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  1. Ated
    Good point. Never thought of it that way.
  2. Ated
    But why not say sorry? Wouldn't that make them feel better as well the person they hurt? I think if they apologised, the dumpee will able to get closure. And as for them, apologising will enable them to 'move on' too, in a way...
  3. Ated
    Very true richgabe. Ok, let's narrow it then and be more specific. What if they DID do a MISTAKE. Let's go with your example, an affair. They themselves know they were wrong. So why not apologise? Is it a pride thing??
  4. Ated
    Why didn't it work out with your ex. I think you should have waited till you were over your ex. It's unfair to your current bf. I think your current bf is really in to you and i thik you should appreciate him better... I dunno how to be more helpful, im sorry. But If u love your ex and he loves you, why is he with another girl?? Maybe you can ask him next time u talk what he REALLY wants. He can't play with ur emotions. He can't have his foot on the door. He's not letting you move on fully...
  5. Ated
    And what if they do? Do they just "grow up"? And not do anything about it?? I feel that even if they do realise their mistake (whatever it is: hurting the dumpee, cheating or whatver), they would not do antyhing about if to 'save their face'. I mean, i THINK that they might learn from it and treat the next g/f better, but wouldn't t be nicer if they apologised to the person they hurt? I don't know if I'm making sense. But i really think that most relationships fall because of miscommunication. It is sad because (i feel) that if we are outside the square, the third perspective, we can see where it is going wrong. For example, at movies. lol (maybe not the best example huh)... Anyways, at the movies, as an audience you see a couple break up because they failed to communicate about somehting. ANd it drives me crazy because i think that maybe half of the r'ships in the word will not break down if they just be honest!
  6. Ated
    I think you should not because she didn't hesitate breaking up with you for another guy... Why should u always be there for her, when she's not there when you need her?
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    Both. Well he called me agian last ngiht.. But we ended up arguing agian. And NOW I KNOW THAT FOR SURE I DUN WANT ANYTHING TO DO WITH HIM! Get this: He already has done it with this girl. I felt sick and disgustted. This girl was innocent.... and i KNOW that he isnt that serious with her... But who am i to judge. Anyways, tammygurl really hurt me, so i feel like i should just deal with my problem myself.... I really feel sad cos im getting hurt by some guy, and some person telling me that IM IMMATURE ... I dunno... wahtevr....
  8. Ated
    I think you are misunderstanding.... I am saying that she is indian because he always told me that he couldnt be with me because he is sri lankan and i am filo. He was in fact the one who was being racial. His reason for dumping me was he cant see a future with me because his paretns will not agree to the 'marriage' or watever. I said. Tahts ok... We can just remanin friends. and he said "NO!" Then out of the blue... he tells me that he has an indian girl. And when we were together he kept telling me how IMPORTANT that he marries a SRILANKAN GIRL WITH THE SAME SOCIAL STATUS AS HIM! I think your really getting me wrong. Quite frankly, I think your attacking the wrong person. And honestly, i think if u knew the whole situation, you will be more in side of me. I got nothing agianst the girl. In fact i worry about her. Just last night he spoke to me... and said that he already 'did it' with her... I dunno anymore... But i guess if thats what u think im doing i cant prove to u otherwise. I really felt stressed last night... and id rahter you have put it in a nicer way. Now YOU just make me feel bad too... Oh well... *sigh*
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    Btw, this is why i find it weird right... because : 1) They satrted dating STRAIGHT after our breakup (wel after a month) and we dated for 1.5 years... and he DID love me. (DID) lol 2) One of mutual friends have said that this girl has the same frame as me (very strange, one fo the fellow posters here at enotalone mentioned that this might be because i was his first love or wavter but then it could just be his 'type') 3) Another mutual friend said that he still wears the ring i bought him the ring that we got 'engaged' (ppft) in right? Not really engaged, just a semi-serious/joke between us. But still... 4) I do hip-hop and this girl apparently is into dancing too. ( COincidence?? ) 5) She is a very shy girl... and im very friendly... she hardly talks, and im very dte... Opposites attract? 6) The mutual friend in number 2 mentioned to me that when he met the new gf (btw, he couldnt even rmrb her name lol) that they went clubbing and they look like they are just friends (no pda) which leads me to think maybe its all a trick to get me?? it could be that she is a rebound (which is unfair) And last of all 7) The same mutual frined in 2 and 7 asked my ex when they went clubbing agian whther he was serious with this new girl and he said 'no commitments man!" oMG how rude ist hat and what does it mean?! 8) This girl that my ex now lives with (just a friend) said that they were talking about ex's the other day and she asked him if he was over me and he said yes. BUt she said that she wouldnt have asked if there wasn;t any reason to... so im like "hmmmm * raised eyebrow* Any perspectives..?
  10. Ated
    Anyone>?
  11. Ated
    You knwo what is ironic? After we broke up, as you would expect i did the begging and crying to get back together... (man how foolish i was) lol He told me that he just wants me out of his life!!! and he told his close friend ( a mutual friend ) that i bug him so much that he'll change his number... Hard as it is, i ddint call him and u know i made great progress! Now, he is calling and im the one he is buggin! I wish i can tell him. Btw it just hit me today. OMG even his good friend (mutual friend of ours) said that he aitn worth it... Dang, was i deaf before? Damn love IS blind! ](*,)
  12. Ated
    You are right Mix Maxter. I probably would do the same thing if i was the girl... Hmmm Now im really thinking Ok, so that is it. ENough is enough. The next time he calls i will say. Look, the first time u called you said u want to be friends and to have no 'prblems' (im guessing hard feelings) and i agreed. So i will say. Ok we can be friends but there is no need to call for no reason. No need to call to see 'wassup' or 'what are u upto?' Im doing fine and so are you. Im getting on with my life and i dun really appricate your calls... what u think?? I dunno the whole situation is REALLY weird.... like... sumtimes i think MAYBE he is having doubts and wanting me back. NOT THAT I WOULD GET BACK WITH HIm! Seriously guys, this man is just screwing me up big time. WHen he was around he hurt me, when he is not around, he TRIES to be around! KILL ME!! What i dont get is, apparently him and his new gal arent as intimate as wen we were a couple. By that i mean, they dun hold hands in public and stuff. I Dunno what they do in private, but i couldnt give a damn anyhow. Point is: A stong part of me feels that he is wanting me back or regretting the break-up. HOwever, i dunno if that is the case. It might be "me" for all i know... its all so twisted ANY MORE INSIGHTS PPSLSLSLSSL
  13. Ated
    You REALLY hit the nail there SExySadie7!! This is why i created this post... Because when girls treat guys like 'gold' as you said, and we get treated like a doormat... The guys will think that this is appropriate and more than likely to treat their next gf's the same. And thats unfair on BOTH girls. WE worked hard to get their mentality where they are... I opened up this guy. He use to be really shy. NOW? He'll talk to anyone who has boobs! My gosh its pathetic! Yes, his new gf wanting to meet me is VERY strange indeed. I dunno what to think. I have come to a few conclusions; a) He is scared because i was able to move on b) Wants me as a back-up (safety net) in case things dun work out with his new gf c) He misses me or not miss me and wants to further hurt me by rubbing that he has a new gf (to show how much 'stronger' he is... PFFT I dunno, But if he calls agian, 70% of my friends suggested to just tell him off and not call anymore... I mean, i AM doing better without him. However, i dun wanna be harsh on him. I mean, i did give him hints that 'im busy' but he calls again... P.S The first time he called and yesterday... he REALLY did seem like he was excited to talk to me. Like, he wanted to call me for a while but didnt have the guts to. Its all very weird this situation i'm in. Any angle that u can see it from, pls... tell me! It'll be a great help. THANKS
  14. Ated
    DAMMIT! I asked him whether he ws totally over me when he called the first time... He of course said no. Damn im so silly. So what do i do now? I mean, of course he knows that i still care about him. I have another post about revenge. I was wondering wat to do, whether to be friends with him so that when i do get a new bf he'll get jealous... or that i just tell him i don't want to be frineds cos when we broke up, he practically told me that he dun even want to be friends.... He also told me his new gf wants to meet me. how weird huh?
  15. Ated
    In this case, what do u suggest me do the next time he calls??
  16. Ated
    WELL they make it so hard if they contact you. my ex called me last sat (after 5 motnhs) to tell me hes got a new gf... and he called me 6 times. I didnt know it was him... so i picked up. Its so funny cos he was the one who was VERY HARSH to me at the break up. I even had to beg for his frienship... But when he called, he said he wanted to be friends... whats the deal?? He called me agian today, 3 times, last saturday 6 times. I was still in the healing process and then he calls out of the blue? And now i got all these questions in my head? what do i do?? I mean, i dun thikn he wants me back.. but why call me if he has a new gf?
  17. Ated
    OMG he called agian!!! WTF?? I cant seem to tell him off. I just act friendly and make excuses like 'oh im just on the fone with someone, ill call u back..." and 'im busy studying' ... i cant tell him 'STOP CALLING" what is wrong??? i dun want himt o call me... but i cant tell him? how do i tell him??? I reall y hate thi,s
  18. Ated
    Ok so heres the deal: last sat he called me as you all know... Today (saturday) he has called agian I defintiely gave him hints that im busy and stuff and i did it that way so i wont be mean. But i think he isnt getting the point. My friends have advised me to just say it straight out. But i cant do it! i dunno why. I cant seem to scream and tell him to leave me alone. How do i tell him i dun want to hear from him in a 'friendly' way?
  19. Ated
    hahh good one! definitely!!
  20. Ated
    Ignoring is fun! I reckon you can do what he did to u... When he calls say.... "who is this? (insert name) who?? (last name) "NOPE! SOrry I dunno anyone by that name. I think you got the wrong number!" HAHA
  21. Ated
    I dun know what will be best for you to do but this: DO NOT BE FRIENDS> only 'friendly' No way man... she wants to keep her foot on the door. Thats not on! Especially after leapfrogging into a new r'ship! SLAM THE DOOR AND LOCK IT!! Don;t think it is 'slack' What she has done is 'slack!' Fight fire with fire. DOn't let her hurt you even more... and besides, if she treated you like that as a bf, just imagine how she would treat you as her 'friend' PFFT whatver, i thnk she is a total waste of your time, which can be better spent on studying and showing her that you can do so much better without her!
  22. Ated
    hahaha thats sooooooo funny! I would love to do that, but im too 'proper' lol hahah anyways.... yes, revenge seems like a good idea!!! But i posted about it and they say "live well and be happy" is the best revenge!
  23. Ated
    He is indeed a scum!! And the fact that you recognise it, is a good step to recovery!!! YAY Trsut me tho, working on yourself and yes surrounding yourself with friends that make u feel good, makes this guy sooooo unworthy of your time. Honestly, if i can do it, ANYONE CAN! I hate jerks. They need to be castrated... BUt we shall not cry over them. We shall walk on them... "I'm floating on air!!"
  24. Ated
    haha! Your really sweet hotboy! Thanks for the advice. Been a lot yourself huh? I 100% agree with: "Live is way too short to stop your life for another individual. {who put you to hell}" LOL
  25. Ated
    SOOOOO right ONN!! It's quite pathetic actually. While this is going on, you should get a make over too! get EVEN PRETTIER! Then he'lll come running back to u cos not only your pretty and nice and everything.... but you had something together.... THEN
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