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Capricorn3

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  1. I get the feeling he's not very interested. BUT, if it's true that he's going through a lot and needs space, then all you can do is respect that. He knows where to find you if he wants to. Meantime, carry on with your life.
  2. OP, be very careful not to shoot yourself in the foot here. Don't smother. It eventually backfires. I agree 100% with Batya's post above. Please read it and take note.
  3. I would not put up with his verbal abuse. He's showing you who he really is, and sorry to say, it's not very nice (imo). He won't change - this is who he is. The longer you stay, the more it shows him that you allow him to disrespect you and verbally abuse you. You have choices. Show him you have some self-respect and leave, OR, show him you will allow him to treat you badly and stay. Choice is yours.
  4. Sounds to me like for her she views you as a friend, someone to hang out with. Nothing more.
  5. I'd leg it. You can't trust someone who lies like this and without trust, you have nothing.
  6. Or maybe the girls are wondering why you don't talk much, so they feel they have to keep it going? What do you think OP?
  7. Will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. (Hugs) xx
  8. You're an amazing woman and strong. Sending you tons of cyber hugs (((((((((hugs)))))))) 🌹 and fingers crossed it has positive results. 🫰
  9. The moment one partner wants children, and the other is not keen about it, that right there is an incompatible partnership. Also, she's already a mother and also older. Although woman can of course still have children at that age, it does come with more risks the older they get. In general, it sounds to me like you're way more into her than she is into you. Maybe time to re-think where this is heading.
  10. Can members please refrain from arguing and debating one another. Thank you.
  11. My concern when it all comes down to it, is how short a time it has been dating him. 6 months is nothing really and then add to that an unplanned baby, - I can't imagine it all ending in a long-lasting, successful relationship. It's very rare. Not saying it can't happen, but it is very rare (imo). As to what people think: Being human, people WILL talk. It's what they do. There may be the typical office gossip, the typical "shock/horror" of family/friends etc etc. It is what it is and not much anyone can do about it. It happens. Whatever you do now, will be between you and Jerry. The two of you now have a new responsibility to focus on. People talking? Yep. But you can't change that.
  12. To everyone else maybe, but to you it sounds like hell on earth. OP, she is full-on abusive and you really should take heed. You're only ten months in and she's giving you a little taste of her true self. This will not get better over time - in fact, it will escalate, especially as she has already seen that you simply put up with her abuse. You show her that you allow this bad behavior and abuse. You should discuss the true issues with your couples counselor. ALL of it. Lay the facts out on the table. If you both just sit there giving the impression that it's all super happy, then you won't get the help you need. Going by your description, this relationship does not sound great in any way. OP, please see the red warning flags waving in your face. The writing is on the wall as to what your future looks like with her. A good start would be to cancel all wedding plans until ALL issues have been resolved (if that's even possible). Really time to re-think this relationship.
  13. Yep. When being irresponsible there are always consequences. You need to sit down with him as soon as possible and discuss where this is going to go in the future.
  14. This sounds like an office romance. When you tell him about being pregnant (hopefully sooner, rather than later), have you considered what you're going to do if he says he doesn't want any more children? He might walk away from this and you'll be a single parent etc.
  15. I second this post. I don't think you did anything wrong. Also, sorry for your loss Tiny.
  16. Are you talking like 20 years older? Or more? I mean, if he's old enough to be your father maybe that's why it feels all wrong.....🤔
  17. How long have you been married? Has she indicated to you that she "wants out" of the marriage? Sounds to me like she's messing around.
  18. I second the above post in its entirety. OP, if you don't share your struggles with a therapist, they can't help you. Basically, you are then wasting their time, your time and your money. Be honest and upfront.
  19. OP, After reading all your posts, each one gets worse than the last which makes me struggle to understand why you haven't ended this "relationship" yet? 😕 Why are you still hanging on when it's clear you have zero respect for this guy. Sounds like you don't even like him at all. You don't want to live with him, that's fine. You don't have to. Just let him go already.
  20. It sounds to me like he liked you and then it all backfired when you got all jealous at the mention of another girl and then rejected him when he asked you out. He must be feeling really confused right now. Are you usually a very jealous person in general? Jealousy can make people overreact about the smallest thing. That's something to work on.
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