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  1. Take what away? You mean the porn? If that's what you meant, I don't think telling him not to do any of that is going to help. Firstly, you're right in saying that he may just want to keep going. Secondly, there is a way to work it out so that both of you get what you want and not feel pressured by the other, providing you're both willing to compromise.
  2. One reason he is having his "private sessions" could be that he feels somewhat inadequate (maybe even embarrassed) around you (his very low sex drive). I would not jump straight to the conclusion that he is cheating just because he is masturbating alone. This can just mean that he is trying to better his sex drive, with some visual aids, some physical stimulation. Have you confronted him about this and told him your feelings? Did he come right out and tell you that he's been masturbating alone, etc, or did you find it out yourself? As with not having sex with you often, same thing - he could be feeling a little embarrassed that he can't keep up with your sexual drive. I think the threesome idea is one way to go, providing that you are both ready for it. Unfortunately, you don't seem to be ready for it, which is completely natural. My boyfriend has also suggested this idea for us (we both have a healthy level of sex drive - the only thing is that mine is a bit higher than his...), and I too don't feel very comfortable with actually going ahead with it. "its so hard to think that he wants othe people way more then me" I'm not entirely sure as I don't have the whole story, but I don't think that that is how he feels about the threesome. It could be his way of helping out your sexual relationship with a little boost. Bottom line: you both need to have a good talk about this issue. Once it's all out in the open, you will have a better understanding of him and his behaviour. "guys are not monogamous people, its in their nature to have sex with as many people as possible" That is a very strong statement to make. Not all guys cheat or will cheat. It's the same as saying that all girls are like that.
  3. It seems you've done everything backwards here - sex first. Now I'm not saying that that's the wrong way of going about things, because I've been there and I know how it can happen with the online chatting. Like mahlina said, you should be careful. It's a generalisation, but when men are only after no-strings-attached sex, they will accept the first offer they get. If you're lucky, he might also have feelings for you, but if you are after a healthy relationship with this guy, or any other guy for that matter, there is no need to rush straight into the sex. When you wait, it can be sooo much better. You should definitely raise the subject with him, asking him to answer you honestly (sometimes men will say anything to get you into bed) - listen to your instincts. If he is not willing to wait, then you know where you stand. Never let a stranger talk you into sex. Get to know him a bit more, outside of the sex talk. See what kind of person he really is, if he is still boyfriend material. All the best!!
  4. Always happy to help, bboyartist Love the website, by the way.
  5. It's best to ask open-ended questions, questions that require more than one sentence in reply. For example, if you started a conversation with someone by saying "Nice day, isn't it?", chances are, they could reply with a simple "Yes", and the conversation could end right there and then. Here are some ideas on what you can say or ask: Where do you like to hang out? Seen any good movies/concerts lately? I like that perfume you're wearing. What is it? You've done something different to your hair... (if you have mutual friends) Did you hear what so-and-so is going to do? Also, listen to what they're telling you. These things give you a lot of hints as to what to ask/say next. They may have mentioned a person, a place, an event, etc. Follow-up by asking them about these things. The longer you've spent talking to someone, or the more often, it gets easier.
  6. I agree with bullet in that you should spend a bit more time with the second girl, to get to know her better. In fact, you should spend the same amount of time with each girl to help you decide. However, remember not to rush anything. What you want to do is to get to know each girl with quality time, the way it should be. By the end of it, you will have a better idea as to which girl you choose. Not only that, but the time that they have spent with you, will also help them in deciding if they like you enough to start a relationship (ie. the first girl with whom you weren't too sure of her feelings for you), which will also help you along with your decision.
  7. I stumbled upon this site one day while searching for some advice on a problem I had. I found that everyone was so helpful, had really good advice to offer, and it kind of made me feel no longer alone. I started reading other people's posts, found myself in the same situation in the past and could offer some help. Since then, I've been visiting regularly. I love this site because it brings people together. It's like one big happy family where everyone is there for each other. If you felt alone, there is always someone happy to listen. There is always a solution, even when you think you're all out of ideas.
  8. I haven't dyed my hair for a couple of years now, but many years ago, I would do it often, along with changing my hair style. I did it because I loved constantly having a new image. I was still in my teens and experimenting with different looks, trying to find my self-image. If I did it now, it would be for a bit of fun, a little boost to my confidence and look. Just like buying new shoes, clothes or trying different makeup. Different people do it for different reasons. There is no doubt that quite a few guys do it too. I think it's great. It's another form of self-expression. Some will also agree that your body is like an empty canvas with which you can create a piece of artwork on to tell the world what kind of person you are, just like an artist does.
  9. I remember this from another post I answered last night titled "A SECOND Chance?????????????" from the same author. Might be best to read this other one first? link removed
  10. Yes, in the case where a girl likes the guy, some girls do wait for the guy to make the first move. This is mainly because she is shy, or she doesn't want to move too fast and scare him off in the process. From experience, this is how I am in that situation. The best moments to make the move is when you are both physically close, like sitting or standing side by side, or when you're saying goodnight (this is a very good excuse for a kiss if you're feeling awkward to make the move any other time). As well as what Beec said - an appropriate moment is important. If you sense by her body language that she is "closing up" when you move closer, this is not a good sign to go ahead with the kiss. Your instincts will help you with the rest
  11. Happy 18th!! I didn't have my first real boyfriend until I was 19, so you're not alone. There is no right age or time to have a partner. It happens when it happens, when the time is right. While you are still single, go out there and have fun! Enjoy the single life while you still have it, because you never know, around the corner could be the girl you've been waiting for That's the beauty of love - you never know when it's going to hit you
  12. Ok, it's obvious the partner doesn't like you in the picture, whether it be jealousy or another issue, but it's something that needs to be sorted out between her and the partner. There seems to be quite a bit of mistrust and level of control on the partner's part. By all means, ask her about her thoughts on your relationship and her feelings for you. You do have a right to know where you stand, especially when you are left feeling that you are jeopardising their relationship. However, in the end, she is the one who has to make the decision whether she wants to be with her partner, with you, or all parties come to a compromise where everyone can be happy.
  13. Remember how you got her attention in the first place? By talking to her, paying her attention. This is how you're going to get her back, but don't mimic everything you did before. Just take it slow, be yourself like you've always been. Focus less on your shyness and more on her as a person. Take a deep breath and go for it You can do it!
  14. Ask yourself honestly, in your heart, is this guy right for you in the long run? He has told you almost from the beginning that he does not want to commit. From your post, it sounds like he is still happy being single, living at home with his parents and relying on them for financial support. Can you picture yourself married to someone like him? You sound like a very patient girl, so maybe you can sort of lay low for awhile and see what he does, if he makes any moves/choices about your relationship, or does he just fade away from your life? Seeing as you have been making the first moves all this time, maybe leave the ball in his court for a change. If he has changed, he will make a decision, whether to continue the relationship or not. But remember, life is too short to play the waiting game. Ask yourself if you want to be with someone you have to wait around for. All the best to you with whatever path you take.
  15. I think a little competition is a healthy part of life, but NOT when it evolves around your life. I think it comes down to self-esteem. If you have low self-esteem, aren't satisfied or happy with what you have, you start to feel jealousy towards the more "fortunate" individuals or groups of your gender. It's an unsaid thing. It's not something you admit to for fear of sounding weak. I totally agree with charmed. We have the media to blame for our distorted view on what is beautiful/acceptable. Everyday we are bombarded by images of size 6 women, selling everything from food to cars. We start to think that this is what we need to look like if we want to be somebody in this world. The secret to advertising is to sell you what you don't have, thereforeeee what we are constantly seeing is the unattainable image.
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