PutYourBackIntoIt

My ex did the exact same thing! We could only find time for one another at night and I would rive to see him and by 11 he would pass out. It was usually after having sex, and I read that having sex releases some kind of melatonin or something that makes men fall asleep after sex.I don't know that it does that for women, but in any case I think you are over-reacting. I wouldn't take it personally.

I was just in a similar situation. I got back with my ex, and we both agreed it was only to be a sexual relationship. He bought me gifts, we saw each other everyday, and we always had a good laugh. His parents thought we were together again and they were thrilled. However, I got out before I got hurt. I didn't bother asking him where our relationship was. I simply got out. I think your friend should do the same before she gets really hurt. I just ended things with him over the weekend, and to be honest I'm really bummed, but it pales in comparison to the way I would feel if I'd have stayed any longer.

Thanks everyone for you input. I really needed a kick in the butt. I'm going to ditch him. Thanks again everyone!

It's really not a booty call anymore. His mom tells him to treat me nice and is always on his case about being nice to me. We hang out and watch movies, talk every day, do things together. He tells his friends about me. Him and his buddy are starting their own business and he told his buddy I would do their paperwork.(I never agreed to this) He wants me to go play poker with his buddies but I never do because I don't want to meet his friends. I wanted to keep the relationship kind of on the d/l but he's brought it to a level where it's more than a booty call now.

We broke up for a number of reasons. He was a jerk and I called him on it. He didn't take to this too kindly and went out and found another girl without telling me he wanted to end our relationship. He told one of his friends that I said I loved him and it freaked him out and that I called all the time. This time around, I haven't called him on my own once. I do not cuddle with him when we watch tv. I basically act like I don't care. We are not exclusive. THe initial agreement was to have booty calls every once in a while but they turned out to be 3-4 times a week. His parents know I'm coming over and they thing we are going out. He gave me a leather handbag and wallet for xmas that cost about $150. So this lead me to believe this was more than a booty call. We haven't said anything to the effect that we are dating. I have not brought it up. But he will joke around asking me how many guys I'm seeing, or why my phone is on vibrate sometimes. He will say "Oh waiting for some guy to call you, haha." That's pretty much how it's been for the past month. We started seeing each other again after we ran into each other at school. I've lost 20 lbs since we broke up and I guess he liked what he saw because he chased me down. SO that's pretty much our history in a nutshell.

I just need to know if I am overreacting, or if I should seriously dump this guy as I am considering doing so. I recently got back with my ex after a 6 month hiatus. Things were going ok up until last night. We were talking about kids and he knows that I don't like kids. The guy I was with previous to him wanted to have kids with me and I left him because I was not ready. I said "Man, when a guy says he wants to have kids I'm out of there!"I told my bf this and he goes "I want you to have my kids." and he laughed. I didn't know what to make of this. Did he want me to dump him so he wouldn't have to dump me? After we had sex he started falling asleep. I then said I was going to go home and let him sleep. I started kissing him on the neck, like 3 little pecks and then he goes "Hey cut it out now." and he laughed. I was like "Umm what?" and he laughily replies "You're getting all lovey dovey now." I was shocked and confused. I'm not a very affectionate person so this was a bit odd. I said "Fine, I won't touch you then." And he continued to laugh. Before we broke up the first time around, I was pretty clingy I guess. I was the first to say I love you, always wanted to see him, etc etc. So I don't know if he's referring to when we dated before. I am really considering just breaking it off but I don't know if I'm overreacting. Help!

I'm just interested in hearing other people's opinions and experiences. What makes a bf/gf too clingy? What has someone done in the past that made you feel they were clingy? Too much affection, incessant calls, etc etc. Would love to hear other's thoughts on this...

You could not be more right! I did all those things and more to my ex when we broke up. If I was him, I wouldn't want to come back to me either. But here's the real kicker; my ex and I are back together. Went 6 months no contact and then we ran into each other at school. We were both each other's first serious relationship and we both made mistakes and learned from them. We both know what NOT to do this time around. Give them their space, and when the timing is right, you could very well get back together!

It seems to me that he likes the chase. He wants something he can't have, and the minute he has you, he doesn't want it anymore. It's all a game. I'm just surprised that men in their 30's still play this game. I wouldn't stick around for this guy. I'm all for playing the game, and if you choose to do it, be cool and DON'T CALL HIM. Don't be there at his disposal so easily. Good luck!

If he's thrusting his penis in without working it in at first, it is going to hurt. He's got to start veeeeeery slow and work it in just as slow. The hole will expand. It is a little uncomfortable, but I find it quite enjoyable, but the guy has to do it right!

Ok so my ex and I are having sex after spending 6 months apart. Initially, we agreed that we would do it every once in a while, and I am cool with that. I was under the impression that once a month would suffice. But he texts me EVERY DAY and he's been acting really weird. The other day we were on one of our "booty call missions" and he whips out a really nice leather purse and wallet for me! He bought me a sweet a%^ XMAS present! When we were in a relationship, he never bought me anything, it was like pulling teeth to get him to spend money on me. He's also reaaallly affectionate now, never was when we were together. I'm honestly totally confused, and I'm starting to believe that he wants more than just sex. Do people usually give their "friend with benefits" really nice XM presents? What in the hell is going on?!!!??

It is my experience that the uglier the guy is, the more balls he has.

Well, my heart is saying go, but my mind is saying HELLLLL NO. I miss him, but there was so much hurt involved, and I'm scared to have initiate any kind of contact with him. I'm more or less waiting to see if he does anything. Last time I tried to contact him, I was met with a text message saying "F YOU B%%^ DON'T CALL ME." So I stopped trying to contact him. Now he's trying to contact me, which is why I'm confused.

Ok, to make a long story short; my ex and I broke up over the summer, it was messy, we both hurt each other and are both equally at fault for a lot of things. I loved this boy, but there was so much pain involved and I'm still not over him. He was over me pretty fast and it devastated me. Anyway, everyday got better and I moved on a bit. We attend the same Community College, and I never ran into him until about 2 months ago. We didn't say anything to each other, just looked at each other uncomfortably. Two weeks after this encounter, I get a prank call at 2am. The person told me to brush my hair. I have very beautfiul, wavy hair, my ex never saw me with my hair down. It was always up. I wear it down now and it looks amazing. AnywayI traced the number back to his friend's phone. (They are obviously morons to not block the number Fast forward to a week ago; I see him in the hall and i just said "Hi Jon!" and he said "Yo what's up and kept walking. I then walked by him again on my way to class. Apparently he followed me to my class because I see him peer in the window through the classroom. I was like uhhh ok. I get a text later that day from him saying "I thought you were done with school" I responded and didn't hear anything back from him until this weekend. 2am he calls, but I don't answer. He leaves a message "Hey I thought you were coming out with us tonight, Anthony told me you were." This is really bizarre because I don't see how one could accidently call their ex gf at 2 am after seeing her a couple days prior. He's totally capable of making this up, he did stuff like that before.Whatdo you guys think? And why can't he just call me on a regular day and say hi instead of calling after he's had a couple drinks and leaving some bullcrap message? Is he afraid?

Dude you're not over her. You posted a novel about her. The day when she doesn't cross your mind is the day you are over her.

Sounds like she found someone else. Two weeks is an awfully short no contact period. Try a couple months, she'll come around when she realizes you don't want her anymore. (If you still want her, just act like you don't)

They are not called EX's for nothing. Move on.

Well, his friend owns his own construction business and listed his cell phone as the primary number and it came up. My ex works for this guy, also. My ex is obviously a moron.

Well last night at 1:30 am my phone rings. It's a number I don't know, so I don't answer. Five minutes later it rings again, so figuring it must be of some importance, I answer. A guy saying his name is Mike says I met him at a bar. This never happened. I say "You have the wrong number." He was like "No you are Jackie, right?" Well I am Jackie indeed, but again I say, "No you never met me and I don't know you." He says that I flirted with him at the bar. The conversation ended when I said "Ok I'm going back to bed." He says "Ok, take care and brush your hair." WHen he said this it made no sense. So today, curious, I google the phone number and it comes back saying it belongs to a guy that my ex is friends with. Interesting. My ex and I had a horrible breakup and we were really awful to each other. I haven't spoken to him since July, but I saw him in the hall at school 2 weeks ago. I have a new hairstyle now. I have thick, wavy hair and I put curl enhancers in it. I had my hair this way when I ran into him. When we dated, my hair was always up in a bun. I look a little different sine the breakup. We didn't say anything to each other when we ran into each other, I just gave an awkward smile. After all the hurt I've been through with this boy, why is he still trying to hurt me? It's been months now and I'm over the him, but this just opened up the wounds again. Any input as to why he's pranking me?