Lost828

Hi Cobra, I know it will get better, its just at the moment it really sucks. Its been a month now and I have cut all ties. Its just that its hard for me to forget all the good times in the last 9 months with her. I also remember all the bad times too. Thanks for the advice Cobra. Lost828.

Hi Nancy, I only asked her not to contact him after she lied to me about going out with this guy to another city for a day out. She promised me that she would not contact him ever again if I forgave her. Her promises mean nothing now Can you trust someone that continually lies to you?. Lost828.

Hi all, I recently broke up with my girlfriend. Its a long'ish story so I hope it won't bore you guys. Our relationship started about 10 months ago and lasted about 9 months. In those short 9 months I can say I have been the happiest but also the most hurt I have been in my whole life. I can say the first three months was really good and I was really happy to find someone like her, it was great But just after christmas my heart was shattered I found out that she was going to lie to me and go out with her ex and spend a day together. To make it worse she didn't tell me her ex was a guy that we had played badminton with a few weeks back, she said he wanted to see if i was good guy or not. I confronted her and asked her why she lied to me about these things, she said it was to make hm stop calling her because he was still very interested in her. Stupidly I believed her and forgave her, on the condition that she would not contact him again. But a lot of trust had been lost at this point Valentines came and went and this was proberly the happiest day I can remember. I bought her a mobile phone and later found that she had contacted him, we had a big argument and she told me that it was just to tell him to stop bothering her. Again I believed her Every thing was fine, we where happy and I had regained some trust in her. But again I find out he had email'ed her a simple internet quiz, I didn't tell her I knew but did ask her if he had been bothering her. Her answer was no he had not contacted her. Even tho she had lied to me again I made excuses like "she just didn't want to upset me", but a few days later I find out she had completed his quiz and also wrote one just for him. One question in the the quiz she sent him really really hurt. The question was (to him), "What is my sweetest memory?". The answer was "When her and him went to Thailand together". She was still thinking of him even a month back I wanted to break up but she cried a lot and said she felt nothing for him. Guess what?, I forgave her again . By this time I was doubting the future of our relationship, but the thing that really did break our relationship was a text msg I found. It basically proved she lied to me and that in this msg she said she still cared for him and hope they could stay in contact, even tho she promised me that there would be no contact what so ever. I didn't break up with her straight away as I really did love her and just couldn't understand the situation. We had a really nice day at the beach on her birthday and a few days I broke up with her, basically I said I couldn't trust her and didn't want to be with her anymore. Even still now I don't understand, feel really sad and lost. Why? why? why? I tried my best with her and her ex cheated on her, why would she hurt me like this for him?. Did she ever love me?. I still love her and miss her a lot. I just wanted to tell my story and maybe see what you guys/gals think?. I just need someone to talk to. My friends and family have talked to me but I didn't want to break down and cry in front of them again. Lost828

Kpuppy, You have to be honest with yourself, its sounds a little like you are remembering the good times you have had with him. If you really do love your current bf that much you should stop any contact with your ex. Think of it on the other shoe, how would you feel if your current bf and his ex was hanging out and just being friends?. No matter how much trust you have for a person you would still feel unhappy with the situation, because when it comes to love everyone is selfish and doesn't want a potential rival to be talking or hanging out with the one they love. Another point is he is still attracted to you, its not a good idea to continue hanging out with him as this can lead him to think he has a chance. Is your bf ok with you hanging out and just being friends?, and does he know your ex is still interested in you?. I think i'm biased in this because i have a painful past with a recent gf and her ex. Lost828.