MVP

Well, it doesn't look like the situation isn't going to get any better unless the two of you get some counseling. The bottom line is, though, if the two of you don't have any sexual chemistry, you'll find it to be the ultimate reason why your relationship fails. As the wise man once said, "If you have great sexual chemistry, then it's only 10 percent of a relationship; if you don't have any sexual chemistry, then it's 90 percent of the problem." He could be overly concerned about his performance in the bedroom, as well. How many girls has he been with before you? He could also be suffering from impotence; however, at age 29 I kind of doubt it. Is your boyfriend the religious type? That might explain some of it...

In a nutshell, we prefer good-looking people because we innately couple their looks with the idea that they bear good genes, and are thereforeeee more apt and suitable for propagating our offspring. It's natural selection, man.

Unfortunately, looks are VERY important. In the INITIAL stage, I'd say that it's about 80 percent, with the other 20 being how well you're groomed. It's really the luck of the draw -- and those who are born with good-looking genes will have a better chance of being with a good-looking girl and vice versa. So, if you're below average in the looks department, you'll have to settle for the girls who are on your level. There are some exceptions or offsetting traits, however, than can broaden your appeal: your occupation, your bank account, attitude , and availability. Rock stars, for instance, can be with pretty much any woman regardless of their looks. Also, fame will broaden your appeal ten fold, and make you seem much more desirable than you'd otherwise be. And, if your rich, most girls will want to be with you, even if it unfortunately means just "sex-ploiting" you. If you give off the impression that you're a busy guy and always in demand, the female will see you as a challenge, and will be drawn to you. And, this goes without mentioning, but if you don't have a confident attitude to go along with it, you'll seem "wimpy" in the female's eyes, which is a huge turnoff. If you give the impression that you do NOT care whether she responds positively or not, you'll get far. It's much easier to draw the opposite sex to you if you're good-looking; for instance, a woman who automatically decides that you're out of her league may never give you a chance to make your other attributes known. However, by being stronger in the other areas (prestigious occupation, great attitude, availability, etc.) you might be able to compensate for your below average looks. You'll just have to keep trying and never quit in your pursuit for that "dream" girl. Although it is rare, some beautiful women have a unique, unconventional taste in men that'll surprise you. P.S. The type of attitude that most women seem to be drawn to is the "sensitive jerk" disposition. Keep that in mind.

You said it yourself. He lied once. He lied twice. He lied for years. You can't really trust him anymore. A relationship is founded on trust. Once it's broken, the relationship crumbles. Look, he's not going to change anytime soon, so spare yourself the pain. Don't punish yourself anymore by loving him, because he's given you nothing but grief. What kind of love is that? You've become a glutton for punishment, and have perhaps confused this mistreatment for love. You deserve better than that. Take a deep breath and find a way to move on.

Nice poem, but be careful with those. In some cases, the female, whom you've written a poem for, will be quite flattered with poetry written especially for them. However, many women frown upon that kind of sentimental stuff, because it devalues the man's virility, strength, and masculinity. In other words, some women might see it as a sign of weakness (i.e. being a wimp). Depends on the girl, though...

I know it's hard, but you better cut your losses, chalk this up to experience, and move on. Ironically, in a relationship, it's usually the female who loses interest before the guy does...but anyway, once he loses interest -- and even tells you so in the form of being hesitant and tentative with you -- there's no going back. Even if he were to come back to you, you'll find yourself in a up and down rollercoaster situation with the two of you separating and then reconciling over and over in an endless stream of torture. It's like a vase that breaks. Even if you glue it back together, the cracks and fissures will still be there.

Once you've been penetrated, you're unvirginized. Universally speaking, getting fingered is a sexual act, and if virginity were to be defined as "sexual innocence," then suffice to say, you lost your sexual innocence by getting fingered. Hence, you lost your virginity.

I've heard a lot of discussion about the importance of the first five minutes in an encounter between a man and a woman. The initial impression, evidently, will determine the man's fate and standing in the woman's eyes. Apparently, in the span of five whole minutes -- which usually consists of conversation/banter, flirting, implicit gestures, and facial expressions -- the woman will decide whether to classify the man in question into three categories: Screw material (without any emotional attachments), potential boyfriend material, and the dreaded, "Friend Zone of Doom." I was wondering...how should the interaction, usually on the man's part, proceed in order to be classified into the "Screw material" category? Conversely, what has to happen, in the realm of these life-changing minutes, that would give the female the impression that the guy is a "potential boyfriend" or sadly, just merely a "friend?" Perhaps you guys can map out a few scenarios and show me where they might lead...

For the past few weeks, I've been sitting next to this girl in History class. Now, there is no designated seating, so we can sit wherever we please. Often times, she would sit next to me (we both sit in the front row); and, often times, I'd sit next to her. Oddly enough, not one word has been exchanged between us; however, I'm beginning to sense that she might be interested in me, though I'm not entirely sure. Here's some of the things she's been doing that might help you guys decipher any potential interest in me on her part: -sometimes she'll cross her legs in my direction, but on most occasions, she seems to switch her 'crossing position' a lot during class. - She strokes/fiddles with her hair, though she seems very relaxed doing it and doesn't show any signs of anxiety. - She cracks her fingers a lot - During a five minute break, she took out a crossword puzzle and worked on it -- again, there's been no interaction between us. - sometimes I think she's looking at me out of the corner of my eye, but I'm not sure. Any guesses?

Just ask her straight up if she's bi. I don't know of too many girls who tap each others butts, so if that's any indication, she's probably interested in other girls. Enjoy.

I don't know...what befuddles me the most was the fact that she switched groups and then decided to glance back at me 5 times. If she didn't like me, why would she do that? Keep in mind, on the day we worked together, she would get up and rub shoulders with me, and just seemed very amicable. Could it be that she felt guilty flirting with me because she already had a boyfriend and decided to "discipline" herself? This girl is the quite, shy type. Very attractive, yet never wears anything revealing, and always dresses in a conservative manner. I've never heard her swear or do anything lewd. She gets good grades (3.9 GPA) and is the number one chemistry student at our school. She's also Russian-jewish (She immigrated here 10 years ago) and always seems very earnest about school (i.e. she doesn't laugh or joke around during class even if her friends do). I hope the above description helps somewhat and gives you a clearer picture of who she is and what her motives might be. A female's opinion would be nice.

I've known this girl in Chemistry for a while now, and she has a boyfriend, but I can't help but think she has feelings for me...but then again, her mixed signals have confused me. A while back, we were supposed to form groups. On that day, she and her friend approached me with the hope of joining my friend and I. We became a group and we (the girl and I) hung out and talked to one another about trivial things -- nothing serious. The next day, when the professor asked us to get together with our groups again, she switched groups at the last second and joined another girl and and a gay guy. What confused me is this: though she switched groups, she looked back at me like 5 or 6 times -- and almost seemed very jovial doing it. About a week later, when I accidentally dropped my pencil, I asked her to pick it up for me. She did, and upon returning it to me, I noticed she was blushing. Later that day, at the end of class, I asked, "Would you like to go out sometime?" After slightly blushing, you gave me a three second, silent-laden gaze and politely replied, "Sorry, I can't...I have a boyfriend." About 10 days later, on final exam day, she decided to sit at the back of the classroom (usually she sat directly behind me), and when I wished her good luck in her future endeavors, after completing my final exam, she briefly looked up with an impassive look on her face, then quickly resumed taking her exam. Thoughts? Can anyone decipher her actions?

The most popular actors of all time are below 6 feet tall: Tom Cruise is 5' 7" Brad Pitt is 5' 10" Johnny Depp is 5' 10" Al Pacino is 5' 6" Dustin Hoffman is 5' 6" Mel Gibson is 5' 9" Richard Gere is 5' 10 1/2" George Clooney is 5' 11" Remember: the average female height is 5' 4" ! Why do you wanna be nearly a foot taller than them? It'll make it difficult to kiss them, and side by side, a 6' 2" guy and a 5'4" girl would look very disproportionate to one another standing up. You wanna stay in proportion. Now can you dig that?

Yeah, you pretty much have no chance with this girl because, well, she has a boyfriend. BUT -- that doesn't mean you should give up your chances at having a worthwhile relationship with someone. Start looking for the single girls, wherever they are, and practice your collection of one liners on them. Gauge their reactions and prepare accordingly for the next time you approach some chick. The courting process is ONLY a numbers game. It's like a business; personal feelings have to be cast off to the side, especially in the beginning. Don't take anything personally, and just use this opportunity to hone your charm and craft. For instance, in the case of two polar extremes, in the first scenario you can say something like, "I noticed your green eyes and I couldn't stop looking at them and I had to approach you and ask you for your number." Sure, the above line is quite bland, but try it; you never know how the girl will react. Secondly, walk up to a girl and say something an aggressive minded jerk would say, and again, jot down her reaction. In time, you'll know what types of approaches to use with each type of women, thereby increasing your chances at closing the deal. If you just want to ask a girl out use the line, "I'd really like to do something with you sometime." That way, she can't say, "I'm busy" because you haven't specified the time and she can't say, "I hate going to the movies" because you didn't mention any activity. That approach usually avoids the straight forward rejection, "No." Good luck.

If she volunteered to pay for her own food, then it means she's not interested and didn't want to give you the impression that she was into you. If she insists on paying for her meal, she definitively sees you as a friend or acquaintance -- there are no chances for a romantic bond to develop. I wish you mentioned that she paid for her meal in your initial post b/c that changes everything. In fact, by paying for her meal, she made it clear that she didn't want to be courted nor lead you on in any way. She's loyal to her boyfriend, and her actions, here, demonstrate that. So, kudos to her -- she's not the conniving type I thought she was. Conversely, if she never reaches for her purse after having a meal, she is probably using you for food, goods, etc.

The harder you think about speaking or starting a conversation, the more trouble you're gonna have. Just let it naturally and casually come to you. Now, if you can go five hours without saying a word then you need to force yourself to just impulsively say stuff no matter how random or asinine. Usually, on road trips, people sing songs and just make complete assses out of themselves. Don't put undue pressure on yourself to say something profound or grandiose so as to be published in a scientific journal. Just have fun and don't feel inhibited to just go crazy and say anything, because once you start speaking on a steady basis, you'll never stop...just kidding. Actually, your thoughts will start to flow at a cohesive rhythm and you'll know when to broach something and when not to.

You answered your own question by mentioning that she abruptly lost interest in you towards the end. Listen, girls who are REALLY interested don't waver or fluctuate their intentions. If she really wanted you, you'd know for sure just by gauging her actions. If she's interested, her ACTIONS are consistent; otherwise, they aren't. Also: 1) you mentioned she's unbelievably gorgeous with the most spellbinding eyes EVER. Well, believe me, beautiful women know how mesmerizing they are and they use this to your advantage. If it's too good to be true, it usually isn't -- especially at the outset. 2) She has a boyfriend with a Laccrosse Scholarship. One, she ALREADY has a boyfriend, and two, he has a scholarship. Do you have a scholarship? Listen, women get into relationships with financial prospects in mind; if you can't compete with her boyfriend on an academic or financial level, then you can forget about a viable relationship with this girl. 3) You mentioned she lost interest after eating the salad you BOUGHT her. Bottom Line: She's a FLIRT who had NO intentions of forging any kind of relationship with you. Most stunning women like to test themselves to see that they still "got it" just for sh$ts and giggles. She took advantage of an unassuming, average looking guy to get a FREE lunch out of. Sorry. Remember -- her actions MUST be consistent before and after the meal.

Heh, it's usually the girl who loses interest before the guy does. I doubt he's gay unless you found gay porn on his computer. Anyway, he's either cheating with another girl or he's just bored with having sex with the same girl for three years. The second of the two is probably more plausible here. To fix this problem, you'll have to try new things to spice up your sex life. You know, new positions, new lingerie, toys, surprise sex, flavorful condoms, champagne, chocolate fudge, whipped cream, sour cream, and other exotic delicacies, etc. Furthermore, there's nothing wrong with having sex three times a month, with the exception that it is 5 star sex each and every time. If the sex sessions are bordering between a DUD and one star, then I can understand how you're feeling -- bad sex and a low frequency of it. If it's gotten to the point where he's forcing himself to have sex with you -- and vanilla sex at that -- then it's time to write off your losses and call it a day. Bottom line: you're too good for him, and he doesn't deserve to have explosive sex with you.

Disclaimer: The following might be a little too frank, and perhaps a little too harsh, but it is my opinion, and my opinion only. So, don't take umbrage to any of it, and just read it as a cluster of advice to be absorbed or discarded at your prerogrative. It looks like you brought a lot of this upon yourself. I'm not one to judge you or the reasonability of your discretions, but it seems apparent that you were willing to forgive and forget a little too often. You gave her an inch of free space, and she took ten. In your initial post, I got the impression that you were hoodwinked over and over again, and not once did you learn from your mistake(s). Now, granted, having a son in the picture complicates things, but with her being diagnosed with OCD and manic depression, I'm sure that you could've wriggled your son away from her in divorce court, and perhaps, spent your retirement money on a good lawyer, as opposed to being swindled perpetually. In your opening sentence, you stated that she was a nymphomaniac -- one who lecherously indulges in sex at every opportunity. Hindsight is always 20/20, but a woman with such a trait isn't marriage material, at least, not one who is conducive to the viability and integrity of a marriage, right? Another thing: your wife cheated on you not because you're a bad guy; it was because you were TOO ingratiating and curried favor to compensate for the implicit threat of losing your son. Remember -- relationships last because of one important X factor on the man's part: challenge. If you give in too often -- and in this case, at an unremitting pace -- you undermine any mystique, mystery, and most importantly, your respect. Your wife got bored and was irreverent in addressing your requests because you were no challenge. You never put your foot down nor did you set any unyielding limits. Even if you did constrain the parameters of which she could operate in, you conceded once she broke them. You lost your respect; and hence, she lost her interest in you. Hopefully, you'll learn from your mistakes and move on, notwithstanding your son, of course. As for her leaving, don't feel bad. For once, be strong, fixed in your purpose, unflappable in your demeanor, steadfast in your spirit, and repeat after me, "good riddance."