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  1. bungalo
    Day 34 for me..but I will call her probably tomorrow..
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    haven't posted every day,...still nc day 11..rough confusing
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    This is day number eight and I feel so so today
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    day 6 and happy as hell
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    forgot to post yesterday, this is day 5...
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    I know I learned a lot in our 5 years together, but why couldn't you get off the fence? I am angry at myself for not seeing you as you really are INFLEXIBLE, PETTY, JUDGEMENTAL, A MARTYR, A PERSON WITH A NEGATIVE ATTITUDE!! NO LOYALTY! I loved you 100% but you couldn't let go of the past. You had to constantly talk about the past, your childhood. I HATE MYSELF FOR NOT STANDING UP TO YOU AND KICKING YOU TO THE CURB YEARS AGO.
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    This is day three. Went to a sports club last night had a pretty good time. Reading a bio on John Belushi. Having Thanksgiving with my kids tomorrow and the old old ex. Not the current ex. peace.
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    Day 2. Go SuperDave ur my idol.
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    Sign me up. I sent her an email only dealing with my sister's cancer diagnosis yesterday, but that's it. This is day one. Great idea
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    Hey Goodguy, Part of your solution is in how she reacts to the other guy. Take a clue from that. It drives her nuts that he can blow her off. Now you need to start blowing H E R off big time. Regain your power. Girls don't like wimps. They are turned on by confidence, mystery...not feeling that they've got the guy wrapped around their finger. Show some strength.
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    Hey Sunflower, Take it from a reformed cheater, this guy is handing you a huge line of you know what! It's called not having his impulses under control and buying into the "grass is always greener." You are better off without him until (if) he wakes up!
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    Hey Drum, I have to agree with Jenny. Sometimes the dynamics just aren't right with someone we love, or think we love. I think you need to get out of this one, and either take a breather from relationships altogether, or just find someone fun to date for a while with no serious overtones. I know that not being able keep someone makes us want them even more, and you have to get really clear on this....and it takes time...give yourself that time to heal. Best.
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    Hey man, It's been a really hard lesson for me to learn too...but you gotta look at the woman's actions and not listen to her words so much. Actions scream...talk is cheap! Also why o why are you working on her mother? Are you living in the 19th century? In the old days men would ask the girl's father for his daughter's hand...so stop working on the mom...it can only lead to trouble! You also sound very self-deprecating...this basically gives women the green light to sh** all over you...because after all you do it yourself! Read some books or take a course on public speaking and try to bolster your confidence man...I don't think you sound like you're in any shape to marry anyone.
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    No no no...what I have discovered is I fall back on old, destructive self-sabotaging habits. THis book is not about manipulation it's about maintaining integrity and recognizing what you can do to overcome problems in relationships...or notice the signs and get out before you get your heart stomped on.
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    Ok Dako, I mean after you READ it it makes sense. Basically the crux of the formula is that in order to have a long lasting relationship, a) you need to find someone who is clinically sane, and a flexible, giving person and b) you have to have confidence, control and be a challenge to her-women don't like wimps or guys who fawn over them or put them on a pedestal. The book basically goes through many, many scenarios that are common and shows you how to apply the principles. Smart a**.
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    good Book For Men: The System-by Doc Love. No Joke. This is A Common Sense Manual On How To Handle Yourself Once you're In A Relationship. Go To link removed And They'll Link you Up To Order It. It Works. I Followed His Plan And Had a Really Great Relationship For About 2 Years...when I Fell Off the Plan The Relationship Started To Fall Apart!
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    Hey guy, According to the book I just read...if you reeeeeeeeeeeeealllllllllllllllllllllyyyyyy want your ex back. You have to be willing to start over and date her again and take it slowly-with no expectations. Your situation sounds a lot like mine...with lots of personal and professional problems..it just wasn't any fun anymore. However, I think you can re-frame it and start over. But you can't dwell on the past and do a post-mortem on the relationship, just take her out and have fun. And just see what happens.
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    Ok...so it's Friday night and I'm still stewing endlessly over my ex of 2 years one month to the day after the breakup...so I'm online looking for stuff to read to heal my broken heart and I come accross link removed so I think oh yeah another breakup remedy. The book I found at the store (how to get your ex-lover back) was somewhat helpful, but it kind of assumed that you were in pretty close contact with your ex and actually had some stuff that just plain doesn't work--like lots of gifts and cards for the ex. So Friday night I order the ebook from the advice diva .... It's a good one. Well worth the $18.00 I am starting to date again and working out and things are turning around for me. Check it out.
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    Hey Super Dave, You gotta quit putting your head on the chopping block. It's been a month since my ex quit me...and it's been f****** hell-I have talked to her a few times and saw her once to pick an item up from her house...but I have signed up for link removed and I have a coffee date tomorrow....it doesn't completely take away the pain, but while I'm talking to the new girl I don't think about the ex as much. My advice to you is...exercise, eat right, force yourself to go out and have fun...and date. I have never done this before...I usually wallow in misery...but not this time. Best
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    I broke NC after 2 weeks and feel like I really need to just give up. We were together about 2 years. I asked her to go to the botanical gardens with me for a special event-she loves nature. She said she had to work for her daughter's school band. I then (not smart in retrospect) asked her out for lunch or dinner-she said she'd have to think about it and get back to me. Discouraging. Then she talked about her kids and her job etc...and how she thought I was bargaining when I came to her house to get my bike. I agreed. I suggested "couples counseling." She is a counselor herself and she agreed on the spot to participate, and then asked me who I had in mind. I told her I was still interviewing people at this point. Very tellingly, she didn't ASK ME ONE SINGLE QUESTION. Nada. Other than the perfuncory, " how's it goin?" at the very beginning of the call. No questions about my kids, job. NOTHING. I told her that I was happy we still had a dialogue and how good it was to hear her voice. She did agree with this. Then I had to go to work and suddenly she says she needs a couple of months before we go to counseling, adding again that she needs to think about it! I am so f****** obsessed with getting her back it's ridiculous. I need to stop and just realize that if she wants to reconcile she's got to get the ball rolling. Crushed.
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    I dreamed I was at a funeral of someone I didn't know...here's what the dream analysis website said about it: To dream that you are at somebody else's funeral, signifies that you are burying an old relationship and closing the lid on the past. You may be letting go some of the feelings (resentment, anger, hostility toward someone) that you've been clinging onto. This couldn't be more right on. Although I am still confused about the relationship. Doing NC going on 2 weeks. Thought you might find the interpretation interesting. I think I'll keep a log of my dreams.
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    You guys are obviously further along than me. We've been broken up for a bout a month with 2 weeks of NC. She hasn't made one blessed contact with me since it ended. I still obsess about her (after 2 years together) nearly every frikkin minute of the day...I need to get out more but feel so blaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah. I will force myself soon or I'm gonna lose it.
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    It's obvious that you have feelings for him, but one line hit my funny, "he needs me." Need is not love. Need sounds like deep dependency. So if you open the door to him, be prepared to feel like you're being used.
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    I am so glad that God brought you into my life. I have learned so much about myself since we've been together-and even more since you've gone. Even though I'm depressed, I know what I need to work on to feel more whole. Sometimes you were very rigid, and you projected a lot of your insecurities and stuff on me, and quite frankly, sometimes you were just plain boring- but I still love you with all my heart. Please come back. The blinders are off-I know we can make it work if you give us a chance darling.
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    Depression has settled in. Going on 2 weeks of NC. We were together 2 years. The depression seems to be helping to wipe out some-but not all of the obsession. It looks and feels like a grey, colorless world. I still cling to her last words to me-"I love you too." And her saying she might be open to a reconcilitation-but couldn't say when. Tried to call a girl I met once about a year ago-but she didn't pick up. Probably a good thing in my condition.
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