Dismember_05

dude, blaming your shortcomings with women from what seems to be a well balanced upbringing is pretty immature. I mean looking at the list you have made, I didn't socialize with family, as they lived in another country. Or go to church, and my dad never talked to me about women. Its something that you have to develop on your own, go out and enjoy yourself. Also stop worrying about the fact that some preceive you as 'weird'. I mean me being into metal like cryptopsy and deicide isn't considered normal by many, but really who gives a ****, just be who you are and don't apoligize for it. Blaming your mates because they didn't tell you why they wore things is putting the blame where it doesn't belong. It isn't their responsibility to give reasons for what they wear. Just put on what you feel comfortable in, whether others percieve it as 'out of fashion' or not. Shyness aint that uncommon dude, and you can get past it, but to achieve this you have to get out and have fun. And yes you should bond with male friends more, not just for the sake of getting women but because a true mate is better than most girls anyway until you find one thats really worth being around. Anyway man, i do get where you're coming from, but the way to meet girls is to stop caring about what they think of you and just do your own thing. Just enjoy the time with your mates, and head out with them occasionly and you'll meet someone who'll change your life for the better.

just a thought, if you want to take the girl out and her parents are against dating, try talking to them directly and ask permission. If they can see what an honest, nice guy you are theres definitely a chance theyd let you. Though as i have no idea what her parents are actually like you might wanna ask your girl first.

you know its ok to have a different opinion to your girlfriend, thats what makes it interesting. If you agreed on everything it would get boring fast. so dont worry about saying something she might disagree with as thats part of a good conversation. and about saying something dumb - who cares, im sure she wont.

yeh dude, i have to agree with Miss M, i can tell from what you've written that you do really feel for her, but when you're considerig standing infront of some girls house for 24 hours to show your affection somethings not right. Thats called obsession, she told you on numerous occations that she is not interested in being your gf, you need to let it go and move on.

Dude, if you guys have been going out for a month and you barely talk to her can you blame her for not thinking you're interested? a relationship is two sided and you have to input to make it work. Going up and giving a girl a hug might seem like the scariest thing in world to you, but isn't it worth the risk to become close to a girl you have feelings for? Sometimes you gotta fight for what you want man, otherwise it will never happen. Also if another guy is making a move on your girl, confront him about it dont ever let someone walk all over you. I used to be a real shy guy too, always had my head down while walking past people and couldn't talk to a girl without going red. Just stop caring about what other people think about you and go for what you want no matter what.

Dude your still a teen, with all the hormonal changes still going on in your body it isn't uncommon to get erections often. Dont get too caught up about it as its completely normal. Just laugh it off, it sucks sometimes...just dont take this sort of thing to seriously. Heres a joke for ya- The top 10 most inappropriate times to achieve an erection are.... #10 - watching while your best friend is savagely beaten #9 - while feeding baby carrots to a pet rabbit #8 - at the climax of Schindler's List #7 - while watching Brian Biggs pick his lunch out of his braces #6 - while giving the eulogy at your grandmother's funeral #5 - while washing the nubbly stub, "arm", of a war veteran #4 - while writing a book report on Hellen Keller #3 - at your first born child's baptism #2 - while watching David Niemann "wipe out" in the hallway #1 - at the Consecration of the Eucharist

I don't think theres some deep underlying issue here. By the sounds of it the guy's just stubborn and knows what he wants to do and nothing is going to change that. my advice is if you want to continue a relationship with this guy you're going to have to accept his faults, just like he has to accept yours. If this has been going on for 4 years he isn't liekly to change.

hey buffalosoldier. Ive been in a similar situation with a gf before, except from the other end, meaning i really hated socializing with her family. If I dont like someone, i dont see them by choice - simple as that. and your boyfriends probably the same in that respect. It basically comes down to this, if you love the guy then accept him for who he is and dont try and force him to do something he really doesn't want to do. because if you make a huge deal out of him not wanting to be around your family and pressure him into seeing them, he may just walk away, i know i did. admittedly, my relationship was only 9 months not 4 yrs, but still the concept is the same, dont force someone u love to do something they really do not want to do for the sake of pleasing parents and friends.

as registered said dude, generally (especially at our age) you actually gotta get to aknow a chick before asking her out, and this takes alot longer than 3-4 days. Its like you're going "hey, how are you...will you date me"

you've got a very sexist opinion of men emotional. have you ever stopped to consider your gender is no better? There are always good ones and bad ones regardless of whether you're male or female.

hey dude, you're 16 like me and from reading some of your posts i can relate somewhat to whats going on with ya. I also am of the same opinion as far as medication and talking to a shrink goes...they often just make things worse. The solution i found was doing a complete 180 as far as my life was concerned. Found new interests, made new friends with ppl within these and found a love for metal which really has completely changed my life. Changing like this solved the self confidence issues i had, found a few guys who i could really depend on, not the flakey ignorant guys i was around before and its given me something through which i can enjoy life. Give something new and really different a chance and find something that you can enjoy and makes ya feel better about who you are. If you can do this then **** anyone who tells you otherwise and live life doin the things you enjoy most.

you do realise you can talk to a girl without meaning to date her, if you're unsure talk to both of them and get to know them. You dont have to 'choose' which to approach. just talk to them abit and find out if they really are right for you and then make a decision for one or even none of them if you haven't connected with them.

Man just go for what you want. To me you seem like a good guy and id recommend givin the second girl a chance, just be yourself and make a choice that fits you dude and dont worry about anyone elses opinion

basically to follow lady bugg - if your only going out because your girlfriend left you and you think its a sure thing then yes it probably is unfair to her. If you genuinly have had a change of heart and like her, then dw about some other guy who likes her and go for what you want. you will regret it if you dont.

this hasn't bothered me until recently. my gf left me because she said i was bottling up emotions and she couldn't deal with it anymore. I haven't cryed once in over 2 yrs and now no matter how sad i get the tears wont flow. From a young age i've told myself that men dont cry and now i seem physically unable to do so, anyone know of a solution? I mean its not like i just haven't had anything happen to make me sad enough, my grampa died a couple of months ago and all i could do was stare stone faced at the coffin, even though i wanted so badly to let go. Also i can't goto a shrink, mainly because i just couldn't face my parents and ask them to receive councilling.