Mccrat

You would probably feel better if you told her how you feel. You might be pretty surprised. I can't speak for all women, but the man I married, I was his first. I had been with a few men before him. I know he was new to it all, and yes we did have a 'few' problems but were quickly resolved. I had to be patient, but I was in love and was willing to deal with it. If this girl really likes you, she will understand. Don't worry about it and relax.

Hi, I wouldn't worry about things too much. I know if I was going on a 3 week vacation there would be a lot of things I would need to get done the last week before I left. I am sure she is busy. You are just starting to get to know her. Wait till she gets back and give her a call.

Wow! I think you already know your answer. But I do agree, just ask.

I met my husband in college. At the time I was common law with another guy but my friend and I spent a lot of time together. We went to movies and supper when ever we could. After my common law left (because of reasons I am not going to get into) my friend and I grew closer. We just celebrated our 6th anniversary and have two kids. I believe it is possible to fall in love with your best friend. I did and love him more every day.

A woman talking here....the most attractive thing about men is when they have confidence. From what I can tell, you need to get out of bed and do something on your days off! Probably the only one that thinks your unattractive is you. Be POSITIVE! It's the biggest turn-on!

Yup, I know where your coming from..... My husband and I have been married for six years. We have two children, a dog, new house and busy jobs. Before we had children our love life was wonderful. Once sometimes twice a day....When our daughter came along things changed. Mostly with me. I was sore after giving birth for quite a while and didn't have the interest until she was about 7 weeks old. But things were not as easy as before. She was colic for 3 months, he worked long hours and I was up all night with the baby and tired during the day. Since then things haven't changed much. We are both tired now. Work is stressful and kids are a handful. We are up to about 1-2 times a week, which we have to schedule and that is not fun at all. Sometimes we 'have' the time, but both don't want to. A LOT of the times he wants to and once in a while I want to. I know this sounds terrible, but after I have been at work all day, come home make supper, give the kids a bath and get them into bed, clean the dishes, do the laundry and walk the dog, its 10:00 and I am beat. I know it bothers my husband. He doesn't think its healthy....he would love to have it every day again...but he is patiently waiting. Only once in a while he mentions he would like to have it...usually after about 5 days and I make the time. I just need to be reminded once in a while. I must admit though, his reminding is always verbal. He does things like gives me an oil message, brushes my hair and makes me feel so special. That is usually enough to get things going.....Are you are sitting there waiting for it, is it because you expect it? Do you pay attention to her? That is one of the best ways to get attention back. If your letting her talk on msn and surf the internet while you sit on the couch and watch TV waiting for her, then your not sending her messages that you care about her and want to be with her. She may need to be reminded that you do love her. While she is sitting there, rub her shoulders and play with her hair.... Just a thought....

Good grief..... Some of us are tall, some are short, some have dark skin and some are light....we are all made different. It is a mussel. It can contract tightly or expand. As far as I am concerned, how many fingers you can put in probably means nothing....

I was having sex at 15 and never told my parents. Only because my mother was not open with me and I felt like I couldn't tell her things. Really, though, I am sure they new about it. Parents are not stupid and they know these things. Now that I have kids though, my husband and I have decided that we are going to be very open with them. I want to talk about everything with my son and daughter. I hope that with me being open to them, that they will feel comfortable coming to me when they have questions. How open are your parents? If they are quite open, it may not be a bad idea to just let them know about it. It doesn't hurt anything that's for sure.

I agree. It you can wait, that's so wonderful! However, it doesn't quite seem fair if he is getting off every day and your left out to 'dry'....I would try to make a deal with him. Try some different things to get you going...maybe he could use a vibrator on you? I know its probably not what you want but it may suffice for now...Have you told him how frustrated you are?

Yup, it happens to my dh and I. We laugh it off...trust me, after your married and have a pretty 'healthy' sex life...it happens often. It is funny though!

It's funny how so many men are worried about things like this...trust me, when it comes down to it, if your girl is telling you that size matters, then I would be worried about your relationship. It just goes to show you that she is more interested in other things rather than the real you if she makes comments like that. It wouldn't matter if my husband and I couldn't make love any more, I wouldn't love him any less.

Yup, I would have to say that it feel very nice...at least for me. Its one of the things I ask my husband for. A word of caution...don't be too rough though. Its better soft and slow.

Hmm, Some of the comments that were made make me sound like a terrible person, at least I feel that way. I have NO intentions of ruining my marriage or his for that matter. I love my husband, my kids and I know he loves his wife and his kids. We are being very respectful of each other and he nor I ever crossed a line that I feel guilty about. We know how each other feels and that is all. There has been no physical contact or anything that has even come close to being adultery. My husband knows how we felt about each other back in school and he trusts me and I respect him for that, I would never jeopardize that. Many of these posts make me feel like have something to feel guilty about. I just wanted to know if this happens to others and what others do about the situation. Sorry if I sound like I am trying to defend myself but I do somewhat feel attacked.

Hi All, I am new to this web site and wanted to ask some of you what you thought of my situation. I am VERY happily marred for 6 years with two children. I love my husband dearly and would never think of hurting him....but I have feelings that are testing me. I was in college 8 years ago and I had a teacher who taught me a few courses. I know this sounds terrible, but we had a thing for each other. We were 9 years apart in age and we both had a better half (not married) at the time. Even though we knew we had feelings for each other we just kept it at that and were faithful to our partners. Now, I am working with him We work 2 cubicles away from each other and those old feelings have come back in full force. We have both admitted that we still have these feeling, but yet again.....we can't do anything about it. Has anyone else out there been in this situation before? If feels like we are being tested and I hate. I have just as much feelings for him as I did 8 years ago. I thought it had gone away and after school, I nearly forgot about him, until he showed up here. We talk through messenger at work all day and most of it revolves around what we can't...or shouldn't do but what we are wanting. We both have families and I would never think of having an affair with him. We have tried to call a truce and say 'Ok, no more...we have to cut all feelings off to get through this'. But it isn't working. Neither of us want to quite our jobs over this. We are very good friends and can talk so easily about our situation it almost makes it worse. Just wondering what people out there think? Will this ever go away or am I going to have to live with this? I can't even get away from him! There is nothing worse than dwelling on missed opportunities. Thanks for listening.