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Hi i am 8 weeks pregnant but only found out a couple of days . just prior to that while i was pregnant but didnt know about it I fasted on just lemon water for 14 days to cleanse my body and I am so worried I have harmed the baby, please can anyone give me any information about what can happen and when the fetus really starts taking nutrition directly from the mother

Hi I am 23yrs old. In my final year as a student nurse. I live in london. 4 months ago I met a 23yr old south african guy...we fell in love and I am 6 weeks pregnant now. none of us have any family here. My parents are dead and I have no other supportive relations while his family are back home. his visa expires in august and he has to go back to south africa then. He is not keen on having a child yet and thinks abortion would be the best option because he says we dont know each other for long enough to make that sort of commitment to each other. He is afraid that if I have this child he will HAVE to be supportive and might end up resenting me because he cant let me bring up the child on my own. he is not financially stable and he rather I not have the child and wants to do things the right way (ie get to know each other properly and then if things are going well and we are sure about each other, get married and then start a family when we are both stable and can truly provide confidently for our famliy), I love my boyfriend and want things to work out. I have polycystic ovarian syndrome and when it was diagnosed doctors told me it might be difficult for me to get pregnant so I am quite surprised that I did. I am very confused as at one moment I feel it will be wrong for me to have an abortion but the next minute thinking that maybe he is right and being realistic about this whole thing. I am not sure about my own feelings, I dont know If im truly mentally ready to have a child myself or whether at this moment I am in a position to provide for the child well. I am having very mixed emotions. confused about what is the right thing to do and what is best for the child.

does it really matter who disagrees with you or who doesnt. i really feel that we should just do whatever feels right in our heart. over analysing things can confuse the hearts true desires . best of luck. Love yourself always.

hi i loved your reply. i know he isnt the smooth latin types because i did all the seducing ! he was very sweet. i absolutely agree with you about rebuilding a mystery because we have missed so many stages of love and courtship in between. as for older guys ....... all my past bf's have been atleast 10 yrs older than me. i seem to be attracted only to the older ones. I hope something comes out of this........i like him so much. we are meeting up next week and its going to be so hard not to want to make love to him. i want that intimacy again but i guess that if i want some sort of relationship i have to withold. thanks so much for your message.

hi i am 23 yr old girl. i met a lovely guy (36 yrs) at a salsa club. he was the teacher and its the first time i have instantly been attracted to a guy. we danced and spoke for ages and there was incredible chemistry........it was electric. i am quite conservative and inhibited but i dont know what came over me that night.......i requested him to drop me home and we had such a great time chatting...........he was a gentleman and didnt make any moves on me (im used to guys just pouncing on me because i have been told i am exceptionally beautiful.....i get a lot of unwanted attention!) i even invited him up to my room ( i have never ever done this with a stranger! ever!) we spoke more and just melted into each others arms.......we made love and it was so intimate and beautiful. no other guy has ever made me feel this way or brought out the quailities that i saw in myself that night. i felt like i knew him a lifetime. he did everything right. he asked for my no. before he had to leave and has called me a couple of times requesting if i could meet with him again. he seemed such a nice and beautiful person.......i want to get to know him. i want to so badly........i miss him. but im worried about what he might be thinking. would he just consider me for a physical relationship? considering i slept with him on the first night........is there a possibilty of a future together. i want a chance.. a chance for a serious relationship and love. do men think that girls who sleep with them on the first night are easy and dont consider them as a long term loving partner or want them as a girlfriend. are they judged as cheap.

hi this is probably the most perplexed i have ever been over another human beings behaviour. im a student nurse and on a placement 2 months ago i met a doctor who pursued me. i started feeling an attraction for him and accepted a date. we had a good time and he told me a lot about his background and how he was trying to release an album as music was evrything to him and he wanted to do it all his life. he seemed very into me and i felt i could relate to him and trust him. in a few weeks time he told me he loved me and we slept together for the first time after that. but he has changed so much. he doesnt respond to my calls. he doesnt keep to his promises of calling me and he has even stood me up on dates sometimes with no explanation at all apart form saying 'i wasnt in the right frame of mind'. yet when i tell him maybe i should move out of his life he tells me he loves me and doesnt want to lose me and that he is going away for a week to clear his head so he doesnt behave like this for the rest of his life. he said he will call me when he gets back. he hasnt told me where he is going and i have decided not to contact him anymore. I dont feel this is normal behaviour at all and am totally baffled. if he doesnt want me in his life why doesnt he tell me upfront. and if he does want me then why is he treating me like a piece of dirt.

hi just wana know if a guy can tell if the girl he is sleeping with the first time is a virgin or not. the girl has had fingers in he vagina and a doctors instrument during a check up and a vibrator but never a penis. is there any way a guy can teel she is a virgin? also how can you make your vagina tighter so its more pleasurable for a guy. thanks

my fla mate is going through exactly what you are. I am not exagerrating - it is exactly the same situation.. he is heartbroken but ithealing takes time. as a woman I can say that I think your ex has moved on and means what she says about not getting back with you however she still wants your friendship, i have been in a similar situation too. it is difficult but try to live for the here and now and develop other interests to distract your mind. love will come again I promise. Best of luck

thank you. i can always count on you guys to give me elpful replies. just difficult at times to know if someone loves you. difficult to read all the vital signs and clues. thank you so much

hi im 22 and in Jan this year started dating a guy who is 32. He calls me atleast twice every day to say he loves me. he is very affectionate and makes me feel very loved whenever we meet because he cannot keep his hands off me - he looks at me lovingly all the time, looks into my eyes and tells me he loves me and is totally focused on me. im just a little confused about something though. Valentines day he did not give me anything. on my 22nd b'day he called me and sang for me over the phone and said he had to give me my present. but on the many occasions that we met since then I received nothing. I just thought that a man who loves always gives thoughtful, meaningful gifts and gestures to his girl. I dont know what to make of this and how to approach this subject to him. also he has called me over thep hone a few times when he was drunk to say he loves me. does this mean he really loves me if he says it when he is drunk too? Please reply. I will really appreciate it. Thank you

thanks for the reply so i guess its not easy for a man to know if he is sleeping with a virgin

hi i am really curious about something. is it in any way possible that a guy can know he is sleeping with a virgin or not when he has sex with her for the first time . assuming ofcourse the girl has not disclosed anything about her sexual past to him. and that it is possible for women to have a torn hymen before they have intercourse with a man. is it absolutely essential that a girl wil have to bleed a little the first time? Thankyou very much. waiting for replies

hi i need some information on advice or a link to this subject. i was wondering what the options are when someone ina relationaship wants a divorce (and has made up his mind about it without doubt) and his wife doesnt. there are two children involved. they live in london. what avenues does this man have? how long could this process take? Thank you so much. your responses will be really appreciated.

Hi please help me out with this one. i am losing sleep over this. i have a great boyfriend who i love very very very much. but i dont see him much cos his job training has kept him away for sometime. anyway recently i have been going out to clubs and i met a guy that i was incredibly attracted to. nothing happened of course but i stupidly admitted to my boyfriend that i fancied this guy. i regret this so much and its the most idiotic thing to have done, he is not speaking to me now and i just do not know what to do. i love him, how do i get over this. how do i make things alright??? please advice. i will be so grateful.

hi my love, I am in no way a councillor or anything but i have had a very similar experience with a married man, so i understand when you say how much you feel love for him and so on. My advice would be definitely to keep a professional distance towards him nd not to encourage him (its hard to do but its for the best). I feel he likes the attention he is getting from you and that does something for his self-esteem and flatters him But you have to be careful...its seems like a time bomb waiting to happen....one day both of you might just lose your inhibitions and take it furthur because off all the sexual tension going on between you...and you do not want that to happen ...it will be the road to ruination. there are lots of other nice people around,,dont think he is the only one you get along best with.. go out, socialise, distract yourself and you will honestly start finding him less interesting and attractive than you do now. keep limits in your head about the kind of partner you would like such as he must be unmarried, he must be kind and confident etc. and stick to those boundaries. also think of the moralty behind this. marriage is a very sacred oath and committment. think of his wife and son everytime you fell the urge to carry on with him furthur. you wouldnt like it if it was done to you...rite? and never ever believe a man when he says he is not intimate with his wife at all. in this situation it just stands out as a blatant lie said to keep you interested in him. sorry if any thing i have said might have offended you or if i have missed the point. But best of luck in evrything you do. and never give a man the chance to let you down.

Thank you so much for everything. You do not what you guys have done. I am so grateful for all the time effort and true advice you have given me. Its so warm and touching to know that sometimes total strangers can be there for you in a way that no one else can. I have decieded to listen to all of your advice and run away from this filth. I am a God fearing person and i have a very bright furture ahead of me (i am studying to be a nurse) and in no way am i going to allow this to ruin it for me. Thank you again. God bless you.

Despite all this however. i have great love in my heart for this guy and have dreamt of being with him for the rest of his life and taking care of him. I do not know why I feel like this for him despite all this,

Thank you so much my friends. you ahev said in words what i have been feeling for ages. I have been depressed about this for ages and its not worth it. I know what i have to do now. Thank you so much again.

hi i have been seeing this man (i am 20, he is 37) for about 7 months now who says he absolutely loves me but i find myself not believing him. let me tell you why. The first time we had sex it was in a car, i was not prepared. I asked him not to take my stockings off as i was not ready but he did anyway and had sex with me. I suffered internal trauma that day and had to go hospital, He did however come to visit me and said he was sorry and didnt mean to be rough. He doesnt call me everyday to say he loves me. He hardly asks me how i am just texts me say, once in two days to say he loves me and misses me loads. In 7 months he has taken me to the cinema once and bought me a mobile phone and a top. He keeps saying how lucky he is to have me ( I am a v pretty and good girl and lots of people ask me out all the time - sorry for blowing my own trumpet) but i just dont feel as special and loved as i expected to feel in a relationship. i was wondering if i am being silly and making a big deal about all the stuff i just said above. your input would be really helpful.

Hi, I am with a guy that is considerably older than me. I lost my virginity to him and it was totally unexpected. although i do not regret that it was him i lost it with. i feel very guilty about doing it before marriage.. he says he loves me and that i am the most special person in his life. I love him very much too and want to love him for the rest of my life. However I do not want to have sex anymore until I am a married. Is this unreasonable or stupid to ask this of him? I have a feeling if i tell him this he might not want to stay with me anymore or might not want to wait till marriage. However i feel this would be a good test to see how much he really loves me. I will be grateful for any input. Thank you.

hi all, i am stuck in a very difficult postion right now and i guess i have only myself to blame. I am seeing a guy, the problem is he is married and although he wants a divorce, (i am not the reason why he wants one-he is just v unhappy with his marriage) his wife is not mkaing it easy for him as she doesnt believe in divorce! I really love him and he says he really loves me too. I am an extremely attractive girl (so people say!) but more importantly I am a very nice person (pardon me for blowing my own trumpet) so he does not want to lose me but understandably I am not happy with this situation. I feel the right thing to do would be to put our relationship on hold till he gets a divorce but the way things are going at the moment, it seems like its going to be near impossible for him to get one. Havnt got a clue what to do. Any advice would be very helpful and comforting - thank you.

hi, i know where your coming from. cause im in love with a man that is 17 years older than me. So i understand your situation although i will never claim that i know what your going through. I have a feeling your shutting yourself out and closing up all the oppurtunities you could have to enjoy yourself and have fun at this early stage of your life. try thinkin of the future. he is 48 now but he will be an old man when you will be in your prime and most beautiful years. try and go out and meet more people and gradually you will start noticing many other nice men that could be much much better than him. and remember that no man is worth wasting your life over. take care of yourself at all costs. dont waste your precious tears over him. you are worth much more. concntrate on your college no matter what. men will come and go but your education will stay with you for the rest of your life - its your passport to a successful and fulfilling life. Please let me know how you are getting on. best wishes

Hi this topic has been burning inside me for ages. Im a 20 yr old female and although i am a uk size 10, i too like many other women feel insecure and have body hang ups sometimes, especially when we are bombarded with images of thin and beautiful women by the media all the time. But i want to hear from the guys directly. what is the ideal size of a woman to a guy. do most guys prefer a very slim woman? maybe give me some celebrity role models to get a mental picture of what shape is more attractive and preferable? I know personality is important too but my question is direcly targetting the attraction to a person's figure. Your answers might help many women to feel more relaxed and content with thier sizes and shapes cause we are constantly worried about not being a perfect supermodel shape for our partners! thankyou

hi guys, thank you so much for all your replies. the effort and the advice you have given, i am very grateful for. it has certainly made me more aware of what i want. thank you so much again and have a great new year.