SherriLi

BTR, the ONE thing that you can't do is go back to him, especially if it's for financial security... I have done this with my ex husband. I have said the same things you have for example "well at least i'll have my own place for my own things" and "at least i won't be on my mother's couch anymore" Honey i was there, and i was there with the same type of man as you... My ex was diagnosed with paranoid dementia Disorder after i left. He tried committing suicide many times after i left, because i left, and i left im for all the same reasons that you left your boyfriend. BUT! I went back MANY times, thinking, what you are thinking. Thnking it would be better, that my kids would have a place to live and thier "daddy" to help raise them... It oly got worse everytime i went back.. It only hurt my daughter, to hear us fight. She was wetting the bed every night because of our fights. And we never found this out until after we broke up, (they made a fake child abuse claim agaist a familty member to make me look bad, for a custody suite and because it was a way they could use the law to hurt me) My oldest was 2 when i finally said i had enough, and left... She was soo tired and hurt from all the fights.. Do you know how she reacted when i broke the news to her that we were moving and leaving daddy behind? She was very excited and REALLy happy! She never shed a tear... That made me very sad.... the fact that my baby was happy to leave her father behind.... It was devestating. But it only proves that i should have gotten out of that mess WAY before it ever came to that. I just hope that you see this before you make the same mistake... YOU are soo much smarter now than i was at the time! You will have a much better life if you leave now. You know that everything has a way of working out. It always does, and i know you feel alone, and things aren't getting better... But they will, trust me... I have been where you are, but you are smarter, because you have taken the first step! you got away, and know better deep in your heart that you deserve better and you also know that going back is just a temporary solution Believe me, i've experienced it, it is the worst possible thing that you could do... Everything is going to work out for you and your sweet little baby, i know it. Sherrili

Hi Hope! Guess what!!!!!! Im not preggers.... I must have had some sort of flu bug. Or maybe it was my subconscious .. Me wanting to be preggers.. and imagined all the symptoms.. who knows? I am kinda disappointed. My honey was disappointed too.... If u read my previous posts, you'll know why we broke up... But that was mainly him being himself, me being very insecure about the way things between us started out... But it needed to happen, otherwise he would have been left wondering, as well as myself. And the pictures.. well, i believe him about those.. His sense of loyalty is very deep, and i can see him wanting to burn her face off of them before trashing them... I was soo insecure i was thinking that he was with me only because he was at the worst point in his life and stuck in a rut. He lost his career, his g/f of 8 years and best friend of 17 years.... And that he just was with me because i treated him good, took care of him and loved him with all my heart... Well i didn't feel like that through out the whole rel. only after he told me he wanted to be friends with his ex that he left me for in the beginning, and against my will. I felt like he made a mistake choosing me and wanted her instead, but was having a rough time making a go of getting out of this town he hated so much! Everything escalated until we broke up... He stayed in town for a little while trying to get me back. We got back together 3 times in 2 weeks.. but unsuccessfully. Crap happened. He came to say goodbye, and we cried, he said we had to work on things and would chat everyday and call eveyday. He wanted me to move with him. So far, everything has been wonderful! Since he's been gone, i've had time to wrap my mind around everything, and he's proven to me that he wants me!! He has changed sooo much. I've realized that he was sooo unhappy living here, working crappy jobs that made him feel worthless, everything he's said, that i didn't believe while he was here, he's proven to me! After he left.. But things are absolutley wonderful... We talk everynight, haven't fought, he's expressing his love for me... he barely ever did before, well he was affectionate, but not as much as i would have liked. He said well if you hear it all the time, u won't appreciate it as much and will take me for granted... But we've proven soo many things to each other in the last month, and everything is awesome. We are both saving $ so me and my girls can move to be with him in the spring. He's found an awesome job... if everything keeps going the way it is, we'll be together by May...

Alright... Thanks guys, you've convinced me that i should cough up the 10 bucks and buy another test, its weird, because this ill feeling REALLY feels like slight case of morning sickness. I've had it with both of my kids, except it was extreme. But yeah, ill have to buy another test. I really didn't want to because im trying to save money... lol My ex and i are back together and am trying to save money to move a few provinces over !!!! Thanks for the advice

So u think i could be??? Even after that test 2 days after my spotting???

Hi everybody, Gee, i never though i'd be posting in this section lol Well here's my story, and im hoping someone can help! I have been on Marvelon for 1.5 years now.. Last month was crazy, to say the least. My b/f of 2.5 years and i broke up, he moved out and through all this i missed 4 pills in a month. the first one was in the first week. I then missed 3 in a row the third when we broke up because i was such a mess. We tried to get back together a few times, and i'm pretty sure we had sex a few times when i missed the 3 pills. When it came time for my period, i only spotted VERY lightly for 2 days. It was barely noticeable. I took a pregnancy test 2 days after that, and it came out negative. I stopped worrying after that, but now i have been feeling nauseous and tired for the past 4 days. Im scared that the test was wrong. I haven't started my new pack, it's been almost 2 weeks since the spotting "incident". Do you think i could be nauseous from NOT taking the pills, that maybe my body was soo used to them? Or do you think that the test was wrong??? B/c i know what morning sickness feels like, but this time, im not soo sure because it's very mild, i can only feel it when i smoke, or after haveing a smoke. Some opinions would be VERY much appreciated. Thanks Sherrili

Well Said !

LOL Rose2summer.. I know! Geez i was soo relieved when i finally found that out! O O

OHHHHH Tell me about it!!! It's been like 3 weeks and im going CRAYZEEE!! I haven't went this long without sex since i was maybe like 17! Don't get me wrong, i've been in relationships the whole time... Ain't no fluzie LOL But ever since my honey moved, other than online sex i've been outta my mind thinkin about it....

Yeah, everyone is different i guess. He can only do it at the height of horniness, so i would never try to take charge and do that to him. When he wants it he begs me! I REALLY love that!

Lol i know, i love that he was always into all that super kinky stuff. Made the bedroom a rather interesting place to bee

The most errotic thing, having to do with cum, was when he was REALLY horney.. He'd grab me and position me on his face, and he'd lick and suck his own cum right out of me. WOW now THAT was hot....

I love it when he comes inside of me..... With anyone else, well, i haven't tried sex with anyone else after him... But if i did i'd probably make him pull out even though he's using a condom. lol But chances are, i'll never sleep with anyone else ever again... And that doesn't bother me

I know what u mean, i was wondering if it was all an act.... But if it was, thats ok too!!! Because is sure got my honey worked up lol he chased me through the house and practically ripped my clothes off So either way i don't care...... lol But you have me wrong about the peeing,.. lol. Its not pee, like i said i THOUGHT it was urine the first time..But it was fluid from the g-spot orgasm.. I thought i peed at the time because i was VERY unexperienced when it came to sex.

Believe it or not Baby Carrot, It happens!!!! It has only happened to me like maybe.... oh say 5 times in my life. The first time, i was sooooo embarrassed, I soaked the bed, because i thought i peed my self! But it was a g-spot orgasm. It all has to do with the positioning, try putting a pillow under your but, and your man will have better chances of hitting your g-spot. I have noticed, that ever time i've had one, my pelvis was shifted, at around a 45 degree angle. Have you ever watched porn with the chick named Cytheria? She she has one every few minutes, and sprays the stuff out. She has an intravenous hooked up to her b/c she loses so much fluid while having sex. Sounds cray! LOL i know... Maybe it's fake? Who knows... but she must have a VERY large or sensitve g-spot. I don't know much about them. NOW THAT IS DEFINETLY WORTH DOING RESEARCH ON!!! lol

Oh the violence only happened once, He cried and cried and wanted to turn himself in, but i didn't want him to. I could see how badly he regretted it. The look in his eyes when he snapped out of it and stopped punching me... Ill never forget that look.. No it will never happen again..

Hi there, lol "ignorance is bliss" May i ask what a run-and-tug is?

Yeah, thanks guys, but its soo fricken hard to stay away! I know he's ripping my heart out, I know he's an ahole, i know exactly what he's doing to me.... Yet, i don't know why i jump when ever the phone rings, or everytime someone knocks on my door, i'm hoping beyond hope that it's him, waiting there... with that sexy smile on his face. i miss him soo much, i just can't get him out of my head, especially because he calls or tries to come over every day.... I just break down and turn to alcohol and cry,, everytime he makes him self known. I know everyone says keep busy. To go to the gym etc.... Thats impossible for me. I have two girls, and no babysitter except for daycare while i'm working. No freedom. Just stay home on week nights. Thats probably why it gets to me soo much, i am forced to sit in our empty house every night. Looks like i just moved in after he took all his stuff out... so bare....

Hi, Many of you know my lond sordid story about me and my ex. I'm starting to get confused with his actions. We tried to get back together 3 times in the last 13 days. I never called him once, he's always come to me, or phoned me. I have told him over and over again that i can't continue this relationhsip if h'es still talking to his ex. He choose to be friends with her. Said that he thought i was important enough at first, but then decided against it b/c no one tells him what to do. Well, i missunderstood me. I asked him to put distance between them so we could work things out. He thinks i want him to end the friendsip. But why does he keep calling me and coming over? He knows that i'm not going to back down on this, well maybe he hopes that i will? I WON"T THOUGH, i can't. What I don't understand is that even SUndays conversation: Saturday (we were back together) He accidentally called me # trying to call her after telling me he hasn't talked to her. I was furious and wouldn't talk to him, he tried calling 9x after that. Sunday he came over and wanted to explain himself. I told him to go to her. He said he didn't want her, i said well if you don't then leave her alone and come home. He said no. I said "then leave". He left. Then out of the blue yesterday he calls me at home at lunch and asked me if i went to my appointment, i said no. 5 minutes later he was at my door. He sat down and made small talk, i could barely look at him alone, making small talk, it hurt too much to be in his presense. I caught him sitting there with his head in his hands looking hurt, like he wanted to say something, but didn't. Then when i got home late, i seen that he called 2 more x and then he called me late when he was sure i'd be home. He asked about my appointment again. I said "look, i'm broken. I have no fight left in me so i am not going to deal with the appointment i'll take it as it comes" Then i made it about us and brang up how he said i wasn't important enough. He denied saying it, i hung up on him. He tried to call back and i didn't answer. What is he trying to do? Is he wanting me back? Or is he really just trying to help me with this appointment?? Can anyone one please try to help me? I know i have said that i am not going to put up with any more BS from him, and i'm not. The only way i'd take him back is if stopped contact with her. Is it guilt? I will not back down, i know i'm having a moment of weakness right now because i was mean and hung up on him, i want to call him and apologize. Should i do this? I'm afraid it might suck me back in.. and i'll bow down again. I don't want to. But i need to know what he's feeling

Hi SontobeRN Would it make any difference if i told you that i told him to leave, we've tried getting back together unsuccessfully 3 times in the last 13 days. It was unsuccessful because i have finally put my foot down about this so called "friendship" he has with his ex. We have gone through hell the last six monthes b/c of it and he refuses to to end it b/c (nice reason) he's never took an ultimatum and never will. He just can't let go of her, i'm not important enough to him

He called me at lunch and asked me about an appointment that i had... I answered his questions, and nothing else... Then two minutes later he was knocking on my door... He came in and asked me alittle more about my appointment, and made small talk. Then he sat there with his head down, i couldn't even look at him, it was too painfull. He grabbed a pair of his socks, and a magazine from his packed stuff down stairs and that was it. Then we both left for lunch.. What on earth does this mean? Maybe he came there to talk about us, but chickened out??? I don't know, maybe he just wanted to talk about the appointment b/c it is very importmant to me. But he never cared about what was important to me before...???

Hi Eireann, I sympathise with you completely , i've chopped up your post to show you that we have gone through pretty much the same crap! How does it happen? He also beat me black and blue once too, i don't know how to put my mind around that. He cried like a baby afterwards, my head was sooo swollen, but i ended up comforting HIM. LOL yeah, we are lucky that we got out, cuz i agree, i am just as lucky as you that i never ended up in an insane asylum!

What on earth can you do to stop thinking about him? It's like every moment of every day, he's on my mind. While i'm driving i'm looking for his car. While i'm working, every time the phone rings i jump... It's pathetic i know, especially after what i endured with him. I wish that thoughts of him will leave me...

Ohhh no honey, you don't need help with your jealousy. You need to run.... Trust me i have just gotten out of a 2.5 year relationship with the same problem. There were naked pictures, weekly phone calls, a kisss... You need to get out before she crushes your poor heart. You are not blowing anything out of proportion. Shes has her cake and is eating it too. I'm sorry for being sooo harsh, but i'm going through the same thing. We finally broke up last week because i am not "important" enough for him to end thier "friendship" all this and two days before he told me i wasn't important enough, he was telling me i was the love of his life and he wanted to marry me and have a child with me. Don't put your self through this pain any longer. The longer you let your self endure it , the more it's going to hurt when it's finally over.

I feel like some is ripping my heart out and stomping it on the ground every second of this long horrible hateful icy day

Aww, i'm sorry to hear that, yes it's soooo hard. But in time everything will heal. There is always a silver lining even where there's no sunshine, even when the clouds are black and mountainous..... We'll feel better, you'll see.