PuertoPoison

OK OK, So I'm Bitter because I'm going through a seriously verbally and mentally abusive relationship. I am in so much pain an I told Digi that I was embarrassed to tell you all the real reason I joined this forum. I am very sad, I am very depressed. We used to be in love and perfect and now he treats me like crap. I am faithful and have never cheated. I am also (not to be vain) on a scale of 1-10 people rate me an 11. I model, I kickbox, but I can't succeed in this relationship. I just know that if I tell you all this, you are all going to just laugh at me and tell me "leave him" or "you can do better" and be hard on me. Truth is: if you're not hard on me, I'd probably be insulted. However, I love him so much I guess I'm just venting. He says he loves me, but he is so emotional unattached. I have given this 9 months and it's falling to crap. Sorry if I have been such a snot. It's just I am so sad

ITS NORMAL AND VERY HUMAN THAT YOU ARE HAVING THESE FEELINGS FOR TWO WOMEN...IT HAPPENS..BUT DO NOT...I REPEAT DO NOT PLAY THEM.IT WOULD ONLY COME BACK TO BITE YOU IN THE BUTTOCKS. YOU WERE WONDERFUL AND HONEST TO TELL YOUR GIRLFRIEND YOUR FEELINGS...SHE (even though she is hurting) SHOULD RESPECT YOU FOR YOUR HONESTY. SOME MEN WOULD LIE, HAVE CAKE AND EAT IT TOO, YOU SOUND LIKE A REAL MAN WHO KNOWS WHAT HE NEEDS TO DO. TRY SEPERATING YOURSELF FROM BOTH OF THEM FOR ABOUTA WEEK AND SEE WHO YOU THINK ABOUT MORE. REALLY DO THIS!! WHOEVER COMES TO MIND MOST....WELL YOU'LL KNOW WHAT TO DO THEN...OK ..JUST DON'T HURT TWO WOMEN, OR YOURSELF...STAY HONEST..

NOT ONLY DID YOU GIVE YOUSELF THE BEST ADVICE OF ALL....(and you also taught me a thing or two) IN JUST ONE PHRASE...YOU SAID "i'D RATHER HURT NOW THEN HURT LATER" i THINK YOU ARE SMARTER THEN YOU ADMIT. tRUST ME...YOU CAN DO BAD BY YOURSELF..SHE SOUNDS LIKE SHE KNEW IT WOULD HURT YOU TO HEAR IT AND AFTER YOU ASKED HER NICELY SHE STILL WENT ON AND ON AND ON...KEEP HER BLOCKED AND DON'T LOOK BACK. BE STRONG. THE FUNNY THING IS...IF SHE REALLY MOVED ON ..SHE WOULDNT HAVE TO PROVE IT TO YOU. P.S KEEP IN MIND THAT SOME WOMEN LIKE YOUR BUDDY REPLIED EARLIER PLAY GAMES....SHE MIGHT HAVE MADE THE WHOLE THING UP TO PULL YOU IN CLOSER TO HER AND DID NOT KNOW IT WORKED AGIANST HER. GO THROUGH THIS GRIEVING ONCE AND NOT AGAIN...SOUNDS LIKE SHE LIKES TO CONTROL THINGS AND HURT YOU. YOU DESERVE LOVE, NOT INDECISIVENESS....SHE HAS ISSUES SHE NEEDS TO DEAL WITH.... YOUR A GOOD MAN....RECOGNIZE THAT AND ONE DAY A WOMEN WILL SHOW YOU LOVE AND AFFECTION. i WISH MY BOYFRIEND WAS LIKE YOU...YOU SOUND LIKE AKEEPER.... 8)

Hey sweetheart, I know how it feels to have a man tell you something cold like that. But at any rate you must learn to only ask questions that you are honesly willing to hear, what would you have done if he had lied to you, and you later found out, would you rather know now and know the truth or have the wool pulled over your eyes and find out later. The fact that the answer brought you to tears shows that maybe you were not ready for that kind of conversation. I tell you what...a really confident and strong thing for you to have done (just for instance) was not to cry at all , but to say..."Good baby..cause I thought it was just me" Girl he would have fell out the damn bed. Trust me. Sometimes men seem to say things just to see your reaction. But in the future, if you feel like he is saying things to irk you or hurt you on purpose pay it no mind..be strong and confide in 1. us (forum) 2. a friend 3. relative...but never tell him too much or wear your heart on your sleave.

Hey sweetheart heres my advice.... Men play games, and so do women, so the only way for you not to get hurt in the game is to be confident and back off. If this guy wantS to see you let him call you for a while, let him chase you...he will appreciate you for this later, NE ways...Let him call you mostly, then every once in a while, give him a ring...ya know! But don't act too needy. You have a life and he needs to know that he is not the center of it. Trust me...if he smells desperation..he will be walking on you instead of the road. Good Luck Be Strong