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  1. supernetter
    Do not get into any relationships for this moment. Give yourself a break, let the scars heal. Join a social activity group, do a hobby or anything meaningful that helps others by your efforts. Work with children, if not for anything else, you could be physically tired to do anything else. kindest regards
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    Love have a funny way of coming back to you..no matter how you tried to stay away. The heart always knows. Kindest regards
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    NC works if you are willing to stick to it thick or thin. You will worry about her since she too is "in an emotional tailspin" and this is normal. As long as you dont think that she is in no danger, let her be. You are an emotional crutch for her. Please be aware of this. Kindest regards.
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    Looks like we have some serious commitment issues from him. He needs you to be around but gives excuses for a non committal relationship. If marriage is your goal then you should be firm on this. Tell him that 7 years of relationship should conclude to matrimony. I would think that for now he thinks of the other woman as a friend and should not pose as a threat to what both of you have. This could change in the future. Without giving any commitments, he does not feel any guilt for this change in status, if it ever happens. He obviously is afraid of losing you or rather the notion of not having you anymore. thereforeeee he chases after you when you ignore him. I suggest you have a final serious talk with him. Tell it as it is and stand firm to your decisions. You have a life to live and even a family to start. Kindest regards.
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    Well, I always believe that you must not be what you are not. In a way, he has made the decision for you as he clearly is defined in his sexual orientations. Count your blessings that you are out of it. Move on.
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    As the say "do not blame the game, blame the player" Kindest regards
  7. supernetter
    Sometimes the heart betrays the mind but have firm resolve. Action does speak louder than words and so after all those talks and empty promises things have not changed, it is really time to move on. Do not put blame.
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    Initiating NC when u want him back is a No win situation. U will end up hurting yourself more. As always its better to just sit down and talk. No playing of childish games of NC when u dont mean it.
  9. supernetter
    Keep yourself busy, I know it could be easier said than done as also having NC at all. Someday u'll end up being just friends but for now, give yourselves space.
  10. supernetter
    Let him have time to grieve. The loss of a loved one can turn u topsy turvy and you dont have a good grip of your emotions. But i sense that he is a needy person even before his mum died. Has it always been on what he wants and needs all this while? What about your needs?
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    When two people have had a fulfilling relationship before, its hard to just move on. This shows in both of you not having sex with the newer relationships that both of you have. Somehow having sex with newer people would in a way provide closure to the last relationship. Seeing each other again and having sex is like finding temporary comfort in what both of you had. She accuses you of playing with her emotions but its quite a natural reaction as she herself is confused. Sit down and talk about this. If there is still some sparks left, then ignite it if thats what the both of you want.
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    Its is never easy unless ur relationships are on a superficial note. Even now I cannot understand how some people can seem to just switch off their feelings. It gets even worse when u see your ex with someone else. I'm sorry that this is not any profesisonal advise, its just my way of saying that I share your feelings too.
  13. supernetter
    Embrace life and love with passion but still have some horse sense.
  14. supernetter
    Give love a chance. Tell him in no uncertain terms that u love him. Please do not try to change a person as they will resent you for it. Love them as they are and if u dont then its not love, maybe an infactuation to begin with. The simplest ways are sometimes the most effective. Do not torture yourslef in the not knowing. Just tell him how you feel.
  15. supernetter
    Leave. The pain will subside over time.
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