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    physical relationship with much younger man

    Is it considered weird for a forty five year old woman to have a physical relationship with a twenty one year old man? I live with him and I know he is sexually active with other girls his age. I'm just not sure if I can be in a relationship with him or not, or if I should just keep it strictly sex, I'm just a little confused right now since we had sex for the first time two days ago and it's been a little awkward especially with his "girlfriends" around. Getting Ready for a First Date

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    It seems like this situation is making you feel uncomfortable. Weird, not sure, confused and awkward are not words I'd use to describe something that's making you feel good or something that you feel good about. If it doesn't make you feel good, why do it? I hope you are not under any pressure to perform any sexual acts and your living situation doesn't depend on you seeing him.

    For what it's worth, I wouldn't suggest continuing on anything that doesn't make you feel good. You deserve to feel better than that or be around someone who makes you feel better than that.

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    Are you his landlord?

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    He's not looking to date you, OP.

    Have sex if you want, but don't get attached. Him having other girls around is your very clear signal that you're just one of his many options.

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    He doesn't see you as relationship material. Even if he does, an age gap that big would soon expose a whole world of differences between you and his comparative immaturity will begin to show (I speak from experience). Why do you want to have sex with someone young enough to be your son, who you know full well is also having sex with women his own age? If you're his landlord things could get really messy - look for someone your own age to have sex with and keep this lad as a tenant and nothing more.

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    Itís not weird to have consenting sex with another adult no matter the age.

    What is weird is that you mention the word relationship when itís not even in his vocabulary.

    He is having his cake and eating it. Thinking you are cool to fk and cool that he does others. While you stay in Your room alone lol

    Why are you living with a guy half your age who really just thinks a hole is a hole?

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    Are you his mother? Why does he live with you?
    Originally Posted by SarahKuving
    Is it considered weird for a forty five year old woman to have a physical relationship with a twenty one year old man? I live with him

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    Nothing wrong to have sex with someone much younger.

    But if you wonder whether you should have a relationship with him or not that is the BIG problem. It's like you refuse to see what's in front of you: a man who's sleeping around and enjoys multiple partners and more importantly who doesn't even offer you the possibility of a relationship. So why even wonder if you could be with him? Do you want to change him? Transform him in a mature man who will take you on a date?

    Do you want a relationship? If that's the case put yourself in a position to have a Healthy one: stop seeing this guy since you are developing feelings which will make the situation even messier ( the girlfriends , sharing a place together etc) and start looking for eligible man that meet your criteria for a boyfriend. And have criterias, not just he's cute, could we be together.
    There are good guys out there but you won't meet them if you lose your time with the bad ones.
    Good luck!

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    Welcome back, Rosie!!!!

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    Well...first of is you shouldn't be sleeping with your roommates. Yes, it can make life very very awkward and uncomfortable.

    Second is that any kind of relationship isn't even an option. He is 21 year old kid in a candy store sowing wild oats and sleeping around. (hope you use protection and test for STI's regularly if you are going to continue to sleep with him). These other women are not girlfriends, OP, they are just a rotating stable of fck buddies.

    When you use terms like relationship and girlfriends....you are probably not cut out emotionally for a strictly arm's length casual fck buddy situation, especially when who he is humping and how often is right in your face daily...or nightly..... When you have sex and immediately start thinking relationship and feeling awkward, stop what you are doing and seek out a man who can actually give you what you want - a proper relationship. This is for fun and giggles only, except that you aren't giggling because it's not your cup of tea really and is causing you stress instead.

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