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Thread: I cheated my long term girlfriend and impregnated another girl.

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    I cheated my long term girlfriend and impregnated another girl.

    Hi

    Iíve been with GF A for about 4 years.
    At the same time, i had a lover for 2 years. The lover knew about gf but gf didnt know about lover.

    Lover got pregnant..

    Considering i want to recognize and support the baby; so gf you will come to know eventually... how do I tell her?

    Should i leave her before she discovers it to give her less pain... or take my chances to be with her; trying to save the relationship and confess hoping to be forgiven

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    I'm not here to judge and it's brave of you to post that^^ It's quite a hole you've dug yourself there!

    I'm very unsure about trying to save your relationship...That is going to implode in a big way. Yes she is going to go through a world of pain.

    My first thought is you partner up with your 'lover' and try to make some sort of family for the child.....But I have my doubts about that relationship as well....

    Regardless of any of this get thyself into counseling to figure out what the hell possessed you to do such a thing.....

    That's all I got sorry....I've been cheated on and it hurts like a mutha and can take a long while to recover from*

    But it is now time for you to reap what you have sown. Trying to hide this any longer is only going to prolong the inevitable.

    Carus*

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    Show her the simple decency of telling her the truth. I am not surprised that you want to leave her without being honest, as this is your character: someone who is a liar and a cheater and wants to run out, without accountability. Your behavior is something to really be proud of. If your gf has any sense, she will be done with you.

    I feel sorry for the kid!

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    I'd skip any 'goals' behind telling the GF, and I'd be honest about the two year deception rather than trying to make it sound like a one-time fling. GF deserves the ability to make her own choices based on facts rather than more deception, doesn't she?

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    Well as a girl, I would be furious when the true comes out about the lover and child, but I think honesty is the best (and only) way to handle this. I think you should tell your GF the truth and give her some time to think about this situation, maybe you can work this out.
    The question is - do you want to work this out? Because you had a lover for some time and form my point of view you don't need to have a lover, if you really, truly love your GF.

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    I would tell your girlfriend you cheated and got her pregnant. You donít need to divulge the details of the 2 year relationship. But DO NOT let her forgive you without furnishing the rest of the details. If she breaks up with you, just leave it. If she discusses forgiveness, tell her everything.

    I hope you understand how awful your actions are. 2 years of deception is malicious.

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    Karma is a B*&^% isn't it.

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    Originally Posted by smackie9
    Karma is a B*&^% isn't it.
    I'm sure he will do it again.

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    Originally Posted by Hollyj
    I'm sure he will do it again.
    Ya he came here to see if he can someway get out of this smoothly. A true coward. he won't take accountability for his own actions.


    OP you know this won't be easy. Confess and go forward.

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    Can you afford to support a child?

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