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  1. I truly understand the heartache and pain that you are experiencing. Unfortunately, there is no magic pill that takes the pain away. The only thing that will help is time. How long? It depends on the individual. You will experience a roller coaster of emotions, which is normal after a loss. I will share my story with you. I was married for 29 years. He blindsided me when he asked for divorce. It felt like my whole world fell apart. I was a total mess for months. I cried and cried, couldn't sleep well at all, had trouble eating (lost 20 pounds), had trouble being interested in anything, etc. I moved out and went back one day to pick up some things that I left behind only to find an extra pillow on my bed, a toothbrush on my sink, extra towels. That was 11 days after I moved out! He had already someone stay overnight. There are no words that fully describe how I felt. Slowly, and I mean slowly, I began to heal. I focused on hobbies that made me happy. In my case, all my friends turned their backs to me. Really ***ty thing to do, for sure. However, I had my two amazing sons, my brother and his wife, my ex MIL and my ex SIL who comforted me and supported me in my time of need. It's been 4.5 years since my divorce and I can honestly say that I feel so much better nowadays. I don't cry anymore, I rarely think of him. Once in a while, I will think of some good times but I learned to stop that. It serves no purpose. Instead, I concentrate on all the good things in my life. So, if I can do it, so can you, Mrs. Wise. He's not worth your tears. Don't give him that power. You will heal slowly, I promise. Remember that time is the answer. Hang in there in the meantime. Take good care of yourself, OK? Sending you virtual hugs.
  2. You should be ashamed of yourself for even entertaining that ridiculous, selfish and really stupid idea. Have some respect for your wife, dude!!! Don't be such an a**hole.
  3. Beautifully said, Capricorn! SPOT ON!!!
  4. I completely agree with what catfeeder and 1a1a said. It is normal to feel all those emotions. Some days will be better than others. Unfortunately, you cannot speed up healing, and there is no magic cure. Only time will heal, I promise you. Everyone is different, so it's hard to say how long this horrible period will last. I can tell you from personal experience that time works wonders. 29 year marriage down the drain. I was blindsided. It's been almost over 4.5 years now, and I feel so much better. Be patient, be kind to yourself, and know that this grief/sorrow will pass at some point. You can, and will, get through it!!! I am so sorry that you are going through this. Keep writing; it helps. We are here for you. Hugs.
  5. As the majority of posters said, dump this pervert. If he does this now, do you honestly think it's not going to happen again, and again? RUN and never look back! You'll save yourself a lot of stress and heartache.
  6. Beautifully said, Cherylyn! I fully agree.
  7. Beautifully said and nailed it, Cherylyn. Thank you for wring such a amazing response. I truly enjoyed reading it, and I fully agree with you. Take good care of yourself. xx
  8. Thanks! I will send a card but no gift. I'm tired of being taken for granted. If they can't be bothered then I won't be bothered! Now, I just have to figure out how to not feel bad or guilty. LOL
  9. Well said! I won't tell my brother. I'm sure he is clueless that his daughter does that. My brother's son (the one who had a baby in February) not only sent me a thank you note but also an announcement. It is so nice to be acknowledged. When I give gifts, I truly don't expect any gifts in return, but I do expect a thank you. But, that's just me.
  10. >>> "The parents are the ones who should've humbly, sincerely and gratefully thanked you. To ignore you is very DISRESPECTFUL." I feel the same way, Cherylyn. So, if the parents don't send a text/email/card to say thank you, they won't teach the child that. Shame, because the sender of the gift would feel appreciated and happy. What a fail to understand is that, if I don't send a gift, I would feel guilty. Isn't that crazy? I'm all for treating people the way they treat you now. I've got to remember that. Thank you for answering any enjoy your weekend.
  11. How thoughtless and rude of your niece, Batya. Sorry. I honestly don't know where their manners are. Behaviour like that is pure disrespect in my mind. I am the same way as you. I would make it a point to respond in a timely manner. NO ONE is that busy that they are unable to take literally one minute to respond to an email or a text? If even that long. One thing that I have semi-learned over the years: don't assume that people have the same principals/manner as I do. I say semi-learned (is that even a word? LOL) because, clearly, I still make that same mistake. That is my problem. Thanks again for answering again. xx
  12. I design cards for a couple of artists so it's no big deal for me to make a card, rather than buying one. It is enjoyable for me, and if they are unable to appreciate it, their loss. However, I would never stoop so low as to not send a card though. But, that's just me. Have a lovely day!
  13. Thank you for the suggestion regarding the book. Yes, it does bother me that my 33 year old niece can't be bothered to acknowledge me. Annoying, but such is life.
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