How do i know if she wants to settle down or use me for springboard to greencard

[lioil]

I met this girl online and we have had good chat which i felt was pretty good.

One thing is she's in another country. She works as a secretary back in her home country and her english is not very good. She does want to settle down and dont mind going to school to learn english/skills.

My sister is more cynical and is worried i might be used as a springboard - we marry, divorce and she gets her green card. We are not at that point now but i do want to know earlier than later.

is there any way to find out? or is it just more interaction with her to find out? My mom says if we are married have couple of kids then if she leaves its still fine lol... Thanks!

[Wiseman2]

Unless you are on a foreign bride site on purpose, you're being scammed or catfished. You haven't even met. You seem to keep pursuing foreign brides. Is there a reason for that? Is this women the same culture as you? Is it the norm in your culture to be set up with a women from your home country and bring them to your country to marry?

[melancholy123]

I agree with your sister. You have your head in the clouds if you think this woman might not be using you to get into your country, it happens all the time. They'll profess undying love to you in hopes you find a way to get them to your home town and marry them and then all hell breaks loose. She's conned you and now you are stuck paying for her if you sponsored her to get to your place. You are liable for her bills. People are often not who they are say they are.

Your mom has her head in the sand if grandchildren are produced, their mother takes off, and you are left holding the proverbial bag. Find a woman who lives near you, not some random person on the end of the computer screen in a foreign country.

[SherrySher]

Lioil, this is many posts you've made now about brides from overseas.

Why didn't you take people's advice and try to find someone in your own country?

[Wiseman2]

It seems your quest for a Chinese bride has been going on quite a while. Can you enlist a matchmaker who can set you up with local Chinese women?

01-17-2015:

So i have been introduced to this girl who is the daughter of my friend's best friend. She is in Australia but chinese and i am here in the states. By the way she is decently educated with degrees from decent university in australia. Her family is pretty rich so i think those characteristics should dispel any notion of her trying to marry into us citizenship or whatever. She is definitely a catch if she were in US and from her and her parents she just wants to settle down given her age.

[Andrina]

When a U.S. citizen marries a foreigner, an affidavit has to be signed that they will be financially responsible for the person for 10 years, even if it ends in divorce. A fiancé visa will also not be approved if they look at your finances and see that your salary can't meet the requirement of supporting another person besides yourself.

A lot of people are dumb to these facts, and it shocks me how little research they do when considering such a risky endeavor.

[Hollyj]

If you are so concerned about being a "springboard," then why do you seek a foreign bride? You have been posting about the same thing for four years. I don't get it?! Your methods are not working.

Aren't there any foreign women in your city who have citizenship? Why are you seeking women you have not met, and who don't live on the other side of the world. There are so many Chinese women living in the States.

Are you Chinese?

[Wiseman2]

Are your family forcing or arranging marriage? Perhaps you don't want to get married but don't want to tell your family why? Could this be why you seek out these impossible situations?

[Hollyj]

Are your family forcing or arranging marriage? Perhaps you don't want to get married but don't want to tell your family why? Could this be why you seek out these impossible situations?

I could be wrong, but I do not think the Chinese practice arranged marriage. It was outlawed after the revolution.

[catfeeder]

Why are you thinking about marriage based on a 'chat'?

Skip that fantasy stuff, date local, and only shoot for a relationship with someone you've actually MET.