Hi,
my bf and I have been going out for nearly a year now and lately things seem different with him.
1. We had a discussion and he admited that he missed being able to flirt with other girls and that before we started going out he was always hanging out with sum girl. I kno that he checks out other girls and he admits that if we weren't going out that he'd hook up with sum girl he thought was hot. so now i'm paranoid about whether im pretty enough to keep him.
2. Lately he's been dropping hints about my weight, so i asked him straight up and his response was "well ya u r gaining some weight in your face and thighs." He also claimed that he wanted me to stay healthy. I was hurt but I asked him so I couldn't be mad at him for that.
3. He came to visit me at my dorm one day, and we had left my room to go out and eat. I closed my door and tried to hold his hand but he pulled away and just gave me his arm. I asked wut that was all about and he said holding hands with someone is a sign of weakness, and that he only did that at the beginning of our relationship i guess to "secure" things.
4. This literally just happened. Yesterday I asked him to come over on Friday (today) since we'd have my room to ourselves. He said that he couldn't he had work, which isn't a problem he typically works on Fridays. I talked to him earlier and he said he had to start work around 4 and before we hung up he said he'd call me in a bit. Well hours went by, and i figured he was at work and i didnt want to disturb him, but I was still curious. so i called, no answer. about 5 mins later he called me back and I asked wut he was doing? He said was just out having a smoke? and asked if he was at work and he said no, that his boss told him to come in at 9 instead. I asked him y he didnt call me and tell me and he said that he'd just picked up his shotgun (he bought a new shotgun he's into that type of thing) and wanted to show his grandpa which he ended up having dinner with. after he went back to his house and just played some video games.
and that's my story. so my question is, are these bad signs? Is he doing something behind my back? Thank you so much for anyone who responds it really means a lot to me.
