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MissCanuck

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  1. We need some context before we can give much advice, OP. What was the reason she broke up with you 4 weeks ago? What behaviour does she expect you to change?
  2. This is strange. What sort of jokes is he making? No, it's more likely that he's just losing interest in the relationship, unfortunately. It's not, because if someone is making no effort, it suggests the love is largely one-sided. I'm sorry, OP. I think you and he need to have an honest conversation, because it appears as though you have grown apart and he doesn't have the courage to come out and properly end it. But you can't keep going on like this. After 2 years together, it is likely time to say goodbye and let each other go.
  3. Notice you say nothing about how you feel about her? That's how you know it's time to end it. She's really into you, but you're not that into her. And that's not a critique against you, but you have realized that the interest and desire just isn't mutual. It's time to respectfully go your separate ways.
  4. Absolutely do not go to his sister with this. It is her story to share,and you have no idea what sort of trauma it might trigger for her. It is their issue to deal with, not yours to insert yourself in. I agree with the others to start making an exit plan with your therapist and landlord. There won't be any way to come back from this. Stay strong.
  5. You need to find separate accommodations, OP. This arrangement isn't working anymore. Don't confess your feelings to this guy. Take the high road and bow out of their relationship gracefully and respectfully. You will be happier once you are not under their roof anymore and playing 3rd wheel in their relationship.
  6. Has he threatened to himself (or you) if you break up with him? Like what? Someone who attempts to control and isolate you? Someone who emotionally manipulates you? You are confusing all of this with "love", but this is not what love looks like. This is toxic and dysfunctional. Why do you want to commit yourself to this? Who is implying you would be "running away" from these problems if you break up with him? There is a signficant difference between running away and identifying serious red flags and removing yourself from a terribly unhealthy situation. I don't know if you don't have much dating experience, but this is a trainwreck, girl. It's not going to end well anyway, so you would be wise to stop wasting your time and end it now.
  7. It is quite obvious that you are not non-monogamous, OP. And he sees you as a his "primary" person right now, but does not have strong enough feelings for you to see a future together. It's time to read the writing on the wall and get out of this. In the future, don't agree to parameters that you are not actually comfortable with.
  8. Well, no. It's the opposite and anything but low-pressure to bring a new person to a family event celebrating a forever-relationship. It's too much for a very new situation. Too couple-y. If the tables were turned and a guy I had just barely started seeing invited me to a family wedding, I would politely decline for that very reason. I would take a hard pass on this. Plan something for the two of you where the entire family won't be present.
  9. She will absolutely meet up more reguarly with the guy she wants to date. I guarantee it. She is trying to be gentle with you, OP. I think she likes you okay but mostly as a friend. And she doesn't really have the courage to tell you that so she gives you vague answers about not seeing anyone reguarly. She's dropping hints that you're not quite getting. Or just lack of mutual romantic interest.
  10. Meeting up with him now is a bad idea, OP. He is interested in casual fun and hook-ups. You, however, caught feelings for him. He has been clear that he does not share those feelings. It's not that he didn't give it a chance - for him, there just isn't anything to explore there. If he respected you, he wouldn't have vanished for months in the first place. As someone else mentioned, he was likely hooking up with someone else then but that's fizzled so he's bouncing back to you now. It's time you realized that this is just never going to happen, and go your separate ways.
  11. That's the thing, though - you didn't know him. On the surface he appeared fine, and maybe he is, but unless and until you spend time with someone in person there is no way of knowing what sort of catch they are. And if it were really a match, well, this thread wouldn't exist because he'd be feeling it too.
  12. I would not be able to stay with this person. Reformed and remoresful or not, I would never see him the same again and I wouldn't try to convince myself otherwise.
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