The Evil Stig

Just setup dates with both. Its not crime to date more then one person at a time. Only continue seeing who you like better. Just don't have both dates at the same time and place, your life shouldn't be a sitcom.

Go see a gynecologist. I like vaginas as much as the next man, but I'm no doctor.

You're 18, let the emotions and passions be your guide. Now is the time to go get your dreams. Many people that have "great" jobs and make great money, like 6 figures, and are still very unhappy. They hate their job, they hate everyday, and the crap they buy with their money does nothing. Go for your dreams while you can, even if you end up "poor" if you love what you do, it won't matter one bit. And if you are passionate about what you do, the money will come in time. Now if 5 years from now, you are still not any closer to your dreams, then think about the money and reason. But now is not the time for that.

I think he likes you, a lot. LOL No he doesn't think you're "easy", he's probably just overjoyed to be with you. You girls worry way too much about being "easy". Its only a problem when you are desperate and clingy. Then you are as unattractive as any guy doing the same. Have fun, it all will work out fine, just don't call him and bother him all the time and you're set. Being around and available is no problem. Not giving him a minutes peace and seeming like you want him just because you're scared to be alone, that's a problem.

Oh yeah, exercise is a great idea. Especially for you, HUGE confidence builder. And its WAY easier then you think. Here is all you need to do, its very easy and simple: Eat lots of meat and protein, got to have something to make muscle out of, or you will only make things worse. Buy a cheap weight set. Maybe not even a bench, a few bars and weights is fine to start with. Easily less then $50 and not hard to store. Work out, with HEAVY weight. Now not so much that you hurt yourself, that's bad. But my point is doing a bazillion one pound reps is worthless. To start, use light weight you know is no problem, and add a little more until you can only do about 10 reps at a time. Record that amount of weight and go from there. Just keep doing it. Even if you don't feel like its working (but it should) keep at it. 2 or 3 times a week do whatever lifts you like. 10 reps or less, and 3 sets. Don't do it everyday though, you will hurt yourself and do more harm then good. Yeah, this does work. I'm not trying to sell you anything here, get some weights from a friend for free even. But it will help you feel like a man, an attractive man. Even if your face was hideous (which its not, where do you live that everyone looks so much better?) you can make up with it by being built a bit. That's the plan I have used and it works awesome. I have tripled my strength in less then a month. But then got lazy and haven't done a lot since. But this summer, I'll get back to it and be so much stronger people will gasp. Best of all you will feel like the strongest bloke in the country. And then you can just try a little bit and you will certainly succeed.

Yes it is easy for us to get erect. In fact, for most healthy males, we will get hard even for no apparent reason. He should be very hard before the clothes even come off. And once they come off, there is no way he won't have a hard on seeing your beautiful naked body... ...now I've got myself all excited and hard for that matter. Its that easy.

Don't just quit. Find a better job first. I'm sure someone with 4 years experience and such can find something better then a grocery store clerk. With any luck you will find something that pays enough that you can quit the bank job too. So I think quiting would be good for you, but I really think it would be better for you to find new work first. This gives you no pressure and you can spend as long as you need to. Draw up a resume and start sending it out to places that look promising. Good luck!

How did you "find out" this? Now if he really did such things he should probably go to jail, and you should definitely tell the cops. But the system is really biased towards women. Guys get falsely accused of sex crimes all the time and there is little they can do to fight it. For example, a friend of mine was drunk and accidentally brushed up against a girl. She had him charged with sexual assault and kicked off campus! Now trust me, he seriously didn't do anything, I was there and just in a moment when no one was in particularly paying attention, she starts going off and claiming this crap. At worst he may have patted her butt, but he was drunk and it may have yet been unintentional. Anyway, just saying make sure you have your facts straight before you act. They are very hard accusations to fight, so don't take it lightly. Now I have no sympathy if he did such horrible things, particularly the rape. But he shouldn't go to trial and possibly jail off a rumor.

1.Get a girlfriend 2.?????? 3.Profit! Wait... What I mean is, just get a girlfriend and walk into a room when your friend is there holding hands and kissing and such. Then have your girl leave and when your friend picks her eyeballs off the floor, tell her. Just say "Oh BTW, I'm bi now, in case you were wondering." No big deal that way. Ok, maybe that's not the best way, but its the funniest, and not the meanest. The meanest would be coming on to your friends and freaking them out, but they may not ever speak to you again.

If you actually sleep together as in, the same bed when not absolutely necessary, and you say you love each other on a anywhere near regular basis and not completely drunk, or in a truly joking way... ...then you're both completely gay. Straight guys just don't do that stuff. I'm not homophobic or uncomforatble around guys or anything like that. But I would never even consider doing ANY of that stuff. The only time I am in a bed with another male is when there are no other beds, its a big bed, and they are usually family, ie. brother. And we are on way opposite sides of the bed and complete ignorant to each other. I don't care if we touch a little, but we damn well ain't cuddling. And the only way 'love' comes up with friends is in a seriously joking manner. Like as in just to be dumb and yell something yelling "I'm in love with you man!" and everyone laughs. Usually done in the context of someone being called gay or someone being scared of gays. So if you said what I think you said... ...you both are totally flamingly gay. So go get him and out of his shell and have some buttsecks, you know you want to.

You can do two things... 1. Tell her you're gay 2. Smother her By acting the way you are you are being a huge challenge. Even if she was only a little interested at first, now that you're not responding you get her curious and wanting you even more. So if you were to stop seeing her as much and avoiding her, she might get the hint. Or you might make her want you all the more. Almost just to prove to herself that she can get you or to figure out what is 'wrong' with her. Strange, yes, but that's the way it works, you want what you can't have. So if you turned it 180 on her, showed up to her work, call her at least every hour, etc. Soon she will be so turned off by your desperation she will want nothing to do with your seemingly clingy butt. But that is sort of mean. The better route is telling the truth, but it depends if your friendship, or your reputation is more important.

Don't give up. At least you have ambition. If you can be motivated then you can succeed. I just keep getting less and less motivated. Getting to the point where I feel like just committing a crime and getting thrown in prison so I won't have anything expected of me nor have to do anything. But that sounds like the worst plan ever conceived.

I understand where you're coming from. I am pretty close with my family, but everyone does seem to ignore me. I never wanted that much attention, but I get squat for all my accomplishments. I do any little thing wrong and people are all whining at me. But I do awesome stuff and I get crickets! Its not very encouraging to try when no one cares. And when the standards are set that if you don't do it right you get yelled at, why should I try if I don't think I can do 100%? I swear I just do worse to get attention it seems. That's really unhealthy. But when I get close to all A's and its like "Hey you can get a 4.0 next semester" it is a real bummer. Or I help my dad rebuild a car from the bottom up, doing nearly everything myself, quite an accomplishment, and not only does no one seem to care, but he sells the thing a few months later! To 'save money' by loosing money selling it and buying a car 6 times as much as he just got back. What an insult.

I sympathise with you. I'm having very similar problems myself. Meds do help, you wouldn't be bad off to give them a try. I had some bad side effects at first, lost too much weight and stuff, but that all wore off. It was definitely working for a while, too bad I keep becoming tolerant. And counseling could be good too. But don't expect magic. Maybe I'm just too complex, but none of them have been any help to me. Still no idea what the underlying problems are or anything good to do to help. I have just been getting killed this semester. All my classes involve heavy amounts of calculus and that is one of my worst subjects. I may have just failed calc 3 for the second time. Ugh, even if I could get some kind of waiver I would still be better off going back to community college. I had a 3.5GPA there, not a 1.9 or whatever.