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  1. cherrytree
    I guess because I still care, even though he doesn't. I'm going to do some traveling with my sister and friends and hopefully that will help put some distance between me and him. Not real distance but make me get over him faster.
  2. cherrytree
    I thought he was sincere when we got back together. He even talked about our future, being married.
  3. cherrytree
    It depends on how well you know the guy. Personally I wouldn't invite a guy into my house that I didn't know very well. If you don't feel comfortable, I'd suggest something fun, like mini-golf or maybe going bike riding if you do that, and take a picnic in backpacks. If it's cold where you are, maybe you could treat him to a college basketball game and then dinner at a fun restaurant. But if you do feel comfortable, a casual dinner is a cool idea. Keep it simple though--something you are familiar with making. Then it will look to him like you're a breeze in the kitchen and it will be good too! You could have him over to watch the game on TV and make man-food like chili and/or wings and stuff like that. Just a suggestion!
  4. cherrytree
    That's awful! But good for you for getting back on track.
  5. cherrytree
    How do you get rid of a "hold" that an ex has on you? You're not in contact with him, no ties, no common friends any more.
  6. cherrytree
    Don't. They always come back out of the woodwork after you find someone you are interested in. Don't go back.
  7. cherrytree
    Anyone who uses any of these lines is a jerk anyway and doesn't really deserve an answer. It usually IS them, they don't know how to be with anyone, they don't know how to love anyone, and they are not your friend...so give 'em all the space they want. Just say, goodbye, good luck...and walk away. You don't need them and after that, you really don't want them. You don't deserve to be treated like yesterday's dirty socks.
  8. cherrytree
    So if I'm dealing w/a guy who wasn't very nice, broke up w/me and I'd love for him to come back to me & realize what we had can still be, is it better to do NC or should I be talking to him?
  9. cherrytree
    That is SO true...I loved the "throwing pearls before swine"...great image! You're right, I can't hold on to that. Maybe he did realize what an idiot he is, which might be why he calls after that, acting like he cares. Some days I'm angry, some days sad, some days I say "good riddance". I want to get to the point where it doesn't affect me one way or the other. It gets better by the day. HHWH: Great analogy--no I wouldn't! I guess that's like not answering returning my ex's calls, etc...I would not want to open the door to let him hurt me again.
  10. cherrytree
    I am sooooo tired of putting myself out there, giving someone my heart, my love, and all of me, and having it stepped on time after time. I think he broke me. I think my "person picker" is broken.
  11. cherrytree
    You know what, I have felt that way before w/him...like he was in it for selfish reasons & not because he actually loved me.
  12. cherrytree
    It's rough, isn't it paco? To maintain even though you're dying inside. I long to talk to him, to hear his voice, to touch him, hold him, love him, laugh and smile, walk through the woods holding hands...all of that. It's all that that is hard to let go...just him. I still mistrust him, don't get me wrong...but the letting go is hard. So I'm doing like you, self-preserving and self-respecting...trying to finally let go like you, so I understand what you're going through.
  13. cherrytree
    If they don't want you to move on, why do they say it? If they don't want you, why the desire to feel safe in the knowledge that the other person wouldn't be? That sounds...manipulative? Controlling? Why keep hanging on to something you don't want? That seems crazy. Forgive me for sounding judgemental! But that's really what he did to me, isn't it? Made a judgement knowing the good person I was and chose not to continue anyhow. So it reinforces to me that it wasn't me, it was him (to use a breaking-up cliche.)
  14. cherrytree
    Did you break up with him, or he with you?
  15. cherrytree
    I think so--if he wanted to get back together, wouldn't he say so? I do believe he is extremely insecure. I don't think he knows what he wants to do. Like he wanted to show strenght by letting go but he can't because maybe somewhere in there are some deep feelings for me...the kind that make him want to stay. I don't know. Or maybe he thought I was going to leave first so he was beating me to the punch. I know I should ask him, but that means talking to him and I don't want to go there because I don't need that aggravation. I'm dying to do things with him...to get our friendship back, and even our relationship. But not at the expense of putting my self-worth aside. It still exists in there somewhere But if he says "let's talk", I might be too tempted.
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