My ex girlfriend (f22) and I (m21) were dating for 2 years as of April this year and broke up very recently, we have not told any of my family or friends yet. We are both students ant university. Our relationship was good in the beginning but over the last year and few months it has been rocky and she has been extremely unhappy. The issues that have plagued our relationship are as follows:
I do not feel worthy of her. We have had many conversations about who I am as a person, and the issues that she has with me are my lack of discipline when it comes to things such as going to the gym, academics, money etc. another issue is my ambition. We come from very different backgrounds where she comes from a background of Poverty, separated house hold and being abandoned by her father where she has had to fight to get to where she is. Where as I come from a fairly comfortable background with both parents and my dad being able to provide more that I need for me. The conflict comes in where I have a support structure that I know I can fall back on if needs be that being my father where as she does not. She feels that I lack the drive and ambition to be able to provide her for and our family in future because I will always depend on my parents and I need to stop doing that and become independent and a man.
the second issue is with my family. My family does not like her and do not respect her. Having tried speaking to my mother about this situation to try and fix things nothing has happened. To the best of my abilities I have tried to mend the fences between my ex girlfriend and my family. She does not want any part of them anymore and cannot handle them anymore hence her breaking up with my recently due to this bottle up of emotions.
I know I’m order for me to win her back I need to change every aspect of myself as well as tackle the challenge of my family and out of boundaries between them and my relationship in order for this to work. She says she loves me but I have the feeling that she has lost feelings and I do not know if doing all this this will be in vain and I will lose her to a more established and stable person than I am.
what should I do?