sam1234 Posted September 16, 2019 Share Posted September 16, 2019 Hi guys, just need some advice. Long story short, my girlfriend (both 26) and I were together for 4 years and then we split 2 months ago, to be clear i instigated the break up and she put it as she didnt see it coming. she took it super hard and was highly stressed out, she took it was worse than i thought she would. We have just recently decided to talk and see whether we can try work things out using the help of counsellors. She then told me before she wants to get any help she needs me to know that she slept with an ex-boyfriend of her's 2 weeks after we split up. I know i broke up with her and we weren't together and she was free to do whatever she pleased, including have sex with someone new. When she told me I didn’t get mad at her at all, I was just devastated. I told her I wasn’t mad but that it just really hurt. She said she stopped halfway and went home and feels really upset about it and eveyrthing. she kept saying how she was hurt that i suddenly just dropped her and broke up with her and she didn't plan on it and was super drunk and things just happened. Now, i know things JUST dont happen! But i also do highly doubt she planned on it. It’s such a confusing position to be in because I know I can’t hold it against her since im the one who broke it off and we were 'technically' broken up, but my god does it sting. It feels like betrayal but it isnt. It feels like I meant nothing to her after 4 years of being together and just 2 weeks after breaking up. It just hurts and I don’t know what to do about it. Have any of you been in this situation before? How did you work through it? Is it even worth trying to work through it? I know I need to either call it quits and move on or let this go and be at peace with it. I know it won’t happen overnight and but I need advice. Thank You! Link to comment
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