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haha, alright, so i guess i won't take it as a big deal.

Well, I did make a move, I could tell she was hinting towards hanging out, so I asked her, my question is why was she all in a bad-ish mood today, it didn't make any sense to me at all.

btw, we both like each other a lot if that helps you make more sense of this.

ok, so i asked if this girl wanted to hang out with me when she was free and she was really happy about that, and said yea and wanted my number, she would have given me hers but her phone was taken away, anyway, my problem is like, yesterday went hella smooth, what i don't get is today. i was like getting like a vibe she was in a bad mood or something, so i felt bad cuz of that...the weird part was like she was sorta flirty though, like looking at me and exposing her neck, or flipping her hair over her shoulders and playing with it, or just straight-up looking at me. she seemed happy but was in a bad mood about something. it was really ******* weird haha. anyone have any ideas as to what it is? maybe you girls out there would know?

It seems like you aren't being real with yourself. And she senses that. She probably thinks your trying too hard to win her over or something. Find another girl, she doesn't seem interested at all to me...sorry.

Let me tell you, just get the balls to say it; don't think at all, just say hi, its not hard, then you will naturally take it from their because as being shy you won't wanna mess it up because your too focused on yourself (a reason why you can't talk to her). I recently got rid of my shyness for good, its such a better feeling than feeling all reserved and messing up all your chances with girls your into. trust me, you wanna try to talk, its sorta "scary" the first time, but after that its easy, you'll just be nervous haha.

oh ok, well that sucks, how long does it take until they go away?

Sorry I posted this in the wrong section by accident, could a mod move it to the appropriate one please.

I tend to have problems eating greasy food. I had some microwavable food, then some fast food. I threw up and I got these red dots all over my face. They are sorta like little specs mostly around my eyes and mouth, is there anyway to get rid of them in about 10 hours? I don't wanna go to school looking like I have some new type of acne haha.

Just tell her in a note that work is a problem socially between the two of you, and you'd like to get to know her better, then ask her for her number. and that should be enough to set it off. and those vibes, are probably because she's frustrated because you haven't done ****, but i don't blame you since you don't see her at school/have classes, etc. and work messes with you and her talking. good luck

I'm pretty positive, and mature. And I have a hot car haha. its a late 80's mustang GT, in case your wondering, and i've fixed it up hella. I need to re-take my driver's test because I barely got below requirements but other than that I can drive.

I think your less confident with your surroundings than when you were at your old school. I'm not too sure what else to say about your problem, but at least I scratched the surface for you? good luck

Girls kinda suck for me this year (so far anyway hah). All there into is the older guys who are immature, big ego'd douchebags. They don't give the guys in my grade a chance this year (im in my softmore year at a new HS). Especially shy guys, they don't give them a chance at all (me). I'm a pretty good guy...I'm understanding, caring, I listen to what your saying and actually care, have a sense of humor, good hygiene, etc. I really don't get what my problem is. Will junior year, be better, for having a chance to ask someone out...hopefully? Someone that's been through it fill me in here. I just don't understand why girls would go for some guy with a douchebag personality with high status over some guy with ok status and a great personality. That doesn't make any sense to me and seems really fake. Whatever, advice appreciated.

How you show your interested is like you become friends with the girl your interested in but the catch is you act like a potential boyfriend while being a friend at the same time, instead of becoming a friend and putting the potential boyfriend feelings out there later on...most guys do that, its the wrong way to go and then the common situation happens where your buddies with the girl, and she won't wanna go out with you cuz you blew your chance. It's hard to explain the friends category thing. For example, when you get to know them, be a friend and small talk like you would any other girl, then throw in a compliment that's sincere or something that would display that you want to be her friend but your interested. That way by throwing in this "monkey wrench" in that friends category stuff women like to put guys they meet for the first time they meet them, you increase the chances of you having a shot with going out with her. good luck

umm that's a little too much...i think i'd scare her off. thanks anyway though. anyone else have suggestions?

So, I kinda have problems with making first moves. I often center most of the attention upon myself too much, thereforeeee making me really nervous, and I usually end up passing some chance to chat up some girl by. I was wondering, there's this girl who's in 2 of my classes, I know she's pretty interested in me, I already figured that out, I was wondering how I could get a conversation going with her...besides in-class group activities, do you think on break I should talk to her? See I think break would be a good idea but her friends are out on break and stuff and I don't want to say hey [her name] and have her like not hear me or something and have her friends just stare at me and laugh at me like I'm pathetic or something haha. Ok well maybe I'm thinking too worse-case scenario. Also there's a formal dinner/date event coming up, do you think asking her after my first conversation with her is good? I'm almost 100% sure she wants to go with me, I don't feel like explaining that story so just take my word for it haha. Thanks for your help. And if girls could chip in and give their opinions that'd be awesome.

I feel you man. I didn't really get the smarts of the family either. My brothers both are amazing at every subject in school, while I on the other hand get mediocre grades. School isn't all about hard work and discipline I believe, I think that it also involves a certain degree of intelligence. But anyway, about your looks, your probably not as ugly as you think. You just have to highlight your attributes (the 40-year old virgin has a point there haha). It makes such a difference, changing your clothing style and such, having good hygiene, all makes a great difference to how people view you (if you care anyway), and it will boost your self-esteem/confidence, something I believe your lacking a good amount of. If girls give you repulsed looks, don't worry about them, they have issues. They shouldn't bother you, there the ones with problems not you...unless your looking at them in a lusty way that makes them really uncomfortable, then I think they have the right to look at you like that. See here...you had a mindset that was basically set on how you wanted to rely on someone to clean up your act for you. You shouldn't view getting a girlfriend for this, it is not there job to get your **** together. You should look at getting a girlfriend, as for possibly getting dating experience, and just experimenting with different types of girls, maybe if your more serious your looking for someone with similar interests to yourself. See I think commiting suicide is rather pointless, you can fix all the stuff you have in front of you. It's a irreversible error to a temporary problem. Think about it.

Alright, so I'm talking to this girl tomorrow for the first time (in person...i used to talk to her over the net before summer and stuff so i don't know if i've already built that, i have some classes with her this year so if this isn't necessary just let me know), and I want to build some comfort, although I'm not completely sure how. Should I ask what she did all summer? I'm thinking that's a good idea since its pretty general and a good conversation starter because it leads to a lot of things, and it's not boring...unless the girl isn't very interesting and didn't do anything all summer but i'm sure that's not the case here. background information: so last year i was a shy guy and never talked to her in person, so after nearly the whole school year of giving me lotsss of chances to chat she finally stopped liking me and moved onto other guys. but we both got to share what we like and don't like and some personal stuff and i'm assuming that's why she's interested in me this year, cuz she likes my personality i guess and wants to know more about me. soo girls: do you think i should maybe talk to her over the net first and get a conversation going over the net, then, start a conversation in person, so she's comfortable? i have break with her in this one class so that's when i'm planning on talking to her. when i used to talk to her over IM and stuff i found out we have a lottt in common so the initial spark of chemistry should be there and the conversation should flow naturally off i guess the topic of summer haha. i've already smiled at her to show i'm interested, and she looked almost straight down and gave me a big smile so that's great. so she's not gonna be discouraged from approaching me . and i have another question here, if she isn't looking at me lets say on break but she knows i'm nearby saying "hey [her name]" is ok right? i hope that's not creepy or anything haha. if anyone has any extra advice about this let me know. your help's very appreciated. also if you could get some replies in in the next hour that'd be great, i have to get some sleep for school. thanks. EDIT Also there's this formal dance/date coming up by the end of september (30th) and I wanted to know if I should ask her if she wanted to go, I'd like to but I think that'd be coming on too strong for a first conversation...let me know what you think. [/b]

alright ill probably just smile at her soon haha.

Ok, so there's this girl I've liked for nearly a year, didn't chat her up last year at school because we really didn't have any classes and it felt awkward to approach in the hallway when she was with a group of friends. she did like me last year for most of the school year, then gave up, but im assuming she's interested again. So she's been eyeing me ever since the first day of school, got a smile once, and most of the other times no smiles (no i did not smile back, im sorta shy but im breakin out of it). anyway in class, there was a guy friend of hers let's call him "A", and A was talking about "B" his guy friend who's really into the girl. So A said "hey, do you know B is pretty much obsessed with you right?" and the girl said (also she talked a bit louder during this, probably so i can hear it,) "so, i don't like him". But you gotta remember that B is one of her guy friends that want to advance the relationship to the next level, and after she looks at me in a interested way, she looks back at A, then says "I don't know what to do" and then looks at me...so yea then class happens, and I caught her looking at me like around 10-20 times the whole period, and they were interested types of looks, i cant really explain how the look was i just know they are haha. um..yea then when she was talking during class to her friends it wasn't as loud, so i think she wanted me to hear that conversation. Just so you know, she was interested in me for the longestt time last year, and i think she is again haha (that's the feeling i get anyway). Also her girlfriends were lookin at me today (she wasn't around) so I guess she talked about me? And, we also talked last year on the 'net for a while, except i never talked to her in person cuz i was too shy then, and talking to her in the halls just seemed VERY uncomfortable (i know you gotta go for what's uncomfortable to break the comfort zone n all but i didnt). so im thinking about like just sayin hey on break next week and ill see where that gets me Advice is much appreciated, thanks. Oh, and if girls could reply only that'd be great...

I have recently took up the addicting habit of smoking...but I want to quit because I found out I have a lot of lung cancer in my family. I mostly just smoke cigarillos and cigarettes every now and then but my habit is gradually increasing because im relying on nicotine even more...so what should i do? I haven't really smoked very much I've had about 3 cigarillos and 2 cigarettes so far...I'm pretty sure I can quit without any help and nicotine gum or any crap like that. I'm afraid to talk to my parents about it because they'd be hella mad if they found out I started smoking. And my mom even said she'd call the police on me if I was doing that....pretty absurd..well my peers all smoke so i guess i have a little bit of pressure from them, and my dad smokes cigars. well anyway, I was doing fine on my own (not smoking) for 5 days, then one of my friends (he's a chain smoker who WILL NOT quit whatsoever because hes so dependent on nicotine and he knows it..) he had 6 cigarettes in a day and I was hanging out with him and I thought I was fine because I was only getting secondhand, I wasn't having any cravings and I was denying offers for a cig throughout the day. So anyway I think I got nicotine poisoning because after his 5th cigarette I felt really nauseous, it felt like the flu. The duration of this was about an hour. I laid down for 30 minutes and drank a bottle of water and felt a lot better. Anyway, I want to stop doing this because I don't want to become addicted like my friends who have to smoke at least 3 a day to get their fix. I think my main problem (that's bugging me A LOT at the moment) is that I have a pack of cigarettes in my room. Usually when I get rid of them I can go without smoking them, so I guess I'll try getting rid of them tomorrow. So, I really want to quit, because I don't want to end up getting lung cancer, or other cancers, my would be grandpa (died before I was born) died of some cancer related to smoking at 50 so yeah. I have to quit this ****, advice would be more than appreciated.

being naturally funny's a turn on, i prefer that over a chick who's naturally quiet or something.

Ok, so I'm into this one girl, she's into me I can tell. But we're like way past the whole body language stage, I've talked to her over the internet and stuff, but never in person. See like, I'm really bad at making conversation unless the person I like has one of my classes (she doesn't). But I see her in the halls, except when she sets herself up for approach and stuff, I like try to do it but can't. I don't know why I don't have the balls to talk to her, I mean I want to but like...I don't know I guess I'm afraid of messing up Could anyone give some things to think about so I just do it when my next opportunity comes around again? I'm tired of ******* up.

Try fixating your thoughts on other important things in your life. When a thought about needing a bf comes to mind, switch the thought to something else immediately...hope that helps.

Personally I think he's trying to avoid you. It's probably not the best thing to tell you this, but there's no other way to send my message accross, but I think he's losing interest in you. But, just to make sure, if you get anymore bad signs like this, it's probably best for yourself to just break up.