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because some girls would act like "well, he's not interested in me at all, so..." Is it something that you have to pretend that's she not there once, then stop and pay attention to her, then use the ignoring tactic again? For example: There's a girl in my tennis class and I say hello to her whenever she comes into the class (which is usually about an hour into the class) then, I go back to my regular routine in another part of the tennis courts. When the class ends, that's when I usually talk to her again. But, sometimes I feel that I might need to "stick with her" during the time she's in the class because she might hang with some other guys. THAT part is the confusing part. So what's the best way to show interest/don't show interest in her? Hope my question and example makes sense! Peace

hello everyone! I've successfully dated this girl for about 2 weeks and I'm going to spend time with her at a popular dance club in town. She likes alcohol but she's never tried a mixed drink before. I know a few, but I'd also like to know what are some of the more "aphrodisiac-styled" drinks that are popular with women? I'm asking because she keeps giving me strong hints that she's ready for futher intimacy Thanks for your suggestions! I'll also ask my friends before Saturday nite. Peace, BB

hello, I'm in a tennis class with a mixed group of men and women. I've gone out for coffee with one girl that I like..we had fun, I made her laugh, but in her last phone message she said that she's looking for friends now. Of course it doesn't mean that I should just completely STOP the process of flirting..but now I don't know how to go at it. So far, one area has been taken cared of: Being in her company. For example, I try to play next to her on the tennis court during a doubles match, and when she leaves the class sometimes I walk & talk with her. So far I've given her approriate compliments but I'm compelled to say humorous things that will increase the flirtatious bond between us. I read this article that mentions about the seduction technique called anchoring: " Anchoring works by first generating emotional states that are more likely to get a woman to open out to sex. The group is asked to come up with the kind of states they want to create. Curiosity, playfulness and desire all scored high on the list. And the earlier mentioned question about fulfilment is one way to generate these states." Besides your typical compliment, what are some other ways to generate positive highly emotional states in women? What appropriate physical gestures can I possibly use? Since we're playing tennis, does anyone know where I can find or learn humorous conversations based on tennis? Because we're in the "friends" stage, I'm in no hurry to rush things, but I want to make sure that my process of seduction is steady yet noticeable to the girl. When we're walking home together I don't want to stick just to "topics to talk about". Thanks

Thanks adrenalyn-x!

I've found out that when I ask questions like: What's your favorite music" the answer is usually: "I really don't know..I like all types of music". How can you avoid asking questions like that and still maintain a lively conversation? What other topics besides music, work, and school can you possibly find in common with members of the opposite sex?

I've found out that when I ask questions like: What's your favorite music" the answer is usually: "I really don't know..I like all types of music". How can you avoid asking questions like that and still maintain a lively conversation? What other topics besides music, work, and school can you possibly find in common with members of the opposite sex?

Hello all! I'm attracted to a woman in my Saturday tennis class who's 3 years older than me..she's intelligent, mature but it's great to know that she has a very fun, laid-back side to her. She loves going to hip hop performances in the city, likes sports, e.t.c. Overall, my classmate is great to talk to and we've practiced together for the past two Saturdays. I've been invited to a DJ event after her friend's birthday party, but I expect that there will be a lot of guys (potential competitors) at this event. My buddy tells me that I should float around and talk to other women (which is cool) but what are some of the subtle, seductive ways that I can keep the interest level and the connection going between my classmate and I? Besides conversating or dancing with her, what other ways can stem off the competition? Basically I'm not placing my expections ultra-high (since we only meet on Saturdays) but I WOULD like to make the right moves before some other guy that's interested in her does. Any advice would be mucho supremo!! Thanks

Hi, I'm in a semester long tennis class and already I've talked to two women that I find attractive. On President's Day I went out with one of them for coffee ONLY. It was cool..because we were in a lively atmosphere and there wasn't the pressure of taking her out on a real date. And, I've started the basic groundwork: Light touching, lengthy conversations, humor. She's 25, the other woman is 26. However, my ultimate intentions are: 1) Sex (without the relationship) and 2) A possible girlfriend in the future. However, since I've just gotten out of a relationship last December the 1st choice has been on my mind ALOT. I guess maybe because I'm impatient.. I'm wondering what is the best and quickest way to seduce or build up trust between me and a woman before actually going to 2nd base? Should I spend time with each of them and THEN communicate my feelings..or should I give hints on the way? Our tennis class is on Saturdays only and since we all work in careers that take up alot of our time, I'm feeling pressure to get out of the "friends" phase before the semester ends. The younger woman told me that she's looking for friends right now (she gave no reason as to why) and so as her "friend" I've thought of ways that I can be in her company: 1. Walking with her after tennis class 2. Having lunch with her 3. Sightseeing (she's new to the city) 4. Renting and watching DVDs at her place (maybe in the future) I can't think of anymore because I refuse to have her label me as a "trusty friend who's always there for me". I have enough friends anyway. Sorry this is so long, but I gotta get my thoughts out..any advice would be helpful. Thanks!

I'm 22 and there is an attractive woman in my tennis class is older than me (about 3 or 4 years older) we've played a few matches and generally we're friendly with each other. For example, we had a lively conversation about adding the class during the first day, and we've found that we have a few things in common. However, my goal is not to develop a friendship with her (which I have too many anyway) but rather I'm interested in seducing her for some sexual fun. She's new to the city, doesn't have a man and we've agreed to meet on President's Day for coffee. So how would you tell a girl that you're only interested in sex rather than just friendship? I understand that in some cases actions speak louder than words, such as lite touching, compliments, an occasional seductive look..but at the same time I want to really communicate with her so that there's no confusion. What's the best way to "segue" the topic of sex within a conversation and let my intentions be known without turning her off? I've had little experience in the whole "friends with benefits" situation because I'm used to being in regular relationships with girls. Thanks

Hi everyone! I'm a guy who's attending a tennis class at my college..basically it's an alternative to the sports that I already play. There's a good mix of guys and girls there, and there is this attractive girl that I've practiced and talked with already. However, because I'm new at this sport I don't know how to base a conversation around the subject of tennis. Does anyone know if there are tennis topics that I can talk about without the stuff that the entire class already knows? In class, we've gone over scores, positioning, where to practice at, who's playing at the Siebel Open, the rules, e.t.c. Hope my question makes sense! While I'm getting to know her I think that it would be helpful to "padden up" my conversations with her.

What makes glasses (even the very thin and stylish ones) so unattractive to women when they see men wearing them? I HAVE the personality, but when I talk with women, it's like they treat me as some second-class citizen. I grew up in the 80s and early 90s when the whole television "nerd" image was on the rise (think Revenge Of The Nerds, Steve Urkel on Family Matters, e.t.c.) and sometimes I think that young women in my low-income city are so influenced by what they see on TV that they carry this undesirable image of a guy with glasses with them from middle school to college. I'm getting contacts soon, but I can't help but wonder why it's been such a struggle to find women who don't mind if a guy wears glasses. Any suggestions? Thanks