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  1. HappyGoAway
    i love that quote, thank you
  2. HappyGoAway
    Hi, I liked your answer. I'm a bit nervous and shy testing the online dating. I've been getting a lot of emails & winks and feel sad that there isn't too many I'm interested in. My neighbor had a plan to go out with them twice so she could give them a chance. And she deleted the winks. Did you resond to "winks"? I'm not sure how to start it but I wrote to the first cute guy I found and was so nervous until he wrote me back. I'm finding I am nervous and maybe not as available as I thought. Any suggestions? Oh, I've gone on maybe six likewarm dates and might quit the email/chat on phone with a guy who keeps saying "let's get together" and never does. Ok, thanks, Jill
  3. HappyGoAway
    Know it all guys that need to be right all the time, possesive, demanding. Beware. If he's not on your side you can sense it and stay away because he could be dangerous.
  4. HappyGoAway
    Sounds like you're able to bag the losers and share your bruised heart with someone you care for. Anything else fuels an empty bitter path.
  5. HappyGoAway
    Sorry to hear you are suffering. 'How To Survive The Loss Of A Love' is an excellent book and not too hokey. Just give it time.
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    Hi there, I wanted to add a very similiar situation except I got kooky over how beautiful this guy was and froze up my own needs to keep him around. After several months of not "getting together" as he would suggest and then blow me off, I finally went over to get my stuff and tell him I needed closure so I wouldn't be tricked into starting up what didn't feel mutual. Painful ending because I still desire him, hoped he'd go back to the enthusiastic beginning, as I initiated closure. Pretty confusing but I have to say it felt so liberating to initiate the conversation and attempt an honorable clean break, retrieve the goods, explain I still care, but needed to see him as human rather than objectify him as nerve racking hot guy I couldn't handle. Honesty about being so nervous, trying not to like him, flipping out stuff felt amazing! I encourage you to fess up how you feel. It took me three months to show up for the conversation. Spare yourself waiting and good luck.
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    Hey Iceman, Thanks for the reply- I laughed hysterically to 'Life's too shortt for wishy washy people". This has become my new motto, thank you. He said he'd leave the stuff- and the police really sounded like fun high drama I'm happy to skip. Thanks for the advice.
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    Coming from a gal who just ended a "coffee casual" that led into much more- he asked me for "coffee" and I was utterly confused he wanted to just pal around. You said you wanted to take her to dinner so do it man! Don't worry about whether or not she likes YOU, you like her so go for the impression and let her know rather than wimp around what she wants. Women love take charge decisiveness, confidence and a plan laid out. It doesn't have to be anything fancy, just charming, but take charge because YOU like HER.
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    Please let me know how to still be kind in ending something- He just stopped after a trip together & yet he remains insisting "let's get together" as he avoids me, dodges all suggestion and finally said he would be home for me to get my stuff but called to re-schedule for the fifth time in two months. I'd prefer in person but over the phone is an option too to get my kind bullet points of thanks, still like ya but gotta move on clean break and force myself to start counting the no contact days until I stop noticing. Hard to force this though because I miss him. Please help with advice!!!!
  10. HappyGoAway
    Just wanted to also mention Sex & Love Addiction Anonymous- SLAA. Great book!
  11. HappyGoAway
    He said "casual" on 2nd date but we continued dating for 2moThen he went away & I started to like him MORE while he was gone. He called with cute hello's & I had to go to a wedding in the same state so I went to see him. No romance, he treated me like a sex buddy & I went along numb in silence. Now we are both back in our state not seeing each other (three weeks) & we NEVER had any form of discussion. I wimped out because he was so cute, I lost myself & barely shined, was afraid to even insist on condom and floated in lust. He is 6 years younger and it had been three years since I was sexual with anyone. Now I can't tell if I miss him, need closure, therapy...when I call him he lights up like Mr. Happy and said "let's get together this week!" and neither of us called. I'm afraid to tell him anything because I'm most frightened to hear that he didn't like me, so much so that I made that happen in my head & went away. Now this is in my head for too long when he would be open to a conversation- when he suggested that I freaked out & didn't call him another time. I'm new on this site so any tips how to relay messages is welcomed too. Thanks.
  12. HappyGoAway
    Then he went away & I started to like him MORE while he was gone. He called with cute hello's & I had to go to a wedding in the same state so I went to see him. No romance, he treated me like a sex buddy & I went along numb in silence. Now we are both back in our state not seeing each other (three weeks) & we NEVER had any form of discussion. I wimped out because he was so cute, I lost myself & barely shined, was afraid to even insist on condom and floated in lust. He is 6 years younger and it had been three years since I was sexual with anyone. Now I can't tell if I miss him, need closure, therapy...when I call him he lights up like Mr. Happy and said "let's get together this week!" and neither of us called. I'm afraid to tell him anything because I'm most frightened to hear that he didn't like me, so much so that I made that happen in my head & went away. Now this is in my head for too long when he would be open to a conversation- when he suggested that I freaked out & didn't call him another time. I'm new on this site so any tips how to relay messages is welcomed too. Thanks.
  13. HappyGoAway
    Ouch, very eloquent poetry, keep writing!
  14. HappyGoAway
    I'm in need of closure but we never began...isn't it proper to announce the end instead of the slow fade which is obvious?
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