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  1. Ated
    I asked him today whether he loves this girl and he said... 'i dunno, we havent dated for so long' but he told me that he DID love me... So i dunno. The fact that he moved on so quickly, somehow i feel that they're not gonna last. She has my frame i was told by a mutual friend. But the relationship sounds serious cos apparently both their parrents know that they're dating each other
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    I honestly do not know his intentions. BUt my gut tells me that he wants me as a back-up in case things dont work out for his new gf. Im not even sure about this new gf of his. They dated straight after we broke up (a motnh after) although he claims that it was 4 after we broke up that they started dating... HELLO? we're broken up for 5 months and you've been together for a 'couple' of months..?? I was told otherwise. I was told theyve been together for 3motnhs... wathevr! The thing is is timing! bad! i got my HSC (equivalent to Sat's i think) I just graduated and everything is going well for me... then now hes back in the picture. what is his agenda??? your a guy? i dun get it... he dumps me, gets a new girl... but wants me? huh?
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    Thing is tho, we bump into each other more than necessary. Serosuly, one time, i saw him like 3 times in a week. He said that he just wants us to have 'no problems', that if we run into each toehr we can say hi and talk 'decently'. I dunno but why NOW? out of the blue? and he told me today that his new gf is eager to meet me? what?!?!?!
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    Ok so he asked me to call prank him tongiht but i dindt. Im assuming i did the right thing. I knwo i wouldnt get back with this guy. I deserve better. However, i sometimes just wanna get back at him for what hes done to me! is that bad?? I mean, ive been crying for 5 motnhs and he just replaced me... Now that he's calling me, i feel like hes gonna use me as a backup or realising that i was a 'rare gem', i wanna take this oppurtunity as i have power atm. Do u think i should play him bak? Or what? Just not pick up his call ? i dunno!
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    I've been trying to heal for 5 months now. My ex broke up with me because i was 'mothery'. Being replaced by a new gf after 15 months of r'ship is not pleasant. Nevertheless i was fine. 1st mnth was spent on begging even after the rubbish he put me through i had the decency to 'beg' for his friendship. Since this drove him away further and made him mistreat me even longer, i did NC on the 2nd month and was heading in the right direction. With my luck, on the thirst month i run into him! How convinient! I heard that he had a new gf and it hurt to hear but now... after 5 motnhs he actually called me! after 5 motnhs! Every single day for the last 5 months i think of him. Less and less everyday and i dont cry over him as much, but today... he called and he said he wants to be 'friends'? What am i to do? Be the 'nice girl' that he knows me as... and be a doormat agian? Or just ignore the calls and act busy? or Tell him what ive been dying to tell him then tell him that we cannot be firends but we can be acquaintances. I mean, he went through the trouble of getting a new gf, why out of 5 motnsh he calls now and acts like nothing has happened?!
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    No girl has to put up with this attitude! No ONE needs to put up with this, full stop. He is the one who is a moron and dumb. He is dumb cos he takes you for granted! You are a very loving girl, as far as i can tell... The way he is treating you is unacceptable. I think that he only wants you cos ur there. Sorry hon, but 3 years is a long time, and i think that you might have grown apart. You said that when you get the courage to break up with him, he comes back and says sorry. WELL OK, thats THEN, from NOW on... Break up with him and that is IT! IT IS OVER! Do not take him back!!!! It is for your own good. SEe, the reason he keeps coming back is cos he knows how great you are. But thats the thing, you are GREAT, TOO GREAT for him! He has no respect for you, he only wants you when he feels kinky (if u get me) and that is NOT on! Dump him girl and live your life. As for you dating other guys, i think just stay single for a bit. After a r'ship like that, i think you should just stop and treat yourself. Go out, spend the money on YOURSELF, not that selfish boy! HONESTLY, i firmly believe that the GUY should pay... (not all the time of course). It should be fair. 50/50! ok maybe 50/40 hehe Girl, pls don't feel down, i really feel you. But pls just try and listen to me... I hate it when girls cry over stupid guys. "Anyone who deserves you knows excatly what you're worth". This is a quote i now take, i got it from 'Trueheart', a fellow poster. She is really good at giving advice on r'ships! Another that i can tell you, and recommend you live by is this: "First chances are given, second chances EARNED, and third chances DO NOT exist!" Think girl, your not his part-time girl. There's more to love than now and then. PEACE! Stay strong lady! Show him you can stand in your own 2 feet!
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    Hey, not trying to put you down, but i do think you were harsh. I mean, you were like sisters as you said, and she probably never had anyone so close to her... And i am sure that it breaks her heart to hear you say the things you are saying. And the fact that u just changed ur number and email to avoid her emphasised that. Lady, i know you love ur man. BUT as the saying goes, 'boys/girl (friends) come and go, but true friends don't... I think she just wanted u to break up with ur bf because ur spending less time with her... I am not sure, but i do agree with what others have posted and that is to write her a letter. Don't break a frienship cos of that... I don't believe its worth it. WEll keep us updated!
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    AFFIRMATIVE! Before you love someone, you have to learn how to love yourself first. TIP: Girls like confident guys, but not TOO confident that they put on a show and think that they are 'big shots'.
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    I absolutely agree with outlaw! I couldn't have said it any better... I do agree with other posts, yes looks are important, but would u go out with a 'high maintainance' girl... which is more than likely to be a gold digger... Personally, i do go for personality. To me, it doesn't matter what you look like, as long as you have a good personality and solida morals and values, to me, ur a rare gem! I really get turned off when guys/girls try so hard to fit in or whatever, cos they want to be 'cool'.
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    Well he said that 'anything' can happen... He also said that we should jsut let love take its course. WHICH I TOTALLY AGREE WITH! But, the thing is, if im interested in him and he's interested in me... we should NOT look for anyone else right?? Things is, i think that he is not as interested in me as i am him, because he thinks that long distance wont work. And agian, the intimacy issue...
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    Oh shinobie! Ur such a sweet hearT! I should send u some flowers! awww ur so cute hehe
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    The thing is, the guy i met. he has massive potential to be my bf... In fact, he even wants a r'ship with me, BUT he lives in korea... and that sux big time. I like him sooo much. I dunno what to do?? Ppl say... 'ull find ur one' but now that i have... he is unreahable! I thnk he'd rather not have a long distance r'ship too... i mean, i can understand cos i'd want to be able to hug and be affectionate with my man... *SIGH* BTW
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    Your right... But as you said, it's gonna be really hard to make it work. The thing is, i want to be 'intimate' with him.. u know? I dunno how i can if he's so far away...
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    Question!!! If a guy 'plays the field' and he is single, it is considered ok... BUT if a GIRL does the same, she is looked down upon. Why is this happening?? I mean... It is soo sexist! HOnestly, if a guy found out that a girl was playing around, they would not even date her! What is the deal!?
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    Im having a bad day... i hate it when i just FINALLY get over someone (or so i think) and then you hear about him... because a mutual friend bumped into him! I wish i would just stop caring! Its been 4 months now and i'm still in pain! FAR OUT! I just wish i would cut that section of my brain. On a positive note, i met a guy and he's wonderful~ Everything i could want... BUT, he lives overseas... (korea) and that just totally sucks because i don't know if we'd ever have the chance to meet... WHy does love hurt?
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    Hey Shinobie! UR NOT UGLY TO me, No one is ugly, people should be judged by the content of their character, not the colour of thier skin... (or in this case, your looks) Well, i dont get it tho. You guys say, you like good girls. Well, what about a girl in the middle. See, i thinkt hat im THAT GIRL. The avearge girl --> i 'party' as in enjoy dancing and having fun, but as you guys say, its not like PARTYING Is my world! I mean, im the type of girl, who can party, but mostly behanved. I dont drink or smoke or go raving and do drugs. I believe you don't need that to have fun! SO i dunno, with that said, how come, guys dont go after me??? I dun get it! Guys want the either extremes.... Im can easily adapt so i think thats a good quality to have? what u guys think?
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    i resent that comment! I believe i am a nice girl. Quite excatly what u described! Moralled... and likes to settle down. Although im not shy, but i can be. I'm generally very friendly. Trust me, i am thinking the same thing bro! WHERE ARE THE NICE GUYS?! I found two, one i like and you (so far) hmmm Not promising! The onle i like lives in korea, funny that! I find 'the one' im looking for. A man with everything i like and adore... not to mention a bonus -- VERY CUTE -- and with my luck, he lives in korea! Fabolous huh?? Well, trust me, there are nice girls out there, just looking for them is the real challenge. Well, let me know when u find a 'gold' girl BUT MEN LIKE U are an endangered species. I agree with what u said, girls partying drinking and smoking and all. Actually, my ex broke up with me because im too 'caring'? I dun get that! PFFT whatever! I dun understand what guys like in a woman? Caring - too mothery, too borng. Partier -- No life! I dun get it! ME on the other hand, is in between, and i get dumped?? erhhh the male species... so intriguing!
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    Yeh... Thanks It seems as tho he's not interested in me as much as i am in him...
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    *sigh* I really like this certain someone on the net, im just hurt that when i finally 'move on' from my last relationship... I can't date this guy. He lives like in America! ANd im im Australia... OH I dunno what to do. Is it possible for me to actually have feelings for him? Ive never met him in person?
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    Good point Katie! Thanks for the advice! Much appriciated!
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    thanks drnick! hehe Yeah its been 3.5 motnhs already, so ive been ok. The thing is, 3 months, we did NC and i was GREAT, then all of a sudden he comes back into my life.... popping everywhere! Then i find out he's with a girl for a month already. Which makes me feel worthless and really damaged my self esteem? oh well... gotta look up!
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    WOW! Thats good! Inspiring. I wish i could do that! Just smile. He doesnt even deserve that much! *sigh* the day i finally move on will come! Erica... You gotta be strong! hehe
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    hahah! I know what u mean about mutual friends To me, i could use them to let my EX know how WELL im doing (starting from today) cos when i saw them the other, i made a fool of myself. Telling them how awful my ex was ya ya ya... Anyhoo! he reason for the post is when ppl need to vent! So today, agian im having a good day. But yes, bad days come and it sucks!
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    Hey Clare! I think you might wanna read my other post in that case... "Today i save myself (shout out loud).. in the healing after breaking up section! I wanna see you reply to that post ok??
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    I'm gonna be a brave girl! I'm gonna have a good time! I'm gonna find wat i really really want! Song lyric: To think I'm so naive How dare youPlay with me? I gave youHeart and soul yeah Tell me baby, please Why you screwingWith my head? I don't thinkYou understand I won't take your huh...No more! Don't knock on my door! Not this time Because I recognise... I've heard it all before and I I Think of all the timeThat I've wasted Think of all the times That I took you back Ain't no wayI'll be lonely! I don't wannaLet you back in Let's just face it(Face it) I'm Better off alone and I won't turn back You thought that i would be lonely... I dont want to let you back in! Don't tell meHow to feel Or say that You're for real My mind's made up I'm cool without you You got no more appeal Now this girl Don't need no man To Say what she can do or she can't Now I live for me! Boy does that make you weak?? Think of all the timesYou made me sick. I used to think I couldn't handle it. What you think I'm just another chick?Lost your grip Boy you must Have tripped! What were you thinkin' When you lost my trust? You had it all now You're left with nothing! Oh baby, nowI know you Want my touch And now you're lonely And you still want me!
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