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thanx, sounds reasonable. just have to keep things in proper perspective and like you said swingfox keep absolute and complete communication. Thanx everyone I really appreciate all of your help.

You said that it seems kind of extreme, I dont see it that way. I see it as being a super surprise especially after falling and coming back that string to make it to that level. What do you think about that ?

Do you think thats its possible to gain someone back after going through a terrible breakup? I lost this wonderful girl because I wasnt being honest with myself, I lied(didnt cheat) and wasnt comitted and I didnt show enough appreciation. I want her back but im not in any condition to accept her or anyone. I was going through alot when the breakup process was happening, I was moving out, working, handling school, family problems, then this breakup to top it all off. I love this girl and I didnt show it all to her, she really believed in me and thought that I was the one but at the end I disappointed her by comitting all of these errors and seeming like a sap while doing it. After all of that was over I had totally hit rock bottom and I ended up in a hospital. I feel that when I finally become stronger from all of this that I should go to her and give it another shot since we are extremely compatible and we had something together. I failed high school, and I disappeared off the face of the earth now I want to prove my full potential which will happen but I also want to bring her back into my life. I plan on even going as far as transferring to her school while I follow my career dreams. If i make it even as far as getting into her school(Colgate University) Then I know that I am worthy and strong enough to deserve her. Not only that but I will also gain huge amounts of self-respect. If i ever get another chance with her I'll protect our relationship with all of my strength. What do you guys think and how do you think she will respond when this happens ?

It seems to me that the whole push and pull theory is coming into play with your circumstance. The more emotion and attentiveness you push on him he seems to pull away. Though when you stop pushing he retracts towards you. Dont think that he is'nt questioning what he is doing and how he feels about you, but you can't be left up in the air like this for that long. You have a life away from him and you need to make things clearer, if he is mature then it would be a good idea (when the time is right) to spend time with each other and set a clear ground so that both of ou can make a decision. Leave things alone for now if he cares at all or has any feelings towards you he'll want to see you (so dont worry about that). If he doesnnt return then you at least know that he has his mind elsewhere. GOODLUCK!! -goodnight and goodbye

Use this as an opportunity to sort and fix things, dont stray away from conflict its only gonna accumulate on you and get bigger. Please do yourself a favor and go to this outing and stand tall to whatever is coming.

Damn straight, you can tlet the little things get in the way of what the bigger picture is. You have to evaluate things and then see how you can work things out and if you cant then i guess there is nothing you can do but make amends.

I'm wondering if this is possible even after heart break. The girl i was with is delicate and since I'm soft I let her emotions get out of hand and get all too emotional about the mistake until she realized and told me that it was that big (this was six months later after i really regreted the whole thing and even ended up in the hospital). Why would she say such a thing when I had a convo with her and told her that i understand how she feels and that this isnt that big and that if we are both willing to work things out we can make this work. It was all pretty confusing and I didnt know how to react to the whole thing.

Does anyone ever believe there is any chance of reconciliation with an ex in the future ? Do you think that after falling in love before they can do the same down the line in the future? Even after having a terrible break up and had a relationship that involved lieing,(no cheating), and a bunch of stupid mistakes that caused alot of cunfusion and loss of romance. What does everyone think ?

I see and can understand what you're going through, the main thing you need to keep in mind is that you need to be completely patient with her. Sounds like she does have a mild interest in you and thats something you cant ignore. Continue to feel her out and work it without wearing your heart on your sleeve or you might end up hurting yourself. If she doesnt give you what you in need in ample time then you need to form a friendship or just move on, cause no one who is unresponsive deserves that amount of time. goodluck and goodbye-

I have several other post relating to the same subject. I feel that i shouldnt give up on this and what I was thinking was that I need to create the attraction process all over again. Stirring up the things that made her attracted to me in the first place. This sounds desperate but after dating several other girls after her she is more than worth it and I know that if things work out I'll protect what we build with everything I have. I was planning on taking up my intended major at her University and try to work things from there and if that doesnt work out at least I'll be getting a quality education and I'm sure that we'll at least be friends but I feel that I should give it one last shot before I call it quits especially after rising out of the circumstances I was in. I feel that this is one challenge that will help me lift myself out of the position I'm in and it will help me to focus. WHAT HAVE I GOT TO LOSE????? Please, give me some feedback on this idea.

Well, just about everyday now I have obsessive thoughts about this girl. This great girl who came into my life and I went right along and screwed it up. She was definitely a keeper, she was captain of both the basketball and soccer teams. Not to mention she was an honor student and a singer. This girl is independent and extremely sweet and supportive. She is flexible as well as a giver. She is tall 5'10 and really pretty, i really lucked out with this one since I am only 5'6. I feel like such an idiot and I am for letting this one go and its something I dont think I can ever forgive myself for. She is also a virgin and had been with only one guy before me. How could I have done this, she was also really in love with me and I destroyed it. I've lost all of my confidence and all I can think about now is going out with another tall chick. These kind of girls only come around once and now I have to live with not having this precious gem. Inside I feel as if I should attempt another shot but I had my chance to burn. TELL ME WHAT YOU GUYS THINK....

I'm stuck trying to make a choice here, I met this wonderful girl in school who I was extremely compatible with. We started the first 5 months wonderfully but by the sixth month I commited some mistakes that i truly regret that caused our relationship to go sour and to end in rebuke and turmoil. I really truly regret everything that I had done, but I can't help getting over the fact that I stopped the relationship from evolving into what it truly should have been. We are young I'm 19 and she is a year younger. We both agreed that it was much more than puppy love we were best friends had respect for each other and shared the same outlook. I made the mistakes not knowing why I had commited them, I felt so guilty for doing them that I fell into a severe depression that caused me to end up in a hospital. While I was at the hospital I was diagnosed with bi-polar disorder which explains alot of my actions and my fluctuating mood. Losing her left with a feeling of an extreme loss, she really loved me and believed in me and wanted to share her world with me. This has brought me to rock bottom, which I know I will get out of but some of my motivation is coming from thinking about her. I dont know if this is going to lead to disaster since I still have feelings of love for her but I killed the romance for her. I'm hoping that I meet up with her again and have another shot to see if we were truly meant to be. I 'm not sure what to think of all of this it's pretty confusing and I need some advice.