captain_nemo

Relationship Coach, I know there are lots of books on time managenet. But go through my post again-- Hence pls give me an advice right here. If I plan to read the book, the plan may even not materialize.

Can anyone give me some suggestions regarding an efficient time management, particularly, when you have a rigorous and regular outdoor work requiring you to halt outstation for almost 20-25 days in a month and requiring you to do all the household work single-handedly? After all these, I hardly find any time and energy to concentrate in anything else other than some occasional binge and movies. But I am feverishly falling short of accomplishing any hobby like reading good books or cultivating newspaper stories and articles. This is giving me a depressing headache all the time.

I was diagnosed with Anorexia and my doc told me I lack calcium. That will eventually lead me to bone related problem when I'll be old and have andro-pause. He prescribed me some calcium pills blended with vitamin-B complex. But I had to discontinue it as I went through unbearable side effects caused by this vitamin factor. Oral vitamin pills never suit me as I lose appetite, have constipation and acidity and the sense of taste goes down. The doc says I have no other option but to tolerate these side-effects but I must consume vitamin and calcium pills. Can anyone suggest me any solution to mitigate these side effects?

Some days ago, I was surfing through the pages of the Oxford Dictionary. Suddenly, my eyes stuck upon a word, "Soliloquy". That means "Talking to oneself". This word is perfectly applicable to me. I do talk to myself. I know everyone does it sometimes or others. But I find myself doing it repeatedly, time and again and from my childhood. The habit is increasing with rising age. I always murmur or whisper while talking to myself. Most of the time, I do it unconsciously, even, in presense of other people, without sensing that I am at all doing it. A number of times my friends laughed out loud noticing me murmuring in this way . Even strangers e.g. my co-passengers in a bus or train, pedestrians in roads give me a strange look noticing me doing this . This is so embarrassing but I can't help it.

U r right. The sticky sweets are harmful 4 yr teeth. But r nt d chocolates sticky? There is a possibility that After eating chocolates, sediment of chocolates may get accumulated inside the teeth. This will cause either tooth decay or bacteria formation inside teeth. Well, darkblue , chewing gum is a good idea.

I love eating chocolates so much that I can rob a bank to buy it or kill for it. But whenever I feel the urge to take it, I hesitate to eat it ultimately. Because it is not possible for me to brush my teeth every time after taking chocolates. But everybody suggests that chocolates are very harmful for teeth and if you don't brush your teeth after eating chocolates, your teeth will decay. Hence though I feel the strong urge to eat it, the idea of tooth decay scares me off so much that I cancel the idea of eating chocolates. But this suppression of the urge is frustrating my soul and making me feel like I am missing some very important and interesting thing in my life. Can any one suggest what can I do to eat chocolates?

I am 29/M and I feel I am suffering from Social Anxiety Disorder. Though I haven't consulted any psychotherapist but I feel that may be I am suffering from it because it has gone beyond my control. The main symptoms I have noticed in myself are as follows: Whenever I understand that I'll have to be in a social situation of informal type 1. I get nervous. 2. I loose sleep from a couple of days before the scheduled date. 3. I loose normal appetite. 4. I get a stomach upset. I get flatulence, loose motion & repeated urge for toilet. 5. I loose concentration and my daily work schedule is hampered. 6. I try my best to find excuses to avoid attending the invitation. When I arrive at the place I do the following: 1. I keep a low profile to avoid attention. 2. I talk either less or talk decent but rude words so that people avoid talking to me. 3. I sweat profoundly while having informal talks to people. 4. I find excuses to leave the place early. 5. Social situations makes me mentally tired very easily so much that my fatigue becomes visible. The following things happen when I have to meet a girl: 1. The mere thought of interacting with a gal makes me nervous and makes me sweat like hell with a stomach upset. 2. I loose sleep, appetite and concentration. 3. If I have to meet any gal for professional reason, I try my best to make the meeting short and to-the-point. 4. I try my best to avoid informal interaction with gals. 5. I avoid going to those places where there are a group of gals e.g. shops, streets, rooms, railway compartments etc. 6. If I have to sit next to a gal in a public place, I pretend to read something or to sleep so that she doesn't get any opportunity to talk to me. 7. I smoke and use slang languages so that gals prefer to keep distance from me. 8. I avoid making eye contact with gals as much as possible. 9. I try my best to avoid being a part of any team having one or more young female members. 10. I pretend to ignore the presense of any gal nearby so that neither she has to talk to me nor I have to talk to her. Even if I look at any beautiful gal, I do it tactfully so that either she doesn't realize it or she feels that it was a casual look. It is not that I enjoy doing the above things but it is a psychological obligation. The social situation and interaction with gals make me so stressed that I do the above to avoid stress. Currently I am leading a lonely life because of these but I can't help it. I just can't tolerate the stress. I can't afford to be a object of fun after being dumped by anyone. I don't have that level of mental strength.

I am a 28 years old guy. I am 5'11" and 150lb with a lean body, not much macho. I prefer short haircut, clean shaved face. I wear spectacles. I have a tall face. The problem is my face looks much younger, than my actual age, particularly when I am cleanly shaved and with a trimmed hair. I need to look matured. I prefer to look matured. So please suggest me some steps regarding this. I have noticed that my looks improve if I don't shave for 2-3 days at a stretch. But thereafter it looks ugly. If anyone can come out with any more ideas, I will be thankful.

Well, you may be right. yes, there are some problems which are affecting me psychologically. But almost everyone faces such problems. The problems are related to my workplace where the environment is full of tension and stress and that is mainly because of some dirty office politics. Other problems are related to everyday life. So these are not something which are extraordinary ones. Everyone faces these problem nowadays. In fact, I tend to get tensed over petty and everyday matters very easly. That may be the reason for the problem. But I am unale to find any solution.

I am 28/M. I am currently having serious concentration and memory problem. When I am reading something I am being unable to concentrate and lots of other things are coming in my mind at a time. Hence either I am unable to remember what I am reading or I have to read that time and again, which is, very much, time wasting. This is also leading to performance lapse at my workplace. Another problem which is quite general for me is that I am unable to remember numerical figures whether they are related to my work or not. I am also unable remember names a number of times. Can anyone suggest any remedy? Nemo

A couple of days ago someone asked me whether W. Somerset Maugham wrote any poetry in his life. I was not sure. Can anybody reply?

Thanx 2 all of u who replied to my post. The problem was something which I was not able 2 discuss with anyone. I particularly appreciate the postings of "thePuma" and "hazlcha". Both of u reasonably wanted to know about my socio-cultural background. Well, let me tell u that my society and culture strongly rejects feminine characteristics in males. Though, things r changing in higher classes of urban metros but in general, my society doesn't accept this. Hence my womanliness will continue 2 b a closed door affair unless I become a rebel and agree 2 leave the mainstream society. Now Mr. thePuma, I also fit in the second group. I enjoy 2 feel the way a woman feels about something but I don't want to be a woman. The gorgeousness of women's grace, attitude and posture tempts me 2 feel and act like them. But I don't agree with ravens_folly. Even I hve a female partner, I'll continue 2 feel in this way. Presense of a female partner may make me feel it in a better way though I'll take care not to tell her about it. Thanx 2 muneca also who, along with others has suggested that there is nothing wrong in it. From now on I'll b able to enjoy the feeling without any feeling of guilt or inferiority complex.

I am going through a very strange problem. I am a 27 years old male. But I feel that there is a hidden feminine side in me. This feminine self is usually dormant but sometime it wants to come out particularly when I am alone. Truly speaking, at that time I really want to nurture it. Then I just want to act like a female e.g. to walk, speak, sit like female. Even several times I acted like I am in bed with a man. But in front of others this side of mine is strictly dormant and in practice, I'll never like to act as women. Please advise, is it wrong to nurture my feminine self even in loneliness. Sometimes I feel guilty for it and suppress my feminine-self even when I am alone. But this only leads to frustration. If it is not wrong, then please advise me so that I can nurture it in a better way.

I am 27/M. The problem is I hve moobs which are both physically and emotionally uncomfortable. They always result self consciousness, and low self esteem. I cannot bare chest in front of others, cannot go for swim and cannot wear T-shirt or tight shirts. I was suggested lyposuction and plastic surgery but I want to keep the treatment secret. If I go for lyposuction and plastic surgery I will not be able to keep it a hush-hush. Moreover plastic surgery is also very expensive. Pls suggest what should I do to get rid of this problem.. Nemo

hi Derek u hve mentioned that avg penis size is 5-7". My penis is 4" long. Will I be able to satishfy women? I think the avg girth is less than 4".

well, you hve said that yr b/f broke up with u because he wanted to get his life back together with his son. u hve also said that u love yr b/f's son and the kid also loves u. So why did he thought of breaking up with u for getting his life back with his son? Also why he doesn't want u to contact his kid? the reason may be the following: 1. U feel that the kid loves u but reality is different. pls don't misunderstand me. I don't want to hurt you. I am only talking about a possibility. After all u r not his natural mother. May be the kid has said something about u to his father and his father don't want to tell u that as it may hurt u. 2. The kid loves u but refuses to place u in his mother's place. 3. The kid loves u and is ready to place u in his mother's place. But yr b/f is not able to understand yr importance in his kid's life. He may also hve a perception that yr presense in his life may be harmful for his kid because u r not his son's natural mother. What u need to do now is to search for the answers of the above questions. Have a frank and open talk with yr b/f. If any of the first two points is correct, then you will need to win the heart of the kid. If third point is correct, u will need to convince yr b/f. If all of the above points are false then u will hve to talk to yr b/f regarding this break up. after all this is not only a relation between u and yr b/f. a kid is also involved in it. So don't just jump to any conclusion and clarify the exact situation properly. Ragarding the Valentines Day gift, I will suggest u to go ahead and send the gift to the kid if u really love him. Valentines Day is a very special occasion to express love and care and a kid deserves it more than an adult. U care for yr b/f's feeling, its ok, but a kid should get priority on that day. U also hve to choose from the following options: 1. It is more important for me not to upset a little kid on valentines day. 2. It is more important for me to find out whether my b/f contacts me because he misses me or he is under obligation. These two options r mutually exclusive. Choose one and u will get ur answer. Nemo

well if a guy is attracted to another guy and dates woman then it may hve the following meanings: 1. he is a gay but wants to hide that. That's why he dates women. 2. he is bisexual--wants to hve sex with both man and woman. 3. he is transexual--having characteristics of both man and woman. 4. he is straight heterosexual but sometimes fantasise about hving sex with men. But in real he will not like to hve sex with man. U need to study the man's behavioural pattern more thoroghly and then u decide under which catagory he will be fit. But one thing u need to remember before drawing any conclusion. No one in the world in 100% homosexual or 100% heterosexual. Some degree of bisexuality lies with every human being. Those people who are having sex or want to hve sex in reality with a person of same sex, frequently/regularly only those people are treated as homosexual or bisexual. Nemo

alexals27 Well I don't want to comment about yr b/f but I feel its all over now. U hve to face the truth and go ahead with yr life. Why do u want 2 hurt yrself for smebdy who doesn't care 4 u?? If somebody has chosen to avoid u then u too try to ignore his presense. I know its difficult to do but life is much more than a loose relationship. pls don't hurt yrself. u may join a gym or yoga class for releaving stress and take up some hobby to make yrself busy.

hi Hero_99 yes u r right. I should take a hobby. after all where the life will lead me to without a hobby. but unfortunately my job doesn't allow me to spend much time on hobbies regularly. but learning to sing, dance and computer programming require regular parctice and time. Can u suggest me some hobbies which don't need regular practice and less time consuming. Nemo

hello Emmyspartan U r not alone who feels that he/she should not marry. I also feel like u. U r still in college and u feel that u will find nobody as u hven't found anyone till now. I m 27, my college days are over and now I m in job and till now I was never asked 4 a date. I really feel I should not marry. Why should anybody marry me? I don't hve any quality I should be proud of. I am physically weak, my penis is small, I m not good in either of sports, arts, music or anything else. I am really an average if not below avg one. I don't hve right to destroy anyone's life. I am trying to prepare myself for a lonely life.

I am 26/M and passing through a problem. I suffer from flatulence and have to fart frequently. I hve to fart 50-60 times daily and that is quite loud but rarely stinky. Its very embarrassing but I cannot help it. Strict dieting and excercise didn't help nor the medicines. Medicines cause side effects. So what should I do get rid of this problem?? Nemo

Can anybody help me??? I am 27/M. Last year I got anal fissure and since then I am facing rectal bleeding while excreting. The fissure is not painful but the bleeding is making me mad. After excretion, I feel a swelling at the rectal hole and that does not get normalised easily. The bleeding goes on from the swelling part of the anus till the swelling gets normalised. I often notice sufficient blood at the back of my undergarment. I don't want to go for surgery at the sensitive part. The doctor has advised me ensure minimal expansion and contraction of the anal muscle. But that is not possible. Everytime I masturbate, sneeze, cough and fart, I hve to expand or contract the anal muscle. pls help me to get rid of this bleeding. I hve to travel a lot for my job and this bleeding is making my life difficult. PLS HELP Nemo

Hi nuckingfutz pls e-mail me and give me details what do you do to yr anus to feel enegetic. my e-mail ID is : email removed Mr. Reborn Hve you read "20 thousand leagues under the sea" by Jule Verne. That is a sci-fi. The name of the main character is captain nemo. He decided to live a life under the water in a submarine, away from the misery of mainstream human society. He was a rebel with a cause.

hi e_dude no that is not anal masterbation. I did that by inserting one finger in my anus slowly, properly lubricating my finger and putting a condom on it. I inserted my finger and when it got 3-4 inches deep inside I started to stimulate my prostate by slow circular motion. Anyway, I never tried the way which you hve suggested. I will try that. Pls tell me how you did you stick something in yr anus.

I am 26/M. I tried Anal Masturbation some days before for the first time. I did it at night. I felt really good then but was unaware what was waiting for me next morning. Next morning a felt a cramping pain in my stomach. I shitted but bowels were not clear, The pain reduced but did not go away. After one hour, again I felt the cramp and had to go to toilet. This went on for an entire day. I repeatedly felt the cramping pain, went to latrine 5-6 times and farted loudly, God knows how many times. This uncomfortable stuff existed throughout one week. Just think how embarrassing it was to go to latrine repeatedly in the office and farting loudly in public. Anyway, I decided I will not do anal masturbation again as the side effect is very bitter. But you know sometimes I feel strong urge for it. Is there any solution so that I can continue to practise anal masturbation without this bad side effect?