Inkognito

Hi everybody, so, I have a question for anyone that has an opinion on this. (I'll make it short, 'cause I know nobody likes longish posts) I've known this guy for more than a year now, but never got into a "deep" conversation with him. The problem is he's about (I don't know for sure) 5 years older than me (me being 18 in 2 months), also, I don't know if he has a girlfriend or anything. This is what I know for sure: 1) I really like him A LOT, but never got the courage to mention it to him 2) He usually shows to be happy whenever he sees me 3) I don't know what I should do, what to say, blahblahblah... It's a pretty common situation Anyone who has an idea, please tell me (just avoid saying just "go for it" or "tell him", my problem is "how?", "what should I say?", "does the age gap matter?") Ok, this turned out longer than I expected... sorry Thanks in advance for anyone's help

Personally, I think her reaction to "Shawn's" asking her number is fairly normal; it could well be that she wanted to see if "Shawn" were really interested in her (even in the event of her having a bf). I see some positive shyness in her attitude towards "Shawn". In my opinion, girls like this are the best a guy can find: they are not the easygoing ones, but they know what they want from a guy. But again, it's for "Shawn" to decide. See how she reacts on the phone, then, if "Shawn" thinks it worth it, "Shawn" will definitely know what to do next!! Keep us posted on the developments

Just "tell Shawn" to go for it!! Best of luck

definitely #2! It's always the same story: you know what you leave behind, but not what you'll find next! good luck

I know this is one of many posts trying to stop you from doing something extreme and irreversible... maybe you won't even read it... or maybe you want to show anyway you're brave enough to do it... but please stop a second and listen to this. I don't want my post to be the thing that will change your mind (although I would hope so), but I would like you to reflect about something. Everyone can notice by your screenname and your posts that you hate yourself and you have some sort of insane anger inside. I don't know, don't wanna know what you're angry about, what your problems are, but let me tell you you're not the only one who has problems, everyone has some. Maybe, certainly bigger than yours, whaterver they may be. What do you want to demonstrate by doing this? By killing yourself you won't prove anything to anyone. it's only you who'll lose and who'll let the reason of your anger prevail. Is this what you want? Give up and be killed by your problems, rather than solve them or fightn against them? If you answer is yes, well, let me tell you you're not proving you're brave or anything (just because you did it), but rather that you're a coward! An ostrich whose only method of escaping danger or problems is to stick its head under the sand!! I've said what I had to Then, I'll leave it to you. I can't change your mind. Just think about it!

what are u thinking about instead? There must be something that keeps you from focusing on what you're doing also.. are you working in a quiet place? I find it hard to study when there is confusion or noise or anything else around me Good luck w/ your exams Inkognito

Ok guys... I really need help... I've been thinking obsessively about this guy I like for the last 5 days or so. The problem is I'm going back to school next monday and think it's time to ignore my feelings for some time, just to be ready and focused on my last year of HS: it's very important to me for a number of personal reasons. Am I doing the right thing? I mean, we're not together or anything, I like him a lot and he seems too. The fact is I don't want to send him the wrong signal. I don't want him to think I'm not interested anymore, but I'm afraid of how he could interpret my attitude twds him. Boys... what would you think if you were him? Girls... am I doing the right thing? I've got less than a week left to decide, please let me know what you think Thnx in advance Inkognito 8) to the world u may b 1 person, but to 1 person u may b the world...

First: if they're really best mates as they appear to be, their friendship won't be ruined (at least forever... maybe at first they will discuss it, but then...). Second: since mr N.., what's his name... doesn't seem to care much about your relationship (or he's chronically shy once he's w/ a girl... as I used to be w/ guyz... but this is another story...), he won't be surprised at your reaction... Third: talk to your Mr S about this, if you feel it could help, and ask for advice: tell him everythinggggg, and see his point of view.. he could help! Bottom line: do what your heart tells you... and.. as your sn tells: JUST SMILE!! kEEP IN TOUCH InKoGnItO

I know how you're feeling.. it's the same thing it happened to me quite a while ago.. ANYWAY... If I were you... I would just tell "scott" what I feel for him... as for the other guy, well, maybe just leave him alone for some time and then one day when you both feel like talking about it... talk! There just doesn't seem to be the same kind of feeling between you and the 2 guyz remember that sometimes the hardest things to say are the things ppl need to hear the most Hope it worked

Hey thx virus... it's not a question of responsibility in the outer world anyway... no need to worry about that. The problem is that I need to escape into that world... and the question is : HOW?!

Now, I need anyone's help here. I have to understand if I'm the only one in the world who is completely inhibited by parents. Here's my problem (if it were only one!!).. anyway.. I'm almost 18 and still treated as a little baby. I can't talk to my parents about people of the opposite sex, not about boyfriends, not about anything else!! Is this normal? I mean, I can't go out in the evening with friends (even if they are only girls) and there are always problems if I ask to go out in the afternoon. Just to give you an idea: in the last year or so, I went out with my friends only 6 times! 3 of which were related to school projects! For them (in particular my mom) there's only school, school, school... and I agree that's important, but come on, I study every day and get mad just to keep my straight A level just to have something back from them. They know I'm the last person who will ever go out and smoke, drink or do any other idiocy, but still... I'm stuck at home on my books!! I feel like I'm in a cage which is too tight for me... They always tell me that it's not me they don't trust: it's everyone else... The fact is that I'm tired of living on lies: lies on who I'm seeing when I go out, where I'm going (I mean, they don't even want me to go to the movies...), etc... Can anyone understand me? Has anyone ever had the same problem, and if yes, how did they solve it? The fact is that I'm scared at the thought of being one day left to live alone in a world in which I haven't built enough experience... All I need to know is anyone's opinion on this problem, please!!! I'm sorry of my brainstorming up there... but I had to tell someone everything.. I'm exploding in myself, and I can assure you it's not a nice feeling... Thanx guys Inkognito

I've read your last posts and really don't think he can just ignore you or "not want" you. I mean... you dedicated him a poem, you gave him the truth: you can't just be unwanted. I'd say just wait a few days and then maybe confront him on the issue from an objective point of view.. maybe he will tell you "the reason" for his behavior. You don't deserve this anyway... after all you've done Good Luck Inkognito

hey... why don't you print what you've written here and give her to read. Tell her she wasn't supposed to read it, but that's the only thing that's really the truth. Just ask her to read that. If she isn't moved or anything... well, maybe she doesn't deserve you... I'd try that... Good Luck Inkognito

Why don't you tell her exactly that... Don't write too much though: it's better to tell her in person!! Just ask her to see you some time and then tell her everything you feel for her: be as sincere as possible!! Anyway... I know it's not easy. I'd say to try anyway... Fear lasts for seconds... regret lasts a lifetime!! (think about it!) Let me know how it went if you don't mind... I'm kind of interested 8)

If I were you.... I'd send her a B-Day card saying something like this: "I know usually the person who has a bday gets the gift, but this time I'm the one to ask you a gift: could you please give me some of your precious time to let me talk to you and clear up the mess I created..." I mean, that's the sense I would give... If I were her, I would accept the offer... I'm not good at expressing my ideas in a foreign language...sorry hope it helped, anyway... good luck Inkognito

call him... ask him how he is doing... tell him you're going on holiday for whatever time it is (2wks?)... and send him a postcard from where you are going. When you get back call him again just to stay in touch... Don't exclude him: you two might need each other sometime or another!! Anyway, do what you feel like doing... gdluck Inkognito

Hi I think there will be a moment when you both will start talking to each other again, but don't be too anxious. I'm telling you this, because for me it took more than a year to get back talking with my ex. It also depends on what you still expect from him... in fact, it seems like you want him back (maybe I'm wrong...but)... Time will clear up everything... Just wait and you'll both know when it will be the right time!! Good Luck Inkognito

Ok, I decided to tell this guy I like him and maybe ask him out this weekend. We have known each other for a few months now, we get along very well, but we have never talked much about "US". I think we are both too shy to ask the other out... but I wonder... should I be the one to ask him out?? I really like him A LOT (!) but don't know how to tell him or how to ask him on a date... Please help me!! I'm going crazy!! Any advice is welcome... thanks in advance Inkognito

Hi everyone! I really need your help. I'm an Italian girl who has fallen for a beautiful American guy. Anyway, I'm 17 and he's over 20, maybe over 25, but the age doesn't matter. He works at the Leasing Office of the complex where I live, and I see him all the time a package arrives (when I go and pick it up there), or whenever my dad sends me there with a check. Every time I go into the office, he's sitting at his desk and as soon as he sees me, he comes to me with a big smile and his eyes spark... then he says Hi and How're you doing today... maybe we say something about the weather or something else stupid and that's it. I give him the check or take my package, say bye and everything it's over in less than 3 minutes... I've reason to believe he's interested in me: the smile, the eyes that are constantly looking into mine (I know that, even if I always look away, cause I'm too shy...), and looking at me while I go out the office. It's been like this for a few months now. Now I get back from vacation and go to the pool, which is in front of his window, and I see him when he has his cigarette break outside. Today, he was talking to the lifeguard while I was there and stayed there half an hour (every now and then he loked at me and I did too, but not for more than half a second...). Then when I went away I said Bye and he did too with a big smile... The fact is that I really like him and I think I might have a chance with him, but don't know how/what to tell him something other than Hi and Bye!!!!!! I know his name (because of his tag on the shirt) but never introduced formally (he doesn't know mine). I 'd like to go out with him sometime, but how do I ask him out??? Consider everything please and try to help me as soon as possible, pleeeez.. Thanks in advance... Inkognito