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Billie28

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Billie28 last won the day on June 13 2020

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  1. Sorry Op but I doubt anyone will read past 10% of your post unless they have insomnia or an Incredibly boring life . Please re write including only relevant information and not in the third party. You can remain anonymous but we need to know who you are and your involvement in the story in order to give any constructive opinion or advice.
  2. Sorry but I think you are sugar coating what actually happened in that first year. “ We dated for a year before he decided to make it official.” The operative word in that statement is “HE” When did you decide that it was up to him to decide on you being “official” ??? What in your mind does official even mean? Exclusive??? So basically for a year you were ok with him dating others? And vice versa? When you first found out he was in contact with his ex , you basically told him that it’s ok and that he can pursue her and you will be there for him regardless. Why
  3. Sorry but I think you misunderstand each other? Is he autistic? Perhaps?
  4. Why were you paying a ton of money for childcare expenses? How many children do you have? Where do they live? Why did this woman move her and her son into your house? And why did you allow her to care for your children in exchange for a bed for her and her son?? None of that makes any sense to me?? Why wouldn’t you if you were in a relationship with her , fine have her move in although it seems like it was a premature move , but have her pay rent AND utilities. Her figure out how to pay them and you continue with childcare? But instead you had her move in as a hou
  5. He sounds very smart but at the same time making foolish decisions. He started dating you when he was a child and you were an “adult” He responded to you in the manner a child would to a parent. He assumed you knew better. He is now an adult and responding to you as one. Albeit a bit cowardly. He doesn’t want to commit to you and rightfully so. What he is offering instead is convenience. Because of his uncertainty about the relationship and his decisions surrounding it. You would be making a foolish decision to accept his counter offer which is based on unce
  6. He is not interested in pursuing a relationship with you. He has let you know that after about 40 days of meeting you. He is trying to do a slow fade but you aren’t getting his hints. Why aren’t you?? Sorry but this is not his depression talking , this is him with or without depression. Early dating people say all sorts of lovely things. Everytime. But once we start to actually know someone and realise that’s not the person for us we put on the brakes. Like he has. He did enjoy sharing his depression thoughts with a perfect stranger but that doesn’t mean he is int
  7. Of course I read it. It was a case of someone going through no contact for the wrong purpose. Unless your timelines are not clear , it seems like you only moved on after your ex contacted you? If I misinterpreted it then please provide dates of these timelines? Otherwise it’s a simple story of a breakup and subsequently another relationship. That’s most peoples story so why post it? your response has only served to confuse the issue further?
  8. I think you missed the point of no contact as many people do. They seem to think it’s a tool to get an ex back. It’s absolutely not. It’s about self healing. So because you utilised it improperly while in the background remaining hopeful for contact , 3 years later it sucked only because you hadn’t used the no contact for it’s intebded purpose. After 3 years you should have long got past being indifferent. “Soon after the faithful "reach out" that we all wait for, I was crushed. I thought I had done everything right from the No-Contact rule book. I didn't call her, text her,
  9. “Couple that to her lack of commitment to the relationship” “She is also totally unwilling to move in with me and will only consider us getting a mortgage together” “Thankfully, apart from a dog, we aren't financially dependant on each other” Firstly , where the dog resides , that person is the owner. Secondly , I don’t think it’s your gf that’s non committal , it sounds like the non committal person is you. Your reasons for not committing may or may not be valid ones , but your gf’s reasoning for not moving in with you without a financial commitment from you are also
  10. She tells people what they want to hear in order to get what she wants. What did you have in common with her? You only knew her for 60 days? In that time how many dates did you have? I don’t think you knew her at all? And really at the end of the day does it matter??
  11. FaceTime is not Snapchat lol Of course you can record , screenshot and no notification of it. And it’s not illegal to do so. What’s normal for a 23 yr old guy when it comes to sex? Everything lol But 23 yr old females generally won’t put out as easy as 40 something’s. The reason being that most 40 something’s are very secure within themselves and their needs sexually and emotionally. Unfortunately for this guy , he is wasting his time. You might be of age to fulfill his fantasy but you are not Mrs Robinson. And he is not the graduate.
  12. It’s all about perception. The above poster perceived that you had a few long term relationships from people you met in real life. And thereby insinuating that , real life is the way to go. However , define a successful relationship? Your end goal currently is to have a relationship that leads to marriage and kids. Because your real life relationships didn’t result in that , does that mean they were unsuccessful relationships or that your goal back then wasn’t what it is now? You have been online dating for 17 years. Why? What were you looking for as an 18 year old i
  13. You have been saying that for 2 days now. Still haven’t done it. It’s a simple phone call. Make a dead line and stick to it. 24hrs from now .... I suggest the next time you reply on here will be after you’ve made the call.
  14. His perception would be a valid one. His only “crime” was asking for a simple photo not a raunchy one for verification. Restaurants and coffee shops closed. No big deal. A walk in a busy public park is fine. When will you? Because if you don’t today you probably never will. No reason to put it off. You claim yourself you have wasted too much time already so get it over and done with.
  15. Just call him and see if he up to meeting ! No explaining why you haven’t so far. That’s going back to square one with the endless chit chat! If he asks for any explanation , tell him you will chat over coffee or a walk in the park or whatever current covid restrictions permit. Today please?!
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