hoping

oh seabisquit lol u give me hope haha dun kno if its good or bad....but its like i have this hope....not right now but maybe sometime down the road (a year? 2 years?) that maybe she will consider getting back together...i dunno thats why i want some dumpers opinions on how they deal

hey if the feeling is mutual.....dont be afraid and take it 1 step further!!!!! it wont ruin ur friendship i PROMISE U! it'll make u guys closer than before!!!

did u ever try to make contact?

well....one thing that'll definitly open him up.....if he is shy....is next time when u guys lock eyes.....smile and say hi without saying the hi....so just basically say hi silently.....and make sure he sees u say that hi.....i dunno why but it works....lol.....i am almost definitly sure he'll say hi back....and voila! conversation is just at ur finger tips!

well it depends when u say "dating"....r u guys officially a couple yet? if u guys are official for a couple of months....and he starts wanting to spend time with u in....i really think he just want some real quiet and alone time with ya....settling down

how long has it been since the breakup?

well....i've always wondered and i still wonder.....specifically targeted for woman dumpers......but obviously all opinons are definitly welcome! when u dump your significant other from a long term relationship....i know its hard for both sides....but how long does it take for you (the dumper) to start healing? do u miss the person u dumped (if separated on ok/good terms)? if the person u dumped remains NC....would u consider breaking that NC and try to make a contact? basically just wanted to know the dumpers side of the story....emotional wise....assuming that the breakup wasn't becuz of something dramatic (cheating...etc)....

i just wanted to ask.....r u ABSOLUTLY sure that its him?

well i didn't have my heart broken twice by the same girl....but my situation sounds ALOT like urs.....and i am baffled as well....she gave me the exact same thing "i really really missed you at the beginning" but obviously some guy comes along all sweet and nice to her she decides to pick up and leave.... from words of the wise namely blender (a member here)...she suggests that "no one can beat the sense of "newness"....but newness wears off in time.....and the truth unfolds...." if the girl is as insecure as to have to have someone by her side ALL time...NO guy will be able to stick with her....and she sure wont find happiness within relationship anywhere..... i am terribly sorry for ur 2 time heart break dude....but again with the words of the wise from blender.....once the newness wears off...she will be left to deal with HERSELF again......and at that time....u'll be moved on probably with a better girl who REALLY digs U for who U r...

just wanted to say tho....in parents eyes...we always remain kids to them...

well im here quite often.... this is just one of those days that is just unbearable..... it always seem like every frustrating and painful things all happen at the same time...... i am still healing from a breakup of a 2 yrs relationship that happened a month and 4 days ago....it has been complete NC ever since....meaning i never contacted or been contacted by the ex...except for 1 letter at the very beginning of the breakup....i am definitly feeling im on the road to recovery and i do want to thank EVERY SINGLE member here for it.....u guys really helped me through some tough times.....and i really learned ALOT about myself as well as people in general through this experience (it was my first long term relationship).... however sometimes i really just feel like i lost something so close to me......and me and my ex live in the same townhouse complex (we're students).....and right now i have exams....as well as i only have 17 days left in the townhouse i currently live in.....i havn't found any other suitable housing yet....and yet the thought of moving out of the same townhouse complex as my ex really saddens me.....we basically lived together during the relationship cuz we literally lived 30 steps away from each other......and besides that, my summer work is a 10 minutes walk, and university is just accross from the complex......i dunno it feels like its the end of a huge chapter in my life.....and times like now i look back and still cant believe how a person who loved me and woulda done anything for me can change so easily.....really breaks my heart......i do have to say only 1 month and 4 days and im doing grand fine......but hey.....love really is everlasting....both the joy and the pain..... anyways its just a rent....sorry its a lil long....feel free to post how u guys are doing in your stage of healing.....its always good to hear how other people are doing....and looking forward to that 1 day when everything is fresh again...

female opinions?

haha i wish i had number...so i can go ask her myself lol damn it now im beatin myself over the head for not gettin her number on the spot!!! any opinions from females???

hmm yeah hopefully ill run into her again hehe....i've definitly learned to get the woman's number!!! i dunno she was genuinly really nice when i first met her.....so i really dont think she did that on purpose.....but oh well just like JRON said its just meeting new people i shouldn't read too much into it....but kinda still like to know maybe what the reasons would be for future references...hehe

well just an update..... i just came back from the gym....and she didn't show.... oh well....i guess i learn next time i should get her number on the spot hehe......but why would a woman set up a day to meet and then not show?? what would be the reasons? im not takin it personaly or anything but u know im takin it in as an experience....any suggestions? could she just genuinly forgot?

alright guys im gettin confused....well 1 more hour n im meetin up with her...any last minute advice? lol

well as far as i know....carbs is one of the neccessities for your body to function properly......along with protein!....they are human body's primary fuel....when u go on a diet....dont cut out all the carbs!!! resort to healthy way of losing weight such as doing LOTS of cardio workouts!! however when u tire ur body out...ur body need fuel to sustain its functionality....it will take energy from excess fat from the body AS WELL AS new fuel that is being consumed!!!! so make sure u in take carbs along with other good stuff that food offers! do cardio!!! i read somewhere that at least 15-20% even 25% of ur calories intake has to be carbohydrates...550-55% is a healthy intake of protein and the rest is sugar and fat.....

hey guys sorry to post again but tomorrow is thursday and its when i meet up with a girl i met at the gym...... this is the orginial post but only 1 person gave me a reply just need some perspective and opinions so i can decide how i can approach this girl tomorrow!!!!

commmmee ooonnnn PEOPLE!!! thursday is tomorrrrroooow!!!!!! NEEEEED ADVICE!!!!!!!!!!!!!

come on the good people on eNotalone!!! need opinionnnnss!!!!

oh come on people advices pls!!!!

i have been reading this thread.....and i love the lil humor in between the heated debate! hahaha well as far as my experience goes.....nice guys does NOT finish last! and an a$$hole certain does NOT go far..... unless ur a woman who has been thro abusive relationships and is god-knows-what-reason drawn to the abusiveness of a relationship....most women will respond in a positive way if their significant others SHOW that they care and they want to do things for the women.....hence the reason why women gets kinda upset sometimes literally over a later than normal phone call.... on the other hand....i believe a man should just be a man....no such thing as being a "manly man"....yeah man take care of ur business, get out there and make some money so u can support urself and maybe help out with ur family and your significant others....go work out.....get in the best shape u can be....and most importantly....man should just be straight-forward!...if u see a girl worth a compliement...give her the damn compliment....if u feel a girl trottin all over ur face....tell her u dont appreciate it with a firm tone and get the hell outta there! no need for nasty confrontations, and definitly no need to be an absolute d!ck to get a chicks attention.....i read it somewhere in this thread and i totally agree with this..."if a girl digs a jerkieness and the guy being a fckin d!ck for the long terms, theres is DEFINITLY some issues with her!" and ya'll probably wouldn't wanna even go for that kinda girl.... u guys feel what im saying? basically.....why cant people just get along? i have girls bein b!tchy to me before....but hey....why let some'in so dumb bother ya??? who cares! maybe its a shot on ur self-esteem for like that split second....but hey....i am darn sure that every single male in here HAVE what it takes to get a great woman....i also read it in this forum somewhere.....dont be scared to get hurt again....alllll part of the process! if ur in a relationship, and ur not giving ur all....why even waste ur damn time?? anyways im gettin off topic so i think ill stop now...but thats just my view... oh before i forget...Polka....ur views are sometimes quite extreme.....i just like to say that...yes alot of men likes to be d!cks...but they are the kind of guys u meet in certain places...like clubs, or bars.....alot more guys are genuinly really nice.....and u can meet them anywhere...from the gym to simply lining up at tim hortons for a cup of coffee....just keep ya eyes open!

hahahaha sadhatter dude i am happy for ya for being able to say that!

i c i c.....welll i plan to just casually ask her if she wanted to grab a coffee with me after the work out......but my sister said maybe i should become "workout buddies" with her first....i dunno what do u guys think??

wow i hope i can get to u guys' stage soon.....i dont have my ex blocked or deleted....i just have her at the bottom of my list but i still go and look at her name all the time...