KuteKev

No no no. It's hard to explain the nuances of how an outting can go. I ordered my meal, she ordered the same, and than 'i' was the one that laid down the law telling the lady taking the orders that they were separate orders. P.S. If she's NOT going to go out with me because she's currently got a bf and wants to stick with him is more of a turn on for me because it shows loyalty. However IF she breaks up with him and comes to me, than that means she could do it the next time she meets someone else 'better'. I'm in a catch 22.

Sorry for the misunderstanding, but she paid her own way. I figure if I offered to pay for lunch it would definitely have the pretense of a date which was not was I was going for. And as for her losing interest couldn't it be because I may have been coming on too strong and she either isn't used to that or she's just scared?

thinkkid77, I posted a new thread above and I'd like to get an 18 year old girls opinion on my situation. just look for the thread started by me. But as for your problem I can speak from experience. First of all the guy has made it perfectly clear he wants you. It's a simple problem to fix without being mean or anything. Just HINT on the phone to the guy that your not interested in him and that family members are complaining that you are calling too much. Like a frightened mouse you will scare him off and it'll be awhile until he comes out to look for some cheese. Also it'd be nice to know what he starts talking to you about on the phone to see how you can pull a 180 on the conversation to get through to him. But your a girl and girls have this power over guys that girls don't understand (or even know about). Like a child weilding a loaded gun, thinking its a toy. You could also tell him on the phone that "you can't talk to him". When he asks why not just say "because I can't". let his imagination eat him alive to the point of never calling. keep that up and he'll eventually stop within 1 week. and if you see him in person and he asks "why couldnt you talk" and you cant simple say "because I can't" and hang up on him in person, say "because i was in a bad mood". and keep that up. not very polite, nor is it mean.

I'm paranoid that the girl im talking about will read this but nothing ventured nothing gained. I started this training program at work and I met this girl there. Over the past two days (finished 2 days of training) we have been exchanging looks at eachother in the classes. We can't keep our eyes off eachother. So on the 2nd day i decided to pick up my jollies off the floor and ask her out for lunch knowing nothing about her anything. Luckily she said yes. I get the FEELING that she's interested in me from the looks she's been tossing me and vibe I get. However I can't picture it. She's simply georgous and I'm not the best looking guy. I don't exactly have a good track record with women. They fall into the 'decent' category and this girl is absolutely unbelievable/georgous/stunning. I'm 20 and she is 18. We walked to this italian eatery and we ordered 2 ceasar salads (to go) and while we were waiting for the salads we were gazing into eachother eyes at point blank range. I swear to god you could HEAR my pulse at this point. She's got unbelivable eyes btw. I didn't lose my cool or anything though. Anyways, we got the salads and started walking back to work from our lunch break. I started probing into her life, asking her where she lives,etc,etc. I asked if 'she was seeing anyone' and she sais she is dating some guy on a laccrosse scholarship. After that she has become fairly distant the whole day. No sexy looks, when I talked to her later on she sort of dismissed me. The vibe I got AFTER that small lunch ordeal & talk leads me to believe that she isn't interested. Does an 18 year old girl go for more than a body/face How can I tell for sure? ?(I'm not ugly, however some MAY say she's out of my 'looks' category') Also, I want to know if this 'lunch outting' was just accepted because she was hungry and I was as well so she thought 'what the hell, I'll go and get food with this guy' or did she accept because she likes ME and wanted to spend quality time with ME? How do I find out? Mind you, there was no dating pretense in the asking of the question when I asked her to lunch. P.S. Sorry for the long post.