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  1. Ated
    So what your're saying is... You have to make ur BAD karma become a GOOD karma by learning from it???
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    dotneter: Wow... never thought of it that way. Good point! I was suicidal twice, but a good friend of mine said it IS selfish. Think about the people you are leaving behind. Trust me, I know everyone has problems, but no mater how big it is, it does get better... You just need to count your blessings. Be constructive! I know i did... and my life is really sooo much better. I'm glad i didnt commit suicide. It is selfish, and as dotner said: "suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem".
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    Hey everyone, I would just like to know if there is a thing as Karma? See, I feel as if i've been a 'good' person, HOWEVER, it seems as if in my love life, i always get dumped, and always the one who gets hurt. My 'family' is broken, and i just dunno whether i deserve this?? I guess what i'm asking is, why does bad karma happen to me?? Will i ever have good karma?!
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    "I need to focus on my studies right now...", even though, a week later, you see him at a club trying hard to pick up.
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    I know u love him and that is why ur hurting. But the thing is, he is right. You should not stay together because i think HE HIMSELF knows that he can't help himself, and you will get hurt even further. It is unfair, but if u stay with him, as he said, you will get hurt even further... You need to be with someone who will be faithful to u... I htnk he will contact you, BUT, i think that you should try NC for a while.
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    The thing is... I don't really wanna be friends, cos i KNOW that you are RIGHT. It would never be the same. But, what i want is, that things wouldnt be awkward. Y'know? Like, if we saw each other, just ask how each other are. I mean, I feel as if we're like enemies u know? Anyhow... Seeing as tho, i had the decency to talk to him first AFTER what he put me through, i guess that is ENOUGH for me. I don't need to beg for his friendship! God! Apparently, we "don't connect that way"?? huh??!?! Whats that mean? I think its just an excuse... Pfft! Whatever! Guys are sooo puzzling. He told me I gave him such a headache! Quite the contrary! lol
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    I agree with both posts. Wow you guys! U've got really mature answers. Very well put. Hey rich, u seem really nice... and mature? what happened in your situation?
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    Man, oh man... Do i feel the same way as you. "I'm different from other guys..." heard that before>?? When later on, you find out that HE is ONE of the guys?? I reckon i dated the King of as*HOLE$! Don't even get me started. He was very emotionally abusive. Anyways, i am SURE that there are nice guys out there. HOWEVER, they are really an endangered species. We need to just filter all the bad ones. PLAY the "PlAyErS!" so they can learn (get a taste of their own medicine) so that they HOPEFULLY change perspective on how to treat women. I swear, this quote is almost true "How many guys out there that are sweet, romantic, smart and handsome?? Two! But they're dating each other!" This might offend some people, but sometimes i feel as though women turn into lesbians because guys are just useless!
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    Hey rich46! I really like ur advice in this post. i also like the way u write! U really know how to explain things well! Good job!
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    I did the same thing man! But this is kinda what i learnt: As my friend puts it: "Chicks before d*cKs, Bros before H*e's!" well, boy/girl friends come and go, but friends don't. (true friends anyways)
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    hi! u know me! I have read ur post before rmanaudio! I just felt like the other posts already put it in the best words. And my advice woulda been the same anyhow. We are going through this togetehr! I guess we should take everyone's advice and apply it! Hard eh?! We'll hang tight! we got each otehr to keep each other on their feet!
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    Ok rmanaudio!!! *salutes*!!! Out of sight, out of mind! Thing is tho, we were walking past each other, so couldnt help it! well, at least now im over him right? Thanks for the advice rmanaudio! but dont get angry at me! ur last post seems to be shouting at me. Im happy. Everything is fine. All is good! Plenty of fish in the see! But i dont think ill look for fish. I'll let the male fish look for me! Good idea
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    hahah "friends" is always good to feel better! and shopping and ice cream on top! Even better! Yeah im glad im over him. But hes been in Australia for over a month now and he didnt even let meknow. He didnt tell me when he left and when he came back. But then i spose what was he to do? understandable! As for the 'mothering' thing! Ur absolutely right. I 'mother' him cos i tell him not to smoke, to go home (not clubbing SOOO LATE when he's gotta work the next day) I guess the reason i couldnt let go before is the thoguht that it was SOOO easy for hiim while it was soooo damn hard for me! Im glad im doing better, not completely "OVER" it, but over it enough. if u get me... I just wonder whether he even thinks about me? at all? in a good way or a bad way? its so funny how i TALKED to him! otherwise? we would be like strangers forever! So funny! I'm more courageous than he is. I feel like waht i did was a mature thing to do too. KEEP being HAPPY tiki! looking forward to ur reply! (if u do... lol)
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    HEY tiki: Just with my luck i saw him again TODAY. We even had eye contact! :S freaky it was! But i just kept on walking. as u said, held my head up high. However, i still do care about him deeply so i turned around, swallowed my pride and talked to him. WHen i saw him... i felt nothing. i felt like a bigger person. I saw him smoking... (still) and he was unshaved... and i dunno he looked unclean to me. I couldnt tell whether he appriciated me talking to him. But i just thought it would we sad that just cos we broke up, we should talk to each other anymore. I dunno, i wish i showed him that im doing good with myself. I think i made a mistake handling the situation tho. I AGIAN, expressed my concern, telling him "he should really cut down on his smokes" but, thats apparently "mothering' him and the reason for the break up. Well, ive always thought to just ignore him when i do run into him (read what rmaudio had to say... but i kinda glad i did talk to him. It shows that im not a chicken and to me, it shows maturity? am i just being conceited? or is my perception straight>? Any comments welcome. PS: I feel soooo good today. And its weird cos when i dont see him, i just hear about him, it brings me to tears, but now that i saw him... i did feel unattached and i guess that is a good sign. I just now hope that he meant what he said "ill never come back to u" cos i dont want him to! :S
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    OMG!!! I was walking today... and i saw him!!!! I was walking out of a street near my home, and he was walking into the street. I was wearing a hat and shades, so i think he might'nt have recognised me... but i reckon he did because as soon as i saw him, i moves to the other side of the street. OMG! I called my friend and she said i did the right thing ignoring him. (besides, i was listening to music) My god. I feel so retarded. Here i am on the forum talking about him, and with my luck i saw him today. Just great isnt it?? ARGH!!! Sorry guys. had to vent... I guess it just emphasised how pathetic i am, seeing as tho its been 3 months in passing and im still hurting while he just goes and party.
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    i guess ur right. TRUE LOVE NEVER DIES. But then, is it possible for 'true love' to be one-sided? As in, he's MY true love... but im not his?
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    So what you are saying is, becoming friends after a relationship is slim to none? *sigh* why does love hurt!? WHY?! It's depressing that you think you want to spend the rest of ur life with someone then after a few months/years, it all goes down the drain. And you don't even remain friends cos it 'hurts'. ARH>>> >.
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    I hope i dont see him... Otherwise, im afraid i'll break down. I guess I'm just still hurting because he isnt thinking baout me at all... and it's all too easy for him. I dunno what he is upto now... but i guess i'd rather not know... rmanaudio: You're right, 17 is young... However, i do think that i love him. I guess what hurts also is that, i come from a broken family, and i never had a real relationship with my father (he was very abusive and even threathened to kill my mum with a knife in front of me!) His family on the otherhand, are sooo loving. I guess i wish i was a part of that. ALso, he now smokes and drinks a lot... and when i tell him to stop, we broke up. evepm: Thanks for the advice... sometimes, i need to hear what i already know, just to confirm it. I care about what he thkns cos we use to be close. The thing is, i gave him everything i can and have. THen he just boke up with me. It makes me feel soooo worthless and i feel like no one will want me. I guess also the time that i spent with him. 1.5 years.... pretty long time building a relationship, then breaking up and then looking for a new one... Thanks you both. It really helps, not to be a complainer, but i'm the type of girl who worry a lot. I even seriosuly considered going to a psychologist. I've been to my school counsellor and that helped me a bit. *sigh* If you have any more uplifting words, its MORE than welcome!
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    Hi, my ex broke up with me about 3.5 months ago, he went overseas and dint even say goodbye, and here i am, trying to get over him, thinking that i was over HIM. I mean, i am SO much better off without him. BUT, becos of mutual friends, i found out that he is now back. I started to panic and all wounds opened! I dunno why i still feel so stupid. I htought my crying days were over. Does he ever think abotu me>!? Miss me?! I mean, he was soooo harsh to me when we broke up. Eg, he said to me "i have no love for u, go find someone who will. Other are "i regret going out with u" He told me he wanted to end the relationship a while ago, but he felt sorry for me. Im just really hurt again, it feels like we broke up yesterday... I just wanna show him that im strong... how do i go about that? I mean, ppl say to 'run' but, what if u bump into each other?! what then? Pls, if its not too much trouble, gimme some advice... I'd appriciate any input! Thanks XOX
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    I wish i did RUN... It's actually been 3 motnhs now that my ex broke up with me, he said that he felt 'restricted' and wanted to 'have fun and party with his mates'. Anywyas, basically, long story short, we broke up cos he chose his pothead friends over me. He feels like i 'mother' him... since i tell him that he should smoke and stuff... So i did NC until now, BUT, i thought that it wouldnt be nice if i just never spoke to his friends (sorta mutual friends). I usually have them blocked on msn, but yesterday i unblocked her and she said to me that my ex was over HER place. I didnt know what to do. i thought i was doing soooo well. IN fact, i was! i concentrate better at school, i got my driver's licence just yesterday.... but i dun understand why 3 months and im still hurting! I wanna run, but i never really got the closure i needed. i dont wanna run cos i wanna show him that im doing better without him. I mean, what do i do when i run into him? say at a mall!? if i just run, then i would appear weak......
  21. Ated
    I agree with skynet74. Yeah! good post!
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    kleptoz28 Yeah... like to be honest, i know i am better off without him. I mean, i gave him everything... so really, it was HIM who lost something. He lost someone who genuinely cares for him. I just want to know why he would be so hurtful. I mean, all of a sudden a MAJOR turn-around, drop moral and values, just to be able to "hang out with my gang"?? He told me i was immature cos im 17 and he's 22... and its just like?? HELOO??? Yeah, ur 22, why do u still do what u think is WRONG and u were against...?? Its all so weird... Sometimes i feel like just 'playing' boys, using them for money... cos at least "I" get benefit. I gave everythig to this guy for pure love and i get a kick in the face. He use to hit me too (after i hit him, but i still find that a bit unacceptable?? lol)
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    My ex broke up with me in April... and i guess its been 3 motnhs. But we did speak in those time. Like 2-3 times?? and in all occasions, he mentioned how much he didnt miss me and how he REGRETS going out with me cos he's never met a person that can't give "such a headache" I can totally relate to your post, however, i can't help but feel (and still) going through a rough time forgetting about him. He damaged my self-esteem really bad! in so many ways... and He does smoke weed and go clubbing (hence we broke up). He wanted "fun and freedom" I dunno... before, he was so sweet and caring... use to tell me "im a diffrent guy" but yes, NC shows that he is all the same. But what gets me is that he is such a hypocrite and just twists everything! Like, his friends think im a psycho?? What the?? I dunno why smoking weed and going to clubs is so important? *sigh* i swear i never did anything wrong... except be "possesive" why does he hurt me like that? To make himself feel better??
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    Stronger -- Britney Spears Unpretty -- TLC Destiny's Child -- So good J. Lo -- I'm gonna be alright Brandy -- What about us Janet Jackson and Carl -- I bet you think this song is about you (Don't you) Evanescence -- Going under Christina Aguilera -- Fighter Scandal' us -- Me, myself and I
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    Dude... I think she's toying with you. See, i think she doesn't value the relationship as much as you do. You say she broke it before. After about 2 times of breaking up (for stupid reasons), the relationship becomes a joke. The fact that she wanted you back after her friends saw you with another girl says something. Also, the fact that she went back to her ex says the same thing. SHE IS UNSURE about everything in her life. Personally, i don't think you should get back with her. My motto is: "If they've done it before, they can do it again". See, if you come back to her, your giving her power, the "upperhand". Powerplaying is what she's doing. I would say that the fact that it was easy for you to get a girl's attention. You are much better off without her stupid games and get a deserving other! That's what i think! Wellllll Post back!
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