two guys one girl...two girls one guy...ect. As our relationship grew over the years we started doing different things. Not everytime we had sex, just when we wanted to be kinky. Because of that, I think I am conditioned to that being erotic. I don't know why, but I do. Lots of other things turn me on as well...that is just one thing. " That relationship ended 10 years ago
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    One more thing...he said that he does look at gay porn on the internet. He said he did this because he and this girl used to watch gay porn together and there is something erotic about it...but he is not gay. What do you think??
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    My boyfriend and I are both professionals in our 30's. I found a pair of womens underwear in a closet next to a box of casual womens clothing - wig - sex toys. John told me that several years ago he was in a 5 year relationship with a women - they had lots of kinky sex - including him wearing her underwear and her dressing him like a woman. He stated that he never went out in public like this and never put it on by himself. We almost broke up last week and he stated that he got that box of stuff out thinking, "I thought it was kinky at the time and just wanted to get off...so I tried on the panties and they did not even fit. that's not who I am anymore." He says he is not gay, but he just wants to please the woman he is with and so long as it does not involve animales, kids, or a 3rd person, he would do about anything. What should I think about this????
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    Snooping was completely wrong of me to do. I did not trust him...that however, in my opinion, is minor to the fact that my boyfriend who I love may be GAY!
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    Thank you for all your insights...I think I am going to be extreamly calm and tell him everything and then tell him that I don't know what to think. How will I know if what he is telling me is the truth or if it is just his way of minimzing the situation??
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    Thanks for your reply. The reason why I was snooping is that I was at his house a week ago and checked his caller ID while he was out of the room...an ex-girlfriend had called him and I became suspicious. I am very calm right now...just don't know if I can trust him to be honest with me about this.
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    I need help! I was snooping at my boyfriends house today (we are both professionals in our 30's) and I found several pair of womens underwear with stains in them that look like a man had worn them. I also found a box with womens clothes, make-up, and sex toys. In addition, I got on to his internet and found where he had been surfing sites about transvestities, gay and anal things. What should I do...is he gay?? bi???
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    thanks for your input. He has not said a word to me about being self-conscience about this. However, he did recently tell me that he lost over 100lbs about 6 years ago....he spoke about his tough childhood full of name calling and loneliness. This surprised me as he is 6'2 - 185lbs - and has run in 3 marathons since I have known him! Do you think I should say something?? Amanda
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    My boyfriend and I are both 30 year old professionals. We've been friends for years and started a romantic relationship 3 months ago. He was very slow at moving forward with me physically...I just thought he was being respectful. When I told him I wanted more, we started moving forward...and then I realized that he had a very small penis. 4 inches erect and thin. This does not bother me. We have only been intimate 3 times....he got an erection the last time we were together, but he did not orgasm. What can I do to make him more relaxed so we can have a satisfying sex life???
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    Thanks for reading my brief post... Someone at work who I only see at work about once a month asked me out. For two weeks things were great...he was calling every night, sending e-mails, paging me, ect...then after our third date he said he would call the next day. We kissed for about 15 mins and then he left saying he "once again had a great time!" Needless to say, no call! He has only called once this week and sent me two brief e-mails. Always asking, "hey, what are you up to today?" but not saying anything about going out again. Am I getting the brush off.... Jayne
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    I am a 29 year old professional female. My boyfriend of 2 years, who I thought for sure was "the one" for me, broke up with me a year ago. I still think about him every day and still find myself driving by his work and home, even though I am trying to move on and date other people. He has moved on and is getting married this summer. So... #1 How do I get over him?? #2 Will I ever met anyone who I loved as much?? Thank you for helping me! Jayne
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    I know it seems hard to see right now, but God does love you and He has a great plan for your life....but you have to stop looking at the worldly things and start looking toward Him. Read The Purpose Driven Life...trust me, it will change your life forever! I will say some prayers for you. You sound like an honest person who has a heart of gold!
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    Since you are leaving for 5 months in the near future, I would NOT contact him as it might keep you from fully enjoying this new and exciting time for you. Tell yourself, "If I still feel this way when I am out of town, I'll drop him a post card and call him when I get back." That having been said, I think you are going to go away, have the time of your life, and return a different and better person! You'll be glad you broke up and ready to move on to new relationships/
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    I appreciate the advice...
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    I am a 29 year old professional. After dating a guy for 5 months, I decided I was not happy and starting dating a new guy. I was crazy about the new guy, and then after 2 months, the old guy (still best friend) started to tell me that he wanted me back. I didn't know what to do so I stopped seeing them both for a week. Went on a date with new guy and then on Sunday I told new guy and old guy that I needed a month to myself to figure this out. I have cleared my head and decided that I wanted to be with new guy. I sent new guy a light hearted e-mail yesterday and he has not returned my e-mail What should I do??? Please let me know your opinion......thanks!!!!!
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    I am going through this exact same thing!! Dated my David for 5 months, was not happy. Started dating Lee, very happy...then after dating for two months starting thinking about, then talking to, then sleeping with ex. Not good, and it has obviously effected my relationship with Lee. Lee is "crazy about me" and I don't know how I feel about him or ex. I told them both that there was something that did not feel right about the relationship, probably a timing issue or something, and I wanted to take some time out. One month to be exact. I think that space away will help me figure out what I want to do. I think you need to recognize that if you are thinking about your ex, you are not going to be able to move on with the new girl. Maybe you need a break, just one week or so. I would not tell your girlfriend that you are thinking about your ex, but rather that you have a lot on your plate right now and you need a week off, just to reconnect with yourself. What do you think??????????
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    Thank you soo much for posting a reply...I need all the help I can get! All persons involved in my relationship conflict are professionals in their late 20's. I dated Doug for 5 months, I was not fulfilled in the relationship because he was not crazy in love with me and I decided to see other people. We maintained our friendship and soon became best friends. I immediately started dating Richard and we were crazy about each other. Very nice and he treated me wonderfully. After seeing Richard for about 2 months, Doug and started hanging out by ourselves and ended up sleeping together several times. Since then Doug has told me that he wants us to get back together and he has very strong feelings for me. Since then, my relationship with Richard has changed (obviously) and I don't know what to do! I told them both last night that I needed a month of not dating anyone to see how I really feel. How should I make this decision?
  21. jayne
    Confidence and having great self esteem will make you more desirable. Remember that time is your friend, not your enemy...thereforeee take some time out for yourself, stop focusing on her, and you will be amazed by how much more attention your ex (and other girls) give to you. You sound like a very caring guy...maybe your ex is not ready for a relationship yet? Are you a Christian? If so, pray that what ever God has planned for you will come because God's plans for us are always better than the plans we make ourselves.
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    Remember...you are an attractive, smart, wonderful woman. Stop thinking about it and enjoy your independence...guys will see and feel your confidence and be drawn to you like flys to honey. Trust me on this one! Guys can smell desperation a mile away...I hope this helps.
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    I am starting not to be able to sleep very well, and this is all that I think about! I need to be the strong, attractive, comfindent woman that i am in order to find peace in all this. Do you think I should call him and tell him that I want to be friends as long as we can not be sexual intimate with one another?
  24. jayne
    This is true. I think I am going to do the no contact rule for a while and see how it goes. I know that he has feelings for me. I just want him to know it too! Does that may any sense???
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    Thank you for your replys! Do you think that he will be "out of sight out of mind." Or do you think that absense will make the heart grow faunder??
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