nancy_9535

commitment can be tough... simply show your partner why they would want a commitment to a relationship... of course there are good points and bad points but as long as you two love each other... the good points will completely rule out the bad points... and he'll realize the goodness of a commitment

honestly... only he knows what he feels and you know what you feel but from what I read ... it sounds like you two are in love... its been hard on both of you... but if you two truly love each other... then by the time you come back you two will still love each other. just keep in contact with him. But remember... him loving you and you not being where he can see you(like... around his neighborhood... being able to go out on dates and such) is really tough for him... life goes by fast... and no one should have to continuously wait for someone. But if they think that certain someone is worth waiting for (which i'm sure you are cause you sound very kind hearted and considerate) then once those two separated people get back together... it won't matter how far apart you were... it will just matter that you two are together and both of you can't live without each other.

You should be able to trust your girlfriend... no matter what you two should be honest with each other... I do believe, however, that a few times...even though i despise people who lie... that she lied so she wouldn't upset you... it makes a girl feel special when two guys are fighting over her... she feels worth something i suppose... if it ever comes up again... as in you and her thinking about giving it another shot... I suggest you first find out why she lied... if she claims she never lied... even though it may hurt... you may want to gently break to her a few clues that you found... tell her that if you two can't be honest with each other, then you simply don't want to be together (if thats how you feel) We're still unsure if she wants to get back with her ex... she may just want to still be friends with him... and just friends... but lying about contacting him isn't a good sign... but this may be ... because you told her to break all ties with him. I suggest you not tell her who to talk to and who not to talk to... I know it seems rude... but when people tell me not talk to talk to so and so just because they have something against them... it makes me think that ... its a problem between THOSE two... and it shouldn't concern me. If she can regain your trust... by telling the truth, then I say all's well that ends well and ya'llz should give it another shot

I'm sorry about what happened to you... its terrible to top anything bad off with a breakup with a girl you really do care about. I think there is still a chance... just take her aside... explain to her what happened... since you said she really believed in you... she probably still does believe in you... so simply tell her the truth... it won't be easy to start all over again... but once you get going... it will get easier and easier Changing to her school JUST for her may be a little extreme.. especially if you two don't end up getting back together... because you'll see her around school.. possibly in your classes... and you don't want to be distracted... but if you truly think that school is the best one to attend to pursue your dreams... then I say go for it You'll get through this... I'm sure you will. Just take small steps at first... the rest will come naturally. Its never too late to start over. I wish you the best.

hey... well first of all... I'm not sure what you're getting after... the post was very interesting as you know a lot of knowledge concerning their past (as well as present?) love life and when and how their lives when down the "crapper." You do sound quite frustrated... I know its easy to get frustrated over this sort of thing.... but do you want to get back together with her? And if you do... do you think theres a chance? The only part her ex boyfriend (who shes possibly with) has to do with this is... if they're a couple... if they're not then theres a chance you two can get back together. But... if she keeps going back and forth between you and her ex bf... then shes probably not worth it... if she does that type of thing it looks like shes looking more for adventure and when the adventure of one relationship dies down, she goes to the other guy and so on... I know its hard to do... so much easier said than done...but don't get upset over the "what ifs"... as in.. what if she IS back with her bf? how will that affect you? Well... that would mean you can't get back with her for the time being. I'm unsure of why she would go back to her ex bf after 3 and a half years of dating you... yes its flattering to have someone go heads over heals for you but in my opinion... if they destroy their own life because they broke up with you... thats not very flattering... it sounds like a guilt trip. Anyway... when you ask her if shes happy... she may take it as... whether shes happy with her love life... not necessarily her entire life... obviously shes not happy with her entire life because she complains about not being able to find a job etc... It sounds like she still wants to be friends with you. Just be careful... it'll be easy to spot a pattern: her going back and forth between you and her ex... if she does that... then she doesn't know what she wants and i suggest you just ... stay away until she has things sorted out... she can't do that all of her life... unless people let her.

it will come naturally... when you two are alone (unless you really have the guts to ask her in front of people but it may be sweeter if you take her aside...) and maybe hm... well it depends on what kind of girl she is... maybe give her a rose and take her hand and tell her that you really care about her and you'd like to go out with her... there are so many possibilities... keep in mind what kind of girl she is and what kind of... approach to asking her out would awe her...

hey, this looks quite confusing... it looks like she probably does still love you... however the part where she acts like you two are together when you're alone but just friends to the public... sounds quite common... it happened to me... I didn't know what to think of it... I'm not sure why you two broke up, but it sounds like she's having a tough time with the breakup, too, and she feels she's happier when she's with you than without you....as for acting strangely in public... it looks like she doesn't want to admit that shes having trouble with the breakup. You may just want to talk to her... if you're offended by what she seems to be doing, simply tell her nicely... honestly she may not even notice what she's doing. And truly... it doesn't matter where you two are... both of you should always show the same respect towards each other. And remember... if you can't be bf and gf... being friends is better than nothing

no problem I just find it strange that he keeps on moving back and forth between your house and his ex's houses... it just doesn't make sense especially since you two are boy friend and girl friend... you may want to talk to him about it and tell him how you feel when he keeps on moving in and out of your house... even though you've stated that he is your best friend as well as your boyfriend... I'm sure he'd never want to hurt you... but he won't know hes hurting you unless you tell him.

it is strange that he doesn't have the heart to tell you why all of his things are no longer in the house... i suggest you confront him... I'm not sure what your relationship with this man is (bf/gf, married...) but it sounds like you really care about him, regardless of what others think he is. Relationships are based on trust and honesty: if you can't trust him to honestly say what is going on... You may have to bring it up... Although he hasn't said anything about strangely moving his stuff out... it is possible he may not break up with you... I know its easy to get upset over things that you think are true or will happen... I got upset when I thought one of my guy friends had a gf and another time when I thought one of my closest friend(who is a girl) was going to take him away from me... its a long story... if you'd like to read it ya can check my posts. But the thing is... I got over it... yes it took time and some tears but I did get over it... whatever happens... Its NOT the end of the world, trust me. Just stay calm and try to figure out why he's doing this.

Could he just be playing me for a fool? He is actually desparate for a gf and he's always mentioning how he wishes he had a gf....

A lot about being in a relationship is being able to be honest and trust each other... you need to remind him how much you love him and how he is the only one for you and you would never think of cheating on him. Ask him why he thinks you would or are cheating on him... then tell him that you would never do or even think of doing such a thing.

This has happened to me before... what I do is I stay away from that person... if she is always putting you and your friend on the spot and making you look stupid, and she KNOWS it upsets you then she will persist. Just turn it into a joke, or turn it around on her, or simply just start laughing and just talk to your friend. Don't tell her to stop... it will make her want to continue. If she loses interest in putting you and your friend on the spot... because you and your friend don't respond to her comments, then she'll stop on her own. If only people like her had better things to do...

it sounds like both of you like each other.... "wanting you" the may mean either in bed, in life, or both... maybe you can ask him about his love life... possibly in person... and if it seems like the right time...maybe you can tell him how you feel. be careful though, sometimes telling your friends that you've fallen in love with them can ruin a friendship so be very careful.

Hey I suppose I'm kind of new at flirting too... but here it goes: flirting is mostly touching the other person, getting them to notice you... and it may also be considered as "leading them on" which I think is flirting just a LITTLE too much... if there is a guy you like, whos lets say, in one of your classes, just find a time to go up to him, introduce yourself... get the hang of starting a conversation out of no where... but its better if its about something that's worth while... such as... if he likes sports... maybe you can talk about sports... maybe touch him on the shoulder or something... flirting can also be considered as always laughing and his jokes... even if they aren't all that funny...

either he didn't receive the message, has been busy the past few days, is too nervous to call, or is simply not interested. Give him a little while, maybe a week or two... if he was interested he'll return your call... or if you are like me and can get very impatient... you can try to get through to him maybe, every other day... cell phones usually record the missed calls and the number that called... so you may not want to call too much on his cell phone... because he'll know you're head over heals for him and ya might not want him to know that at first... i'm sure he'll call though and ya know... if he doesn't... then don't worry... its his loss