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Same one yes. We have a young son together so total no contact is not an option.

We split a month ago from an 3 year relationship and since then she has been extremely active on all forms of social media. Posting to her story on each social media platform and appears soooo happy. When we split she blamed her reasoning “on depression”. Which now looking back I think was an easy way out and. We never had any major issues (lying, cheating, financial) etc. Thoughts on her excessive posting? The posts are of the kids and her mostly. No sexy posts. I’m leaning towards seeking attention but would like input from others.

I do want to add that I am supportive and caring of her everyday. I’m so proud of her and I tell her that everyday. Even though we aren’t technically together anymore, we still text off and on throughout the day. Whether it’s about the kids or just casual conversation. I can’t speak for her but I feel we both still enjoy each others company whether it’s in person or via text. I only asked once why we couldn’t work things out so I’m not “wearing out” that subject. I try to not bring up our reasons for separation and such anymore. We’ve talked about it quite a bit and I feel at this point it is “pouring salt on a wound”. I try to keep the conversations light and enjoyable when we do talk. However if we do need to have a serious talk, we will do so.

Thank you for the input. I understand that and try to keep it all at a “happy medium” however it’s hard to tell what is too little and too much on my end. She repeatedly says “I’m so sorry” for ending things like this. From my perspective, she hates to end things with me but she feels her mental health is more important right now and I agree. I will always be here. I love her to pieces. When I don’t fully understand, as I’ve never dealt with deep depression… only slight anxiety. However, I assured her I’m not hurt and that I support and respect her decision to try get herself on track to getting better mentally. I have a close friend that went through this several years ago. They split for 3 months until the now wife got herself under control and they have been back together ever since. So they have been really helping me with advice. They are friends as well with my now ex and they’ve reached out and let her know they are there for her as well. My friend and his wife encourage me to be there for her and co parent the best I can. If she gets her mental state under control, she may be back. We was fine until post partum depression hit her hard. So that’s my only motivation that if we had a good relationship then she may be interested in working things out in the future. I’m trying to stay positive but not “fantasy” positive if that makes sense. Meaning not setting myself up for disappointment later on.

I will see them everyday. We vowed to co parent to our best ability and I strongly believe we will be successful with it. I know with my heart she wants what is best for her kids, along as I do too. We enjoyed fishing together and I asked if I could take her kids along soon to the lake. I offered for her to come along as well. I first asked if she had any issue with all of us going (her also) and she replied that she is totally fine with that. I think we all will enjoy the quality time together outdoors.

Thank you everyone for the replies. I will add that we have a co parenting plan together and vowed to do whatever is best for our kiddo. I firmly believe we will be great at co parenting as we got along really well while we were together. They are moving around 5 minutes away so it will be convenient for us all. I told her whatever she or the kids need that I will try my best to help out if needed. I told her also that if her or the kiddos need a safe place that my house is always there for them. She is doing the needed things for herself which is mental therapy and medication. I’m so proud of how we have handled this situation so far.. she’s really hurting mentally and I promised her I will be a supporter of her and try to make this transition as “easy” as possible for her.

Hello all. I am new here. I’m needing some advice/encouragement. My story is kind of long. So recently me and depressed girlfriend separated. No hard feelings, I told her I am here for her and will support her through this time. So from the start we were together for 2.5 years. We met around 6 months after she divorced from a pretty “numb” marriage of 7 years. No abuse just a very odd no affection marriage from the start. So we met 6 months afterwards. She has 2 kids that am very fond of. We (kids) really hit it off early and I’m so thankful we did. I knew early on that she was such a beautiful person inside and out (I still think that). We had a baby together unexpectedly but we are so happy to have him. She got post partum depression about 5 months after birth and it spiraled out of control from there. For so long she said she was exhausted from work and the baby not sleeping well so I had no idea about the depression… I thought it was that. For the last year we have been an emotionally struggling relationship. We didn’t do much together anymore and We slowly grew apart. She was always tired so I stopped asking to do things as a family (I regret that SO much). I loved her with all my heart and still do. I had hoped we’d both come out of the “rut” we were in but we didn’t. We never had fights but She is a very private person and struggles with communication. About a month ago she finally opened up about her depression and how she feels. Im so sad because she’d been struggling for so long mentally and holding it on. She told me 3 weeks ago she wanted to separate and move out to get her own place. I’m heart broken and devastated. Our issues seem so fixable but she says she needs time to be alone and focus on herself and mental healing from her past choices. She says our relationship took off really fast (I agree) and she needs time to focus on healing her mind. She is such a beautiful soul and I’m not ready to move on. I love her and her kids so much. I’m devastated to see them go. I need advice and encouragement. Our relationship was great until her depression took over and it really shut her down mentally. How can I be there and support her without being overbearing? Remember we have a young kiddo together. I want so bad to work things out but she insists she wants to be alone and focus on her mental health. Do people come back to a once healthy relationship after they get their depression managed? My story is so long I’d be here for hours so I tried to summarize it. Thank you everyone