BigSyke

ohh man now ive really hit rock bottom. I talked to her and tried not to crack, well i sorta did and it ended ugly. she was like well fine since you got a hotel room, i will get one with some other guy, bye a hole! so i tried to brush it off, but i cracked and tried to call her30 mins later. Same ignoring type thing. then i went to brush off some steam and clean my car ect in the underground garage. Well some idiot came up to me and started a fight cuz he was with 3 girls (trying to impress). wow what a great night, and 1 year im having. haha

hey thanks amanda for everything. Haha i just broke my toe from kicking the wall. ohh man i dont need this. i guess i just needed somebody to talk to. time for a doctor now haha. well ill let you know whats up. She just called crying because she finally realised what she had done.

yea totally. By nature she is an alcoholic from her family (all are alcholics) she has a horrible temper (instead of anger its cheating). She is really a good girl and i know im not even close to perfect. But i worshiped the ground she walked on until this stuff started happening. I count 20 lies a day from her. Even worse is that i gave her a chance because she wasnt the most beautiful girl on the planet, but to me she did become that. And me being a real good looking guy i shoot down all oppertunities from others. Not her however. I wanted a girl who was not so pretty on the outside but gorgous on the inside for stability and still havent found it. I talked to her a few minutes ago and she was almost to drunk to talk. She peed on herself and started mumbling saying she was in some other guys room. And i told her i was waiting at our $400 hotel room suite. Ha ive been through this almost every weekend and i dont know how to break this attachment. I havent been able to so far. Do i change my number? HOW! i need to get her out of my head! Im sick of chasing her around after she breaks up with me for someother guy. I need OUT! plus i lost ALL of my friends, ALL of them. none of them will return my calls. Even ones ive been friends with for all of my crazy 21 years of life. I just need somebody to talk to

Ive been dating this girl for about a year. And she has been really really unstable. I love her more than anything, but she basically drops me on weekends. Shes cheated on me before and then broke up with me right after she broke my heart, to cheat with another guy. Haha she seems like the devil but she is the most wonderful girl ive ever met. she has been pulling the "i gotta call you back and doesnt for like 5 hours" thing more now. Thigns are still good but tonight we had some big plans (1 year aniversary). Well she had this attitude when she got done eating dinner so i said fine call me when you wanna talk. So she did the "OK BYE" and wouldnt answer any of my calls after. She is drunk right now and will NOT answer me. ONE YEAR ANIVERSARY! i put up with this like all the time.....WHAT DO I DO!

its not that easy....im sorta in the same spot.

well yesterday supposidly she was going crazy...i then cracked and texted her, she called me and we talked she said she loves me and just needs some time. How does she need time when she was out of town for a week and broke up with me when she got back? i hardly see her anymore shes always with her friends? well today i texted her and she said she would call me in a bit...no call its been 6 hours. What do i do? shes not trying to make contact anymore?? this is from a girl who couldnt go a second not seeing me or talking to me....now all the sudden she can not care to see me?

shoot well i just screwed myself cus i texted back. should i ignore now? i have gotten no response, i just asked how she was

she texted me saying she cant stop thinking about me should i respond or ignore QUICK PEOPLE!

Last night my GF broke up with me for good, i think. We hung out durring the day and i acted shady towards her because i was tired from crying the night before. I was crying because she was treating me like dirt over the phone and laughing at me crying. Well we were hanging out and watched a movie everything was perfect! I went home for a while and Realised how much i truly cared about her and watched the clock until she called me back. When she did I was the most excited ive ever been. I came over and we talked...she then said hey dont get mad i need to tell you something. She told me she cheated on me and she has been talking to another guy and she pregnant. I then became frozen and went to leave. She then came out and started begging for me. She said i love you soo much but i just dont konw anymore...then i was like your breaking up with me? and then i started crying and begging for her....i sat there for 40 minutes begging for her to change her mind and at least sit with me until i cool down...she said sorry but it has to be this way i need to be single and walked away.. she then left me a message at 4 saying how sorry she was things had to be like this and she still loves me more than anything. WHAT DO I DO? we have been togeather for 9 months and the last month she has been ditching me to go with her friends and then she went out of town.. comes back and breaks up with me on her bday. Ive been through this before but i really really need to speak with her. DO i just forget out this and move on? its kinda sudden, i went over there to spend the night and both of us didnt expect this to happen!

Plus i found a flyer to a club in her car that was dated recently...its no big deal its just shes hiding things from me and lies constantly....her age was one, and probably how many people shes slept with.

I recently found the most amazing chick ever. Never thought it was possible but i did. By far she is the most beautiful women me or my friends have seen. We have been dating for a month now and my question is, can i trust her>? Ive been reeally really burned in the past, but i met this girl at a party and she was making out with a couple guys there. Well we started talking and i got her number. Well she claims that she loves just hanging out or being with me no matter what we do, but i find that is a little bogus. Last night after elaving her house she said she was gonna sleep, well as i was letting my car warm up, 10 minutes later here she comes out of her house hair all done, and jumps into one of her brothers friends car. Pretty soon they both leave into the house where her brother was having his friends over. Now tonight she got mad at me because i didnt know if i shoulda called her or just dropped it and save myself some pain. She ended up going to a party where all those guys she was making out with from the party i met her at, are. Im sitting here wanting to blast myself because its just the same thing over again from my past relationship. Can i trust her? thanks

Indeed everything sucks, but man im telling you i went through the worst of worse. I was targeted for torture by my ex and she played the game well. Now that I have learned from the very best, my game has exceeded myself. The way i did things probably wont work for you, but its the thought process that works, everytime. Next time this kinda thing happens, it will be just a scratch off, because nobody is worth stressing about and you gotta get that through your mind. Being independent is more desireable to anybody, so now im all about the $$$ and when i girl doesnt call me back, or breaks a date, no problem scratch that one off the list because im all about making money. Make yourself above of the competition and unavailible because - Most women want a man whos wanted. So yea sometimes if im working at a girl, i say im taken, then work from there, truly changes her perspective if you play it right. Dont let anything get to you either, im used to just forgetting about people nowdays because its just the same old, grass is greener thing- screw em. I coulda got my ex back if i wanted to easily, i just saw the women i Now was dealing with and diverted my efforts elsewhere, and now she is walking on egg shells tryin not to anger me. She wants to be my friend, is more curious of what im doing and whats new "if i have a girl" basically. Im not a safty net, and if they see it, not hear it, then they will find that more desireable. Its all mind games too, general rule, you get into a persons mind, you get the rest of the package, easily. Just play your cards your dealt and play em smart, cuz most of you now are not gonna think straight in this mind war. The Ex has every advantage to exist, now its just straight tactics, and i hope most of you apply it for other people, other than your ex. I can tell you that your passing up 10x the amount of satisfaction by waiting for the ex. I wish i could go through the process again knowing what i know now I woulda let her run without 1 word being exchanged, because now i know it was wasted tears, and her aura of std's now make sure i keep my distance. I just wish most of you could drop your ex down a few levels or 2 to about the "ohh yea i knew that person" because simplefact, i know how it feels to fall out of love and not ever talk to that person again, and being on somebodys high priority makes me keep em on the bottom of my roster. its true life people will never talk to you again, just stay strong and wash everything out of your head about them. There is nothing really you can do but use your surroundings like your ex's friends. I started hanging out with my ex's friends now she wants to hang out, Hahaha no way....i gotta go but sorry for the dumbest most pointless post ever, but i agree its too late for the advice for not begging, i just try talking to people who can pick a girl up by a snap of the fingers, cuz they will tell you how to enter their minds, that you can use for your advantage for re-initiation with the ex

sorry for the crazy post but ive been starring at the wall for the past day. Its all just hit me because i feel like ive hit rock bottem for the 10th time. Parents say i have to go, no car, no money because i pay them for everything i do. I used to have people that will take care of me, but now they are all saying screw you like i did somthing. I had hope for my ex, but thats all shot down. I know im not in the worse of situations but i still feel down and worthless. I look around me and see guys who have millions of worse qualities than me just ballin. I was thinking about just upping and leaving, but i dont have money, even though i work all the time. haha there goes my parents with the repent stuff! REPENT IN THE NAME! im thinking about cali, or going down to mexico or even cananda, just to get the hell outa here. But once i get there, then what? my friends agreed to go, but only to leave the country and then shoot me in the back of the head, and come back down here with all my money....wow i hope i dont land in jail for defending myself tonight. Also too what i wanted to know, when i try to say in a mature way "hey what makes you think you can talk about me like that?" or somthing alike when people say things about me; why does EVERYBODY all of the sudden get up in my face and start sayint their gonna kill me, and they start pusshing me?? i walk away, but later to be in jail because i got jumped. People say, stick up for yourself, but i cant, ill be in jail, so I HAVE to let them walk over me. I used to get robbed every day by my friends, and the day i said it had to stop, booyah i put my hand on him and i ended up with 5th degree assault charges. Man this is crazy, im starting to think jail is the place for me......

What i dont understand is how everything just doesnt work out? Its like ive been screwed eversince i was born. I dont hate myself or have low self esteem but heres my story. Sorry for the length!!! I was born into a middle class family, however i was a not wanted so for years they abused me. They told me things since since i was 4 like "your not one of us, or your not welcome here" My mom used to give my sister high 5'ves as she kicked me in the stomoch. Real Christian people. They are very very religious so i was physically forced into the lord. I was verbally abused and physically abused sometimes aswell, until i was about 17-18. My older sister would come through and not like somthing, it was like she was boss, and if i tried to stand up, boooyah! both my mom and sister would choke me. My dad was the root of all evil to me. It was more traumatising to look at him, while he stared me down everyday and threating to kill me if i slipped up. He would push me everyday when he got home from work. Well I was in Jail by the time my 17th b-day came around because i tried to fend formyself against my extremest family. They told the cops i was trying to kill them or somthing which wasnt true since i was bleeding gallons of blood, and nobody had a scratch. Well it was like the cops were in on it to, they hauled me off as my parents prayed and cried thanking that the devil was out of the house. I was kicked out many times to live on the streets, no love from anybody. I always thought my mom would stick up for me, but that never happened. She would say things like "hit him good honey!" crazy things. But the biggest thing was doing about 3 months in prison for attempted murder, which was proved the most bogus thing ever when my courtdate arrived. My friends all would back stab me, turn on me in a second like i was the runt of the world. Even on this forum alot of people say things like "uhh you need help, go see a doctor cuz your crazy bla bla bla" Im not crazy i can keep my cool through anything. I bet ill maybe get 1 response too and it will be that im crazy. Anyway everything has been stripped from me. computer, place to live/sleep, car, money, almost everything except my clothes. I havent talked to my dad in months because he wont respond, even when its to give them money or somthing. My siblings are treated like royalty, but i had a brighter future than them all combined. My parents wanted to teach me what the real world was like since i was 5, so i had to do everything like i was a grown man. at 10 i had to mow lawns just to eat. Things like that. My whole family tree hates me for somereason, even though im soo sweet to them. Ill do somthing for somebody and get shot down. I would be called names and made fun of almost 24/7 when i was around any of my friends, i have no idea why but its like im on crazy pills! Why? what did i do to them? When i meet some new mature ones, for like a month they will be cool, then they will rob me. All my friends milk me. Id be a millionair if i never had any girlfriends or friends. I have tons of friends and its like they all end up talking Sh**t about me and to myface like you wouldnt believe. The fights i would getinto. I wouldnt stand up formyself and would endup getting knocked out, and end up in jail, WHY!? its like people know they can stab me, shoot me, jump me and ill always end up in jail!. Well things have always been like this, im the scapegoat for all evil. And funny thing is im the best looking one of all my friends easily, they even make fun of me for being good looking and call me names like fake brad pitt, fag all sorts of stuff, and i can stay anything or ill end up in jail. Haha it gets worse too, ive been fired for "unknown reasons" from almost every job. Ill be the best worker, but they just find a way to rid me. My parents are now using military tactics to get me outta the house for good. I told them i was contemplating suiside and they said well you will burn in hell and we will get your money, sounds good to us bla bla bla. And then they will try to "flush" me outta the house or the stratigically get me to murder myself. I smoke like 2 packs of ciggs aday to cope with the stress of everybody trying to kill me, for now absolute reason at all. Ive been stabbed and almost shot because some random guy didnt like me. My friends love to see me get jumped. They sit there all day and make a festaval out of making fun of me. This is all starting to build up and every time i try to say "hey man, stop talking about me" i get jumped, punched in the face or have to deal with somebody plotting to kill me. 9th Grade some random person had a hitman hired to kill me because i looked at him- no lie. I ended up getting expelled for instigation (they tought i tried to fight this guy so he had to hire a hitman to protect himself), well i got jumped anyways. Is this a curse? Im not religious but i do believe in Jesus Christ, but dont follow my parents extremeist ways. I went to councelling and the counceller ended up sleeping with my mom, so everything i said he laughed at. He said you need help and im gona put you in a mental institute for saying i was planning to kill myself. Wow Also every girl ive ever came accross has treated my like a bad person as well. I may start talking to a girl and things go well, only to see her leave with one of my friends, whom i am more attractive than, adn more appealing, but it doesnt make sense. All they want is sex, i just like their company. I might get excited about something, but its always destroyed somehow. The best thing that happened to me ever was when i met my last girlfriend. Ive had about 5 girlfriends, and no joke, all 5 of them i have witnessed leave me for another guy never to talk to me again. Its like im the most unlucky person alive! 2 of those girls wanted to marry me and i was with for years. And the one i was engaged to was sleeping with some guy for a year on the side and lied about everything she ever told me, which leaves absolutely nobody to love me, ever. I have never really been loved now that i look at it. Theres plenty other horrible things but im getting sick just typing and im supposed to be planning where im gonna stay tonight. I just dont know how im always the enemy. Im usually in a positive mood, I used to have the best sense of humor. Im very attractive, and i have good carisma. I feel like im one of those people who live a short, horrible life then die. anybody know why this stuff happens outta my control? Sorry i just had to vent..

I think guys are more prone to return than women. Women somehow can move from being engaged to never speaking to that person again, because guys run a dime-a dozen. Simple fact is, a lot of guys will crack down and start talking to their ex's, i know i have many times for the ones that ive dumped and disliked. However at a younger age the reality is things rarely work out and if he does return to you, it might not be for a relationship.

Indeed, would like to smoke him. But its never the guys fault, except in my case. Why cant you carry a gun around anymore? Thats not really the answer to anyproblems however. I sometimes carry 2 by my waist, cant wait if the new guy trys to act up and attack me or her. He gets aggressive i hear. This is only due to the fact that i have people wanting to kill me. I did do the "your man did bang some of my friends the other night" and other propaganda. But there is no doubt that the fact just sucks worse than any fact ever. I would like to go back, but its too late, she had feelings for another man, she had sex with another man. This is worse than cheating i think. But they will always always have the leading edge against us. We can try to beat em, but no matter what, they always have somthing we want, which we cant get. The odds are always against us. So Drop them off your roster like a dead player, and get back in the game. My advice i guess.

same boat as you, she left me for a man that has cheated on her countless times, and she is ok with it i guess. What a terrible waste......

I actually saw my ex go from me to the otherguy. She walked me out of her house like everything was A-ok, and then saw her and the other guy go up to her room.....Last I saw her, suddenly she wouldnt talk or see me, and im still waiting. Its hard to understand how they can do that, i couldnt ever do that. Its been a long time, and everday it still hurts, big time. Now its like im competing with her; trying to make sure i have fun 24/7 and find a girl fast so im not left in the dust. How can they do that? ive heard from more people in person that mostly females are able to do that? Mr Mister, same situation. Hes cheating on her but she said this time she wont let him go, nomatter what. Some times it makes me want to glaze this guy, but that wont help. Even girls have called my ex saying that her new man is sleeping with them and their friends, but she doesnt believe it. Ever seen the movie Oceans 11?? good movie, but i was thinking about what daniel ocean did, extortioned that guy. Made his ex wife realize that her new man would give her up for money....its just a movie though heh. went from mopeing around listening to "our" songs, to really listening to some tupac or usher and other stuff. It actually makes me feel better when i hear sombody verbally is going through the same stuff, and how to deal with it. Usher - burn, or can you help me really hits the spot. But only way ive dealt with the pain and constantly thinking about them (other than smoking a pack a day or more), is thinking about nothing but money, and getting more. M.O.B Hard news guys, ive been through the worst of all situations i think, and there may be no hope, which is better. Why do they call it climbing the ladder? You WILL find somebody better!

Im 21, Yes my ex is crazy. I think she tried to make me hurt even more by saying things like that, or rubbing it in my face because i hurt her. But the real thing is How can somebody just forget like that, is it just with girls? because i cant imagine anybody just go from calling 10 times a day, to never contacting again, in 5 seconds. I know it was built up and she finally had to cave into this other guys power. But I hear so many people on here saying that even when their ex has somebody, they still see them. Ive tried everything to have her actually see my face. I had to make about 5 trips to her house, to drop her stuff off. I expected for her to be out there waiting, nope! I was forced into N/C. No goodbyes, nothing. She just wasnt there one day, until i got a Text message a day later, saying i had somebody else for a while now. Just like being in jail. I dont think she will talk to me or even see me again. And she is leaving. But hey, to me it almost feels worse in the long run doing no contact. Seeing her and talking to her would help me accept it. Now shes just a piece of my imagination, I have nothing of hers. Funny thing is that her doing NC to me, makes her seem like a godess. I would wish these feelings on nobody Also: do you think that my ex and her now bf started their relationship while me and my ex where togeather? thats what im guessing since they fell in love right away and are perfect for eachother, and it seems to be lasting, even tho hes screwing the whole world. You would think rebounds wouldnt turn out, but mabye this wasnt one, she just had him on the side for a few years.

i know how you all feel. My ex transformed 3 days before she broke up with me, without a tear. She even kicked me out of a moving car when i was trying to talk to her. Its been long enough where i can step back and know exactly why these things happened. It was because she was dating this other guy 3 days before she broke up with me. No actually now which was confirmed she was seeing this guy for a long time (been with her for 2 years) she started talking about him 3 months into the relationship. How do you go about with talking to your ex, if they have somebody else they love 10x more than you?! No contact just makes the other person forget after awhile if they have another. My ex also came very abusive the last 3 days we were togeather. I was shocked, but deep down inside i saw everything unfold in 2 seconds, and i was correct on every thing ive ever accused on her. For a good christain girl who asked me to marry her, who was the most loyal person ever, she was sleeping with this guy when i would leave her house at night. Well the last night i ever saw her, i cought her in the act, but i couldnt break up with her! why not? she then became cold and crazy, never seen a person act like that. Shes truly in love i guess...

Ok, now that im doing great, i still look around and hear all my friends talk about their ex's and how they see them all the time. Well I sit back and ponder, why cant i be doing that? To this day, no phone call, nothing. How can sombody who worshiped me, put everything in me the whole 9 yards just up and leave for somebody else, and just un-attach themselves in seconds. Either she has a very bad memory and forgot everything we did, or this guy is god. She did do the, in your face thing like saying her new man is da bomb and everything, but that was all online. Wheres my phone call. i did NC right off the bat basically. Also I hear about all of these people on here seeing their ex's even if they have somebody else, and them having friendly convos. Its like its illegal for me to see her, or talk to her. Like she will be playing it off like she wants to know how i am, second i text her, (im having sex, peace, or im really buisy) haha i should stop rambling heres the realstory. her new man is messing up. He is having sex with all the girls that have been hanging around me. Hes having sex with my buddys ex/gf. So far she either knows but doesnt care. people have told her but she says that he wouldnt do such things and brushes it aside. Thing is, this guy is starting to push the envelope. People say the grass isnt greener on the otherside, well em I unlucky? cuz to her it sure does seem greener. She will write an email mabye once a month saying shes having so much fun, I check her profile and she says that their inlove(she fell inlove with him in like 5 days) it took us 3 months to say i love you. Her life is also falling off the deep end. She changed her carreer for this guy, basically to be this guys servant, instead of going to school. And shes into drugs now. Grass is greener i guess. Well my grass is greener now but she definatly cant step to it thats for sure. It just seems like unusuall for her not to contact me, trust me, a normal woman could not forget about me and the times we had ever. Heres what i can say for everybody out there, "Get your $$$$$". Yea i miss her everyday but im having fun prepairing for the next. I have never felt better and less depressed when i put my mind set to independent and nothing but money and education. And when i did that, the women came running, things started to go my way since i wasnt looking for somebody for codependancy.

i just put the nail in the coffin. its been almost 3 months of NC (havent talked since the split) and then she calls, drunk, we talk for a while and things are actually pretty good. I ask for my stuff back later on, by text and says yea soon. well its been a while, and i went to a party and found her new boyfriend (the "god" she left me for) having sex with my friends ex. and everybody said that my ex was never togeather with this guy, and he had sex with this other chick all the time. Well i lost it and went home and texted sayin that her boy was sleeping with my buddys ex, and for her to not call me ever again and to keep my stuff. (i already gave all her stuff back in like 5 different trips to her mailbox). she bluntly replied that i cheated on her and still lie about it, and that they are in mad love and im a lier and she doesnt want my filth. and that i havent changed and shes fine with not talking ever again. I worked so hard to get on good terms with her for 3 months and now the nails in the coffin. Today came home and all my stuff is at my mail box. I know that she was keeping it so we could meet in person when the time is good but ohh well, its all up to fate. I think i took it too far, but now theres no turning back, this new guy corrupted her and now shes on a path to nowhere it seems. hes also cheating on her but she wont even considering listening to me, even though its a dead giveaway, funny thing, she will never find out either. how do i go about this? apologise? or just cut her off for ever and forget about her for good??

I do need some insight...however, She recently has been contacting me, not by phone yet i wish, but steadily IMing me and rare emails. She really wants to know how im doing. I brought her stuff back and this morning she said thank you, and started talking (over IM) about wanting to give my stuff back.. Then she said that i wasnt talking, and i told her, hey im not your friend and since you cast me out into the depths of hell for this man, you should understand. She was pleading with me as it got desperate for her. She said I will never talk about him and i will give you your things back anything. I tried to get the point accross that "Look @#$#!, you dropped me without letting me know for 2 weeks, and was dating this guy! pretending we were engaged! how em i supposed to be your friend!" she really wants me in her life but should i remain? even if i was at fault for the way i treated her?

I too ignore, because she has somebody else who she left me for, i would give anything for them to split, but now im realising that while i was with her, good things like this were possible (loads of women would try to hook up with me, things just seemed to be in my favor all the time)...now its like the script has flipped, I never expect anything to go in my favor, if i think a chick is in to me, i expect her to date my friend. That is what happened recently, i started lightly dating this super fine chick, and she was all over me and i was on top of the world, well one night she banged my friend right infront of my eyes. Now instead of coming over to see me, she comes and sees my friend. So i never expect anything right now to go my way, i just put everything in gods hands, not my own. My ex is starting to contact me again, askin how i am and stuff and sayin she still needs her stuff back...i would give anything for her to give my stuff back and look me in the eyes (she just dipped the day we broke up, no real convo just "dont call me anymore" i got a better man over the phone, never looked in my eyes). But that wont happen, i have fadded to just another thing with 2 legs. I have these rollercoaster emotions that mess me up pretty bad, but hey shes happy with this loser, i must carry on. Shes asking me to do favors now such as drop her stuff off, she will not get the time from me and she sure as hell better not have her new man bike over and get it. So i have no clue why she wants this stuff so bad, but i ignore her and she gets pissed. What i have to say is, things probably wont go your way if they left you for somebody else, so the hardest thing anybody can do, is dont even bother. Ive been in this situation where i made a chick break up with her man (i feel bad about that now) and he would call her and it would make our relationship stronger....so dont contact. Expect to be contacted, but dont expect anything from it, the more you read into things, the worse judgement you will make when the time comes for you to lay the deck. I still pray she returns, but i pray more that i go back intime and relive all the wrongs, because they LEFT us for somebody else, thats something you cant take away and never forget.......things will never be the same, peace

good work peach, i hope that is the case, but then again, i hope it lasts for ever because, it better be worth ditching me for. So i really dont know. How would you explain then her not talking to me lately? she cussed me out and then next day wrote me an email, apologising, but telling me to expect another cussing out session later on. But then she like blocked me and i havnt heard from her since. any body have any ideas about that?? why she broke communication with me?? is she actually happy now since her younger man is off for the summer?