Altruist
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That's a deeper social problem than mere shyness. Social anxiety perhaps. In such cases the guy cannot interact, not only with women he likes, but with anyone else.
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I agree too. we've all seen many such threads spiralling out of control. I think CluelessGuy has received enough answers. I would recommend closing of the thread...
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There's absolutely nothing wrong with you. Its a great way of making relationship decisions and it allows you the opportunity to discover those guys with great personalities but who are not 'gifted' in the looks department.
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..which somehow proves that once accepted, shy guys usually come out of their shells forever. Just my two thousand dollars. Hey, add some of those 'magnetic look' pics to your profile for our shy guys Possibly after having successfully completed therapy or after deciding that 'enough is enough'.
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Yeah, it almost is already. 'Hey, do you do martial arts?' is usually an ice breaker when meeting an Asian guy. I guess this one is a 'positive' stereotype since most people admire those who are good at martial arts- it takes a lot of skill and self-discipline. @BetterKarma Interesting avatar you have there ...Would you care to elaborate?
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](*,) Well, I guess you're sticking to your guns on this one Batya. Its a pity the shy guys have lost one classy lady. Perhaps its a wake up call for them to work on themselves to overcome their shyness. Perhaps ENA should start a 'therapy' section.
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Asian men are popular in the States for the right reasons also. They're very good at martial arts. Some popular actors such as Jackie Chan and the late Bruce Lee have made a big contribution towards the popularity of Asian men. So all you Asian men, you have a lot to be proud of!
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Go on, ask me out, take all the initiative and you'll change your opinion after 10 years (and counting) of mindblowing joy.
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You may be generalizing here CluelsssGuy. The reason why your friend attracts so many asian girls, even though you basically dress the same way may have to do with subtle body language traits which may be different from yours. Humans project subtle body signals when they interact with others. It has been well-researched that women are ten times better at picking these signals than men. While you may not see these body language signals, women can pick them up easily and may feel attracted to him involuntarily. Whether or not Asian men are looked down upon in the USA, I do not know. What do others think?
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I think a surprise will leave better memories for her. Find out what the things that she likes and surprise her by doing/giving her most of those things in one day.
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I respect your opinion Batya but the reality is that painfully shy man cannot directly signal their interest in a woman, let alone ask one out on a data. We cannot wish this reality away. My question is if no woman takes the initiative, should these men be doomed to eternal loneliness, never knowing what it feels like to hold a woman in your arms and to be loved? I don't think so. thereforeeee the challenge is up to the women out there to recognize these men and to take the initiative, even if it means dragging the shy guy to matrimonial bliss. Just my two dollars.
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If you can't ask him directly what the problem is, perhaps you could try asking one of his friends?
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Post a picture of yourself on the forum. I don't think you look as bad as you think you do.
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Is that avatar a picture of you Hurley? You look pretty cute.
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Preach it, brother!
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Ask him if he's interested in a relationship or not.
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In a relationship you'd want to project that you're comfortable around other women. A little bit of flirting once in a while will do no harm but will reassure your woman that you're an attractive man.
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Shy guys usually also have low confidence and will usually doubt thata girl could really like them. Charley's analogy with a cat is quite corrrect. Shy guys will warm up to a girl if the girl takes the time to convince him that she really likes him.
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Give him more direct signals
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Its not fair to use a blanket statement to describe a group of people. I know a lot of Russians who are honest and upright. It smacks of prejudice.:sad: When you get mails from someone asking for money when you haven't even met yet, then you know you're dealing with a fraudster. This may not even be a lady - or a Russian for that matter. I'll bet if you do send the $1000 you'll never hear from 'her' again.
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Find a possible topic to break the ice - like what kind of music she enjoys listening on her ipod. If she responds positively, then ask her out.
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Where you able to overcome you problem Skywalker. If so give specifics so that our friend here can benefit.
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Shyness leaves you with nothing but regret. pondering what could have been.
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Invite the shy guy for a date Crazy. Make sure its somewhere where there are many people so that he does not start feeling insecure about the silence that is likely to ensue if you go to a quiet place. He does like you, that is why he finds it difficult to express himself to you. Its a complicated sort of shyness (I am talking from experience). You can then tell him you are interested after a few dates with him. You will have to tell him directly that you are interested in a relationship with him. Don't just give a hint-guys with this type of shynesss cannot take hints.