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    me4ta I KNOW excatly what you mean. e're in kinda the same situation, i made my ex look better and stuff... and i help him open up. Now that he is easier to talk to, he talks to girls. I have no idea why they do this. I guess its cos they're egotistical. But like the other posts said, not every guy is like this. I know it's hard to think otherwise. You and me both. We have to stay strong! WE CAN DO BETTER! THINK: If we loved them so much and they replace us like that? Why should we waste our time. If we get married to them, the hurt could be soo much worse. I dunno the right words to make you feel better, seeing as tho im feeling a lil down lately. But i do KNOW that we DO deserve better and good things happen to people who wait. Plus, if u just ever need to vent, you have somewhere to go and people to talk to. Keep us updated. Hope u stop thinking about this jerk. I swear, i wonder sometimes how god can create such vile creatures...
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    Oh man, this guy hurt me sooo bad, i woulndt even give him a second chance! lol I will seriously choose who ever i date carefully. I chose my ex for the right reasons and i dated him with whole heart and was so loyal. Almost the 'perfect' g/f to be honest. Til' the day he started to lie to me, made me insecure and then that's when it got out of hand. After that, he dumped me for some girl that he knew liked him already when we were still dating. Such a slap in the facem but was a true wake up call. No man, from my bitter experience, if u don't want to EARN your second chance, then cccccccc yaaaaaaaaa! This guy taught me not to settle for second best.
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    If the ex did you wrong, then definitely do NOT go back... But if you did them wrong, then prove yourself. "First chances are gives, second chances earned, third chance do NOT exist!" I believe that if it didn't work the first time, it's gonna be twuce as hard to make it work a second time cos of your history together... Hmmm I still agree with not going back! lol Look ahead!!! Move forward!!!
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    heheh you're right. It is too much energy. Okies. Actions will do the talking.
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    Ok, Update: I have decided that if he calls me agian, i will be polite and pick up the call but i willl act busy. This will make him think that i am letting him put his foot on the door, but i will drop hints that i dun really want his call. If he still calls me, after dropping hints that i dun appriciate his calls, then i will stop and just tell him straight out. And then i will give him a big speech saying how much i am better off wtihout him and how he has burnt his bridges and that i cannot be 'friends' with him because we have a history. Along wth what i need to tell him in order for me to have closure. Then, I will give him my blessing and wish for his new gf and himself to have a good life! =) Sound ok?
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    Agreed!~ 8)
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    me4ta : Thanks. Thats a really big help. That is why i wanted revenge. Cos he knows that i am too caring and kind and loved him truly. And that is why he STILL plays me... This is the reason why i wan to be unpredictable. He is expecting me to cry all over agian and be such a softie, but i want revenge dammit. Ive changed too! I have learned to put my foot down. You are right. Ignorance is bliss. I dun go out of my way to find out where he is or whatver (tho i used to) but i found that that hurts me more so i stopped. But now... he calls. How weird. I somehow feel like he is just trying to save his face. And i feel that deep inside i know he cant say he dun love me. He can say it on the fone but not in person. WHATVER! He broke my heart. I want to break his jaw. I cant stand the fact that now he'll be sweet talking this new girl. I should write her a thank you note for taking him away. Thanks for replying. BUt do u think 'revenge' is bad or what?
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    hahah!! that is really funny I wish i could do sumthing likedat! how did she manage to do that... Gross but funny!
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    I will most definitely take heed of what muneca and you have said kipster. You guys have been of great help. I truly appriciate it. I just need to vent i guess. Thank you for understanding. Sometimes i feel stupid cos i knwo what i have to do but its so hard to do it... I really treasure your advise cos i know you have been thrugh worse or similar situations. Thanks agian.. I just wish the next time i do get a bf, ill only give them what they give me. 50/50 Hey survival of the fittest right>??
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    Ok well that opened my eyes! i definitely appriciate that POV. THANKS Man im sooo stupid.... Ok ok. great i think im ok... I know waht your saying. I do understand. I just gotta apply it. u know how they say 'easier said than done'. I wonder if he will miss me? lol PFFT oh well... i got a lot of things in my life that i need to worry about. You're right! I dealt with so many thngs in my life... all he's doing is draining my energy. why waste time on sumthing so undeserving. Im sorry to hear about losing ur ex-fiancee. I cant help but be negative. Now i think that i will probably die alone and single... We live in a disposable society. So fashion-conscious and materialistic. Where is my old-fashion man?? Sumtimes i think to myself, if i have given EVRYTHING i got to this man, and it resulted in me getting hurt.. I wonder if im ever gonna be good enough?? i know i know... im being silly... 'im young, my heart is gonna get broken many times' and that is scary
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    Im not a bloody martyr... why should i put up with all his crap right>? I mean, he left me, so why should i be friends with him... Im only human. I cannot stomach being friends with him while he replaced me with some random girl
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    Im 17. he said that his NEW gf wants to meet me... No i have no bf cos this one really hurt me... i dun wanna get hurt agian man... crap. I truly feel that yes given the circumstances, he DOES deserve me. I swear, he god cannot create such a vile creature... He even hit me one time and attacked my family problems... I guess it was my fault that i ddint leave him then...
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    Thanks all of you. Especially kipster (you've been REALLY helpful) I didnt know it was him calling. I do not have caller id in my phone as he called my landline and not my cell phone. I probably would have picked up the call tho to be honest... to satisfy my curiosity. I gotta give credit to myself tho. when he claled me yesterday he asked me to 'prank' him so he can call me but i stayed strong and i dint. I actually listen to your advice sp pls keep them coming... SO far, what i have gotten from various advice, is forgive then move on, and be polite if i bump into him, and do not pick up his calls... (but agian, if he calls my home phone and its him, ill just act busy) I hate this. I wish i could just get over it... 5 motnhs and im still healing and then out of the blue... hes back int he picture. Its stupid as!
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    Hey just waiting for others to reply...
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    so what would u advice now that he called me out of the blue? Just ignore his calls? and if i bump into him just say a polite hello. SEriously ok, fine... ill take revenge out of my mind... But what now??? whats is his intentions... what?!?! i just wish he didnt call...
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    Ok i think im coming off in a bad way. What i simply want is show him that i have changed. I will no longer tolerate him using me as his doormat. Using me to fix up whatever mess he has gotten into. I mean, when he came to australia he did not knwo anyoone... I opened him up, introduced him to a few friends so he would feel welcomed and stuff. AFter he settled down a bit, then he just dumped me... Hes pragmatic... and i was hurt. I have been used, abused and he knows that! He knows that he can easily manipulate me cos im too caring... I did ask for your advice but so far all the responses have been quite negative... I spose i should just let him treat me bad again. He didnt respect me before.... maybe ill just be his door mat then Im really not like this. Im actually TOO nice... and ppl have been advicing me to fight fire with fire, NOW that i do... everyone is hating me for it. I DUNNO this is driving me nuts
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    So tell him to drown in his own bovine fecal matter and just move on right? I have another post and im not vengeful at all. I think I came off very evil. But seriosuly, this guy made me feel worthless. ANd i think that its cos he thinks that im sooo 'loving and caring' that he thinks i can just forghive him like that... and befriend him. I wanna tell him otherwise! I wanna be unpredictable. He is expecting me to welcome him with open arms... but i dun want to. Im still healing... while hes got a new replacement for me. My feelings for him was real! REAL! I gave EVERYTHING i can.... i was true to him, loyal to him. and then he drops me with a snap of a finger. i just wanna give him a guilty conscious. he expects me to be friends with him, he hasnt even apologised. I dont think he realises how much he screwed my mentality over.
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    Man oh man... I want revenge for MANY things he's done. ACtually not for breaking up with me, but the hell he put me through... He did me a favour breaking up with me. Its just that i want revenge cos i loved this guy for he is, then dumps me saying 'i promised my parents i cant date you cos your filipino' (he is sri lankan) and then he said that he wants to focus in his studies and stuff... and then what do you know? A MOTNH after (15 motnsh of our r'ship) he replaces me with an indian girl. How can that be?? he kept telling me 'my parents this my parents that' 'i cant disapppoint them' But NOW... he smokes, he drinks, he goes clubbing 3 times a week. He use to be a good boy, i loved him for his personality nothing else... I agve him EVERYTHING.... then he dropped me like that. It was such a slap in the face. he told me 'i have no love for you, im so far awy from you' 'go find someone who loves u, dont wait for me' 'i want u out of my life' Then just as whenim getting my life back togteher! he calls out of the blue!!!
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    What is the 'nicest' way of giving your beastly ex a taste of their own medicince in the most painful way?? I was told that it is to treat them nicely. I do not know if this will do. I am still in the process of healing (after 5 motnsh) and i actually got the call we've all been waiting for from the ex. I do not know why he has called, but i wish he didnt. Its weird cos for 5 months, every single day i think of this man, and now he has called. He does have a new gf. Apprently she is eager to meet me. I do not know how to deal with this situation. I was told to just ignore him. Not pick up his call or if i do, act busy. Never make plans with him. I did ask him yesterday whether he felt nothing for me and he said 'no'. I mean, he does have a new gf. WHAT I DONT UNDERSTAND IS? why call now?!?! his reason is to be 'friends'. Is that good enough? should i be his 'friend'? When we broke up he was VERY hurtful. Very harsh to say the least. I even had to 'beg' for his friensdship even though i know i did nothing wrong! POINT IS: Now that the power has shifted, how do i use this to my advantage? He hasnt apologised for his actions... and i havent told him things that are still in my chest. I think that i should to have my closure, but im afraid he''ll just hang up or wahtver. Also, what does this action mean? he has a gf but he wants me to be his friend... AFTER WHAT HES PUT ME THROUGH? omg... I feel that he probably is realising that i was a 'deserving' girl. I dunno! you guys tell me... Either that or he wants to use me as a back-up in case things wont work out with the new gf. THAT IS NOT ON! HELP. I NEED REVENGE!
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    I am actually in the same position right now! What would your advice be?? Just not pick up his call, or pick it up but act busy and never agreee to make plans. I do agree with: How do i avoid this. We also live pretty close and we bump into each other more than necessary... He said he wants to be in friendly terms. He called yesterday after 5 motnhs. And he has a new gf, he said that she is eager to meet me.... what the?
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    I WILL protect my heart Muneca. The thing is, i'm not even half way through my healing process and now he is back in my life. I do but i don't wanna meet his gf. I dunno what i mean. BUT as you suggested, i will not go out of my way to meet them. I mentioned that we bump into each other more than necessary. What do i do in that case if i 'do' accept do be friends. One part of me says, 'screw him like he screwed me' (REVENGE IS SWEET), but the other says, 'Fogive but not forget'. I still strongly feel the need to get him a lil hurt. Even a bit. I spose if he got hurt it would indicate that he was 'feeling' SOMEthing. Am i being silly... theres something that is still keeping me attached and i thnk that is it. P>S Is there any way that i can get back at him 'nicely' but painfully??? PLS REPLY ... You all have been such a GREAT help so far!
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    TRUE. I know it is true. Seriously tho, i just wish i didnt get involved. I mean, i dont take the word 'love' lightly. I just wish i would be able to say it agian. hehe SEriously dudes.... how do i know if a guy is genuine? i mean, i thoguht this ex was 'good'... I was told by a male friend that only guys can tell when another guy is putting on a face. hmmm Is there anyway i can smell this guy? and see his true colours?
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    Actually he is 22 years old... And that is why it was so hard for me cos he would go clubbing and i would let him.... then i he lied to me andi got insecure so i started calling his mates when he's out. And then we lost it. He screamed saying im not his mother and hwo im immature and narrowminded... bla bla bla... Im very mature for my age. Ive been through a hell of a lot! I even think that im more mature than him.
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    No bragging, but i actually have been asked out by various guys. What i hate is, because this guy screwed me over... I'm now scared to date. Im scared to trust, im scared to love. Not to be a drama queen, but i think ive been scarred for life. I never had a good r'ship wth my father. He was abusive and a hevy smoker and an alcoholic. He even threathened to kill my mum in front of me when i was in grade 8 and he was holding a knife! Long story short, i was never close to my father and when i went out with this guy, he really hit sumfin home. But then, he turned into my father! I can draw parallel qualities. My bf used to be a 'good' boy, but now, he smokes (even pot!), drinks til he throws up, and goes clubbin 3 times a week. I duno, but its sooo hard for me to trust guys now. Im thining i should become a lesbian (just kidding)
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    OK so i just ignore his calls or pick up but act busy? ANd if i do bump into him, just a polite hello? Or NOTHING AT ALL. Pretend we dun know each other? I mean, i know im better without him. I just find it odd that he called me after 5 months, and he was like 'lets be frineds' and acually called me like 6 times! BiZZZARRROO Oh i forgot to mention. One of his really good mates and i are close... and he asked me whether i like him or not? wtf?
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