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If you really broke things off, I'm sure glad you came here and posted! Now you must stay away from her.

O.k. Do you guys usually tell each other "I love you"? If not, then that message she sent you was very coy. Maybe something's going on with her right now. It could be anything: family problems, depressed (is she contacting other friends?), maybe she met someone that she likes. Whatever the case, just hang, and keep doing whatever you do daily. Wait for her to call you. If and when she does, nonchalantly ask her what she's been up to. Hopefully you'll be able to take it from there. In my experience, when a girlfriend (girl that is a friend) stops contacting you as much, she's either being more social with her girl friends or she's met another guy.

I mean if your not convinced by now that you should go, then you are being a classic co-dependent. I wish you the best.

With all due respect, I hope this teaches ya to never give your e-mail and password to ANYONE. But ya did. So what can you do? Change your passwords, and tell her that you forgive her and will trust her. What you tell yourself is that you will not tolerate another violation of that trust, because if you do, she will never respect your boundaries.

Whoa. I'm not even going to go into her issues, bro, because that would mean a whole lotta typing, so I'm just going to get to the heart of the matter, meaning what the best thing you can do right now: Leave. And when I say leave, I mean RUN. If you can't now, save some money and get your own place if you don't have anywhere else you can go. Since you're not married, entering any kind of counseling RIGHT NOW wouldn't be a good idea. If you would want to stay with her,and seek counseling, you need to have a place to call your own, a place to retreat to. This woman has some deep seated issues that are going to take a while, but since you're not married you have to ask yourself, is she worth it? What your going through sounds like it could only get worse for both of you.

Sounds like you guys are pretty romantic for having a LDR. To me, making the weekends yours together is romantic enough with all of the distractions in life, and not seeing your lover everyday.

And yes, love relationships need romance. Unless it's a friends with benefits sort of deal.

I think romance is being the best you can be as often as possible whether the one you love is around you or not.

"I do think it is precious to find the love of your life - and it is far more precious to find that love within yourself and honor your dreams and goals, including career-related dreams and goals. Only then can you truly be ready to find the "love of your life." Had I married the first guy who proposed, I wouldn't have pursued this career - or pursued it far later - because he wasn't in favor of it for several reasons. I would have been untrue to myself and no amount of his or our "love' would make up for that." Batya, I agree about honoring our individual dreams and goals. But as humans, with our finite sense of reality, we look to closely at the canvas of our lives, failing to see the big picture. I believe and that if you want something (in this case a career) badly enough, many opportunities to accomplish it will arise. By the what could you be doing that someone you were once with wasn't "in favor of"? CIA?

So my question is: Do you have feelings for her?

Jasrosy, I'm sorry about all of this. What you're going through sounds horrible, but I honestly feel that there is nothing you can do to get this guy back. Even if you could, would you want him back after what he's done to you? I mean really think about that, and ask yourself that question. Are you still married? If so, I would think it time to think about divorce, cut your losses, and focus on keeping yourself healthy for your baby.

I feel that if it were a truly healthy and great love, that you can have your cake and eat it too. What I mean is that you may pursue your love and career goals, but there has to be a plan that both parties are in on and are working towards. I truly believe that one can always pursue a career and reach their professional goals, but one may not always find the love of their life.

You know why that happens to you right? It's because YOU FOCUS ON ONE GIRL AT A TIME! That's why you get like that. What's wrong with spreading the flirtation around? You're single right?

Red Queen nailed it. I used to live in the dorms back in the day. It's not a shoo in, because some ladies can tease. Whatever you do just be careful and make sure you've got a jimmy handy.

Just tell them the next time they call or visit. If they never call or vistit,to contact someone to tell them not to contact you would be sorta weird.