kalobaby

It seems that there's need to be more communication between you and your GF. Why don't u sit down and talk 2 her? She might not want to make a commitment again, maybe it's too soon? Or maybe she still has feelings for her ex? Whatever it is have an open mind to accept her decision. It's true you helped her out and I'm sure she appreciates it but, give her some time, and the truth shall prevailed.

Why one minute we are laughing and having fun, and the next we are bursting into tears? Well that is the great women mistery. Talking from personal experience, sometimes when I was w/ my ex, I would be having so much fun, and then he would say or do something that would upset me, and the fun would be over. We women pay too much and I mean it TOO much attention to little details, the words you say, the way you say them, etc. So pay attention, there must be something that turns her off. Did somethig very bad happened between you guys? I mean maybe she still remembers those bad things, and it's your "job" to make her totally forget them. So just pay attention to what turns her off. And you gusy sound so romantic I am sure everything will work out. Best Wishes

Altough it might hurt like hell, and we think we cannot live our lives without them, we will. If he lied to you once he will do it again, and again, and again. Let's make sure they do not come back, we deserve so much, much, better. And we will get it. Good luck to everyone,and make sure to stand strong, and don't ever let them come back.

Ok put it this way you were able to live ___ (how old you are) without him, you could handle a day. I know it's easier said than done. Been there done that. So here's my advice for you, take one day at the time, and when you feel like calling him, write to him, start an email and do not send it save it as a draft, and get everything you have inside out. Don't you deserve for him to call you? If this guy really, I mean really loves you he will soon realize that he cannot live without you, and HE will call you. You have done it so many times, let him do it at leas once, not so much for you but for your relationship. Now let me ask you something, 1.Do you need him because you love him? or 2. Do you love him because you need him? Think about it...

Hi! They say that it's very easy for a woman to fall in love, but once they have fallen out of love it's over. Wait I am not saying that your marriage it's over, what I am saying is that as you say your wife had closed her heart to you (meaning felt out of love), well now your job is to make her fall in love with you all over again. I mean send her flowers to her work, send her cards, write to her, take her out to a romantic dinner for no reason. Buy her presents, go out in the night for a nice walk under the starts. I mean do stuff as if you were dating. Do those little things you used to do when you guys were dating that will drive her crazy. Make her fall in love with you all over again, and the love making madness will come back. It's the little things that make us women go crazy, so take time to notice what does she like, and what doesn't she like and make her feel like the queen of your heart. Love is too wonderful to let it go without trying.... So let me know how this turns out.

I know that the reason why I am in this situation was because I made the choice to go out with a "married" man. I know that was my biggest mistake, and to be honest it was not planned at all. When all this started I was very confused all I wanted was to talk to someone and he came along, and one thing led to the other until almos 5 years past. As I said we have gone through so much, and since this was my very first "serious" relationship, I gave my all, I am a very dedicated person, that always gives her 100% to everything, and this man was not the exception. I gave my all to him, and I gave it all up for him. It has been three weeks since he left and everysingle day that has passed I have been gettign ready to end this for when he comes back. I know I was wrong and I caused a lot of pain (his wife, his kids, my parents) defendign what I tought was REAL LOVE, but now I am suffering like I never had, and I guess that is part of my punishment for being such a selfish person for so many years. This is hurting like hell, and I know it will hurt for a very long time, but I am gettign ready to get out.

When I was going to school my boyfriend used to drive 45 miles everyother day to have coffee with me before I started classes. I mean we would only spend 30 minutes together @ Starbucks and then he would have to drive back to work, and I would stay in school. My point, if you really want something or in this case if you appreciate the time you spend with a person it does not matter how much time you drive in order to be with that person. So I think this should be a sign for you, but first let me ask you a couple of questions: Do you enjoy the time u r w/ him? Does he seem to enjoy the time he's w/ u? Does he thank you for driving all the way to see him? Does he make any other type of "sacrifies" for you? So if you were too stop going to his house, there would not be any relationship? In order for a relationship to work both of you guys need to give your 100%, and to me it seems like you are giving it, and maybe even more, and this guy is not, he's not thinking about your future, I mean you are going to college it's not like you are living @ your parents because you are a looser, Does he support you? Does he agree with you goals? What are the reasons he gives you not to go your way?

I do love him and I am or was pretty much in love with him, I have been dreaming about him every single night. But altough my heart says forgive, my head says let go. So that's what I need to do (maybe not want to do), but I just do not know how.?????????? I do not want to hurt his wife or kids, it's not their fault that he's a big lier, but I want him to know how bad he hurt me , and how much I loved him.

I was in a relationship for almost 5 years with a guy, but it's over now (well that is what I want). Here's the deal, he is married (I know totally wrong, and that was my biggest mistake), but for over 4 years I truly believe that he was the man of my life. I felt so comfortable with him, regardless of our age difference; almost 20 years. Well to make a long story short, when my parents and his wife found out about our relationship we went through hell, but we stuck together, but my parents and his wife obviously tought this was over. Well the first years it was great, we had so much "fun", he was my first one in many things including sex, so I fell so in love with him that I would live my life around his schedule. I schedule my job, school and everything else in my life to fit his schedule. ( I know pretty awful). But please understand that I was no actually I am still very much in love with this guy. Well for the past year we had argue so much and we had this "agreement" to stop seeing each other until we could see each other freely. Well time went by and we were back together again, and two months later the same thing happened, we stopped seeing each other for a week and then went back together again, and this time my birthday was very close so we spend the most amazing two weeks together, and then out of the sudden he comes three days after my b-day to tell me that it's time for us to really stop until we can do things right, well of couse I disagree because I knew that after a week or so he was going to come back, and meanwhile I was going to be suffering. Well he left that afternoon, and I could not talk to him, and his cell phone was off, and of course I cannot call his office because they know his wife, and let's not mention I cannot call his house. So after three days of him not answering the phone I decided to call a close friend of his, and find out what was going on, and he told me that he had left to South America with his family for 5 weeks. I was so because his "let's wait 'til we can see each other freely" was nothing more than his trip, which he never mentioned nothing about to me. And his friend told me so many other things that made me realize that this a** H***, was lying and lying to me. So I have pretty much been depress for the past week and I have been crying everysingle day, because I know I gave my everything to the wrong guy. Even tough my heart is telling me to forgive him and let him explain why he lied to me, my head knows better and I now realize that I can get someone a million times better than him and with no "package". So even tough this is hurting like hell, I am going to give him up, but I do not know how. I mean what should I do? Should I Send him and email telling him how I feel, and that this is over Should I send him a Card or letter ( We have a PO Box together) Should I call him where he is and tell him off and ruin his trip Should I wait for him to come back and be sweet to him and pretend I do not know anything, and take him out to dinner and tell him I know We have this deal which is, if one day we do not want to do anything with each other, or we go out with someone else, or sleep with someone else (he's been telling me he does not sleep with his wife, which @ this point I do not believe), we would send each other yellow roses, and there will be no questions asked, unless we want to give an explanation. - Should I wait for him to come back and send him the flowers We do not wear jewelery, but we bought each other a "promeise" watch, which are the same, except his is for guys and mine is for girls. (They were pretty expensive) Should I give him back the watch? Should I give him back everything he ever gave me? Should I try to find a new BF, so when he comes back, he sees me with him.? I owe him some money, should I pay him back? Should I wait for him to come back and ask him to get a divorce and then forgive him? I want to end this, but I also want him to know how much he hurt me, and how much I loved him and how he did not appreciate it. So please give me some advise. I am so confused

It's been three days since he left, and whenever I am alone all I do is cry. My eyes are so puffy that I look like Sherk, now. I mis him so much, and at the same time I feel so betrayed. I do not understand why he would do something like that to me, when he came to my office and told me that he loved me and that he did not want to loose me. I am seriously going crazy, I do not know how I am going to survive the next 4 weeks all I do is think about him, and here at work everything reminds me of him, everything. I am so and sad, and confused, and I am going nuts, I need to let go but I do not how. I need to stop feeling this way, 'cause I am getting very depress, and I do not want that. How do you stop loving someone you gave your all to? How do you forget that First love?

I have been trying not to think about him, but everyting reminds me of him, I do not want to cry anymore because I know he's so not worth it. I am having a huge internal conflict my mind is telling me to take revange and to make him pay for every single one of my tears, but then on the other side my heart tells me that he has a very good reason for not telling me that he was going to that trip. I need to do something I really do not want to end up back with him, but I love him so much that I feel that when he calls me I am going to run to him. Please help me, I need to stop this agony, and I need to stop loving him. Is hate the answer? What do I do?

Hi!! I had previously posted a note about three months ago, well I am going to be as short as I can to explain what is going on. I was going out with this guy who is almos 20 years older than me, and that is not the worst thing he's married Well we went through so much together, and to be honest in my mind I thought he was the man of my life and I always tought and hoped that we were going to end up together one way or another. In the past year we had a lot of arguments, and we had been going back and forth with this idea of stopping seeing each other until we could see each other freely. At first I agreed so we stopped seeing each other for about a week or so, and then we started seeing each other again. Well another two or three months went by and the same thing happened we decided we were going to stop one more time and two weeks later we were back together. The last time this happen was about a month ago, after arguing he said that this time was going to be for reals, but he came back one more time, and this time it was really crazy, we had so much fun for almost two weeks, we spend my b-day together and then three days later he came into my office on Monday to tell me that this time we really need to put a hold in our relationship and I said I do not want to do it this time, but regardless he left me here crying and he left. I tried to call him on his cell phone but of course he neve answer. So this morning I find out that he left to South America with his WIFE, and kids for 5 week. I did not know, he never mentioned any trips, I know he was just lying to me, with this "we have to wait". I am broken hearted, my first reaction anger, I felt that I hate him so much for being such big lier, I wanted to take revange. But I still love him, I need to stop having this lovy dovy feelings for him and get strong so when he comes back I can have a cold heart and tell him to go away. Any ideas. Please also give me some advise, I feel so bad, I gave my self to the wrong guy, and I feel awfully used.

Hi everyone. Anyone has ever felt as if they are simply passign through life. Well that is exactly how I feel right now. I am totally down and depressed. A lot of things have been happening to me for the past months or so. I just change my job about a month ago. I had been working for the same company over 4 years, and one day everything ended and what is bothering me is that things did not end very nice. I would say they ended pretty awckward. So that has me pretty down. Then my other job it's ok, i do not alot and it's ok, but I do not feel challange and I miss my other job a lot. And I am also going to financial problems, I do not have enough money to cover all my bills. Then I have school, I am a junior in a CalStateUniversity, I am doing awfully bad in most of my classes, I am not doing my homework, and i have been missing school a lot, due to my "boyfriend". BF which is another BIG problem, I have been going out with this guy for over four years, he's 17 years older than me, but the problem does not stop there he's married, and has two kids. Yeah I know this is totally wrong, but it feels so right. I think this is what is bringing the most frustation and hopelessness to my life. We have been waiting for over three years for "something" to happen and nothing we are still the same, only seeing each other when we can and that's all. I am so sad, deppressed, confused. I know I have to wake up tomorrow and go to work and pretend that everythign is fine in my life, when in reality I am dying inside. People that see me and "know" me have no idea what is going on inside me, to everyone else I am very happy person that has everything she has ever wanted. I feel so lonely and desperate. I can't cry 'cause my parents will ask me why, and of course I cannot tell them that I am crying for the married guy that accordign to them ruined their daughter's life. I feel that everything is going wrong in my life and I know what to do the problem is that I do not feel like doing the right thing, or doing nothing for that matter. I want to cry, but I feel so empty inside. After reading this you will be able to see how confused and unstable I am, please tell me how do I motivate myself to do the right thing you know, like for starters leavign my love affair aside even though I do not know how to live without him, how to start all over again. I do not want to die, but I feel such a great apathy for life that it's really bad. I worry about not getting good grades @ school but yet I feel like not doing a thing to make them better. I feel like quiting my job but have too many bills to pay. Help!!! please help me!!! I need help, I want to cry but i can't I really need help.

Hey as they have told you before women like to hear the "I Love you" phrase as often as possible ( If you really mean it). When I ask my boyfriend why he loves me he gives me a million things that he loves about me, not why he loves, me. So when he asks me this is what I tell him, which is what I really feel and it took me months to put it into words. " I could tell you that I love you because you are funny, but what happens the day you stop being funny, or I could tell you because you are smart, handsome, etc. But what happens when this ends? There is no reason why I love you because I do not need a reason to love you , because the reasons will end or change but my love will never change" Cool ha!!! And about your girl dancing with someone else. Well you could do two thigns, one since you love your girl so much you got to learn how to dance and dance with her, or you could simply let her dance and trust her. Good Luck Karen

Hey I am currently attendign University to get my Business Law degree, and after go to Law School to become a lawyer. I know have had those days that I feel like not going to school, and dropping everythign. Yeah I have question myself is this really what I want? Well yeah, I want to become a lawyer just as you do, and not only any lawyer I want to become the best coorporate lawyer in America, and making lots of money. However "Good things do not come easily". [-X So you have not motivation to continue on this? Well let's try to find one, How about money? Think of all the things you will be able to buy when you become a lawyer, and all the things you could buy your parents to thank them for all their support How about people? You would be able to help lots of people and a friend or family might need a good lawyer in the future. But let me tell you something I have discover along the road, and that is that your career is not going to fullfil everything in your life, maybe you are trying to find the meaning of life in your career but you are not going to find it there. "Your career is the vehicle to get what you really want in life". If you are looking to find the meaning of your life try looking for it in something more substantial and more powerful than your career, like GOD. Take care and I hope that everything turns out ok. Karen PS Sometimes taking a break will help, but make sure you promeise your self to come back.